is all a guy wants from a relationship sex? (and therefor he only values sexkittens so to put it)
or does he also appreciate love, romance, respect, ... (and therefor looks for a sweet girl who makes him feel loved, special and on top of the world?)
because i reaaaaaally love my boyfriend but i am afraid to let it show sometimes... i would for example love to tell him how happy he makes me, that i think about him a lot and that he makes me want to be an even better person, but does he want me to say these things? or will he think i'm too emotional/clingy?
ps i know i don't have to overdo that stuff, but i just want to tell him he's sweet and funny, ... so that he knows i really love him.
2007-09-21 00:29:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we've been together before once. we were both 14 back then. naturally that was a different kind of love but he loved it back then when i told him the things i liked about him every now and then.
now it seems like he's waiting for me to say those things again, but is afraid to initiate it.. so am i, i guess...
2007-09-21 00:52:52 · update #1
It depends on the guy, and his maturity level.
-When guys are in their teens and early 20's most just want sex. They'll be involved in a relationship for it, but if sex wasn't a part of the relationship neither would they be.
-When guys near 30 they move out of that mindset and start realizing "I'm almost 30 and still alone." Some still only want sex, but most are looking at things more seriously now.
-Over 30 guys start wanting a wife or serious relationship (companionship) because they're nearing middle-age and are still alone. Sex is good but not their focus anymore.
Back at the end of high school, one of my female friends was also my best friend's girlfriend. She loved him, and trusted him, and lost her virginity to him. Months after they were together my best friend came to me and said "he didn't know what to do. He couldn't stand being around her, and he's only with her for her body at this point." He honestly didn't know what he should do. Needless to say, he was no longer my friend after that situation played out.
My advice would be if your boyfriend makes you feel like you're a huge part of his life and he wouldn't want to be without you, then tell him. Chances are he feels the same way about you.
However, if you're unsure of his intentions at all, don't tell him until those concerns of yours vanish. If he hasn't reached the maturity level where he's not just after sex, he'd either just respond how he thinks you'd want him to, or get freaked out and distance himself.
I apologize for my gender being such a hassle :P
2007-09-21 00:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by CSE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is always a good thing! It's natural and we are made to breed, but if you're not ready, you shouldn't do it. If he doesn't understand that and he tries to ask for it constantly then that's not love, but lust. In my opinion, It really depends on the guy. I don't think telling him he's sweet and funny is too emotional or clingy. Just don't over do it! Just tell him he's sweet and funny and don't add anything else, unless he starts telling you his feelings first, then he will expect you to tell him how you feel.
From experience, too much lovey dubby is wrong! Don't be on his *** all the time. I hate it when girls ask me out or call me everyday, but remember that's just me! Every guy is different, but most of the guys don't want to have a serious relationship too fast and they want girls who's pretty hard to get. Right now, you sound like you'll do anything for him and you won't know what to do if he leaves you. Don't be too desperate! If I was your boyfriend and I read this, I would be soooo turned off! You sound like a great person, but don't show him you're really in love with him until you're for sure he loves you the same way. Hope it helps! Good luck!
2007-09-21 00:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't talk to your boyfriend, then what kind of a relationship do you have? Talking is the very thing that helps to define a relationship.
Not all guys want just sex but a lot do. You should feel comfortable enough to be able to tell your boyfriend how you feel. If he does not like what you say, then he's not worth it.
There's lots of heartache in the world but there's also a lot of love too. Just takes a while to find it.
2007-09-21 00:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by Magdelena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be who you are and don't just stop doing what you do one day when you get secure with him like so many women do. Yes, SEX is at the top of the priority list and will be until he is about 40 so if you are thinking on with holding it from him, he won't stick around. No man will at his age. It is also good to let him know how much you appreciate him. Believe me , he will return the love 10 times more.
2007-09-21 00:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's perfectly understandable telling him all the good things about him but remember not too do it too much. Men/Guy's get kinda freaked out when girls are so into them because they don't no how to react. It scares them in other words. I'm sure your boyfriend loves you and IS your boyfriend because he wants to be with you and you only. Of course he doesn't JUST want sex but that should be available too. Just be careful not to show your love too much. Good luck!
2007-09-21 00:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by Kawaii-Kitty! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
once again it depends on the guy and you should tell him how you feel forsure no one should ever stop you from saying what you want.Im going to try to start a relationship today and what i want is to have our friendship go up another level and to learn more about eachother but its not sex forsure. I guess i feel left out a little not having a girl i can talk to =P.
2007-09-21 00:34:13 · answer #6 · answered by Dann (: 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys want a sweet girl who makes him feel loved and special and respected and who is wild in bed. Most of us don't see why a girl can't be both.
Don't be afraid to express your feelings, but don't be upset if he doesn't seem to share his feelings as openly as you do. Guys are not inclined to express our feeling that way.
It doesn't mean we don't have them, we just don't talk about it.
2007-09-21 02:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by mjmayer188 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and tell him all that you think of him, if he thinks the same, you will have safe, loving,rewarding relationship. The very best to you and your fella,
2007-09-21 00:38:11 · answer #8 · answered by jk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they just want sex and give you a baby so they can leave you with it just like they did to my cousin. i'm so sorry if you didn't know that but there you go you got your answer of the experts of relationships thank you for letting me answer your question and have a nice day
2007-09-21 16:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by stephanie l 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Basically, at least me , I want to things: To be pumer, and to "Get Some" action (I hope that by "Action" you now what I mind...
2007-09-21 00:44:26 · answer #10 · answered by thiny72 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋