Bed time!!!?

Question

Please help!
My daughter is 1½ year old and is still sleeping with me holding my finger!!! enough......... I know its my own fault and its too late but today I've decided to make her sleep alone as it's weekend ahead and no work!
Right now she is in her room and its gone like more then an hour and she still crying! I've been going to her almost every 5 to 10 min and putting her in bed again with her teddy but it seem like its not wokring. Her troat is dry of crying and screaming and she is sleepy but she is not falling asleep..she want me beside her! My God this is hard...please someone help!
Am I doing the right thing? How long can it take? plz plz plz help mothers and fathers!!

Answer 1

I know that it is hard to sit there and listen to your child crying, but you are doing the right thing. Why don't you start out with sitting in a chair beside the bed, then each night moving the chair further and further away from the bed until you are out of the room? This way, she will still see you, but will eventually be able to fall asleep on her on without you in the room all the time. Good Luck and hang in there.

Answer 2

I agree with WPVP07. Do it slowly. She's been with you for a year and a half so it's a big thing for her to be alone all of a sudden. Going in to her every 5 minutes isn't doing any good either as she's still getting your attention but in a negative way. Start off by being with her in her new room until she goes to sleep. Next night do the same but move away a little and so on until you get out the door. You could try reading or telling her a story as she's a big girl now - and thus start a new, enjoyable habit in this new place of hers. Hopefully, she'll eventually just want the story and forget that she's not going to go in your bed afterwards.

Answer 3

This is hard to do, but you need to put her in her bed, walk out of the room, and let her cry. She will cry, but DO NOT go back in the room. She knows if she crys long and hard enough you will come back in. Do not give in , or you will be giving in all your life. When she falls asleep, put her in her bed, but make sure she is sound asleep before going back in. This will take several days for her to get the idea that if mommy says no that mommy really means it. You have to hold true to this in order for her to understand that you are the boss, and you know what is best.

Answer 4

i left my son in with us until he was 1, then when time to move into his own room i had major probs to, you've just got to be strong. i did all what you see on the t.v go in come out for 5 mins, go in come out for 7 mins and so on but would not work,tried edging towards the door but as soon as iwas out the screaming came. i was so tierd and down i was bursting into tears at any give moment. THEN i went to the libary and got books out on all pro's and con's of different methods of sleeping an considering i had tried most one book (if i could remember what it was called i'd tell u) stood out and basically if you know that notthing else is wrong, ie wind hungery ect let em cry it can take any thing from 3 days but no longer than a wk, it work for me but you've got to be soooo strong, an remember you are not harming yor baby in anyway. my boy now who is 17mth goes to bed at 7.30 ( thats also another thing a good bedtime routine) and sleeps through til 6, there are times like teething can cause probs. go to the libary see what you can find. good luck.x

Answer 5

Only go in there if she comes out of the room. Make sure she has a night light that gives off enough light for her. Make sure she has a small cup of water beside her bed to ease her throat. AND whenever you go in there, DO NOT TALK!!! Just calmly put her back in the bed, tuck her in, and walk out. It may take hours, but after two or three nights, I can almost guarantee she'll stop!

GOOD LUCK! Remember: you can outlast her! Just think of how well you survived the labor! HAHA!

Answer 6

Put her in bed and leave her there. She will eventually tire enough from the crying and such and will go to sleep. If you continually go in and check on her every five minutes it's going to be a long night. Don't worry you will probably have to do this a few nights until she realizes that she is not going to be able to sleep in your room. Good luck.

Answer 7

Have a set bedtime routine. So this becomes a promt for her. So here goes, dinner, bath, clean teeth and put into bed.
Say good night and tuck toddler into bed, swith out light (nite light in room ok) and leave the room. Do not go back in for 10 minutes. When you do go back in, do not speak, give eye contact or growl at her at all, just tuck her back into her cot/bed and walk out again. Normal reaction at first for her will be for her to cry even louder. Do not go back in for 10 minutes. Then keep going back in evey 10 minutes till she settles. it can take up to 1.5 hrs the first night for her to settle. persist and the next night should be quicker for her to settle, persist and this will take 3-4 nights to fix completly. Yes it is very hard work, share with your partner if this is all possible.
The other way is to settle her into bed and then just sit in the corner of the room and completly ignore her distress. again your presence in the room till she falls asleep is settling, but she will cry and try and get her own way, after all she is a toddler. Good luck, but persistance is the key. providing her cot is safe, crying will not harm her.

Answer 8

Yes if you want to break this habit you are going to have to be firm and patient. Your going to want to pull your hair out. If there is nothing wrong with her more then just being stubborn then let her cry. Be firm!!! it will be hard but dont give up its going to take time for her to get the hint that this is a new routine.

Answer 9

Don't worry! Stand by your decision!! It will be fine in another 2 days or so. She'll get used to it, and she won't be "scarred for life" since you did that! The independance will be good for her. Great job at going to her every 10 mins, just slowly take longer and longer to go to her. She'll get the hang of it!! Good luck!

Answer 10

Gping every 5 minutes is just getting her what she wants. You need to be firm and say good nite and leave the room. She will stop crying. I think it hurts you more but you need to leave her in there and not go in.