I'm 25 years old and my sister is 15. She is one of my bridesmaids in my wedding but I feel like she's always sbeing left out. With my shower she was basically doing what the others bridesmaids told her because she's not old enough to drive or have a job (for money). Now the bachelorette party is planned and she can't go to that either becuase of her age. So what can I do to let her know I'm happy she is in my wedding and I wish she could be involved in everything?
2007-09-20 23:47:56 · 18 answers · asked by alayna5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
WHy don't you take her with you when making some decisions that don't involve the groom... like your shoes, what kind of hairstyle or makeup. (Maybe have her go with you when you get a trial) And make her feel like her opinion really counts. I'm sure she will ble very excited to be involved! And you can go to lunch and get your nails done or have a makeup trial.
2007-09-21 01:33:00 · answer #1 · answered by LoLo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Bill. MAJOR kudos to you, darlin'! That's soooo sweet that you're putting your little sister before yourself! I worry about how my younger brother will feel when I get married because I want him to be a junior groomsman and he and I are 10 years apart in age as well.
When you and your bridesmaids start talking about the bachelorette party, bring up the fact that you want Little Sister involved. Perhaps you could all go to a nice restaurant together before you and the "of age" girls hit the bars and give her a special gift before you all go to make her feel extra special. You could even take her for a special Sister Day at the spa as a way of saying "Thank You" for being involved in the wedding. I like what other people have suggested as well that someone toast her at the wedding.
Good luck!
2007-09-21 03:55:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a terrific sister for thinking of your younger sis - all too many brides are so self-centered to care about anyone but themselves - just read a few posts from countless "bride-zillas" whining about "my special day!" and you'll see what I mean.
It's hard when you're not old enough to drive and participate in all the activities.
Does your hen night really HAVE to involve alcohol and going to bars? Maybe you can at least have her attend dinner and then retire...
How about hosting a "tea" maybe a week before the wedding - an event she can attend.
Also, if there's a reading, hymn, etc. that she can do for the ceremony - that's nice too.
At the reception - it's customary for the Best Man to toast the couple. Well, maybe it's not quite "tradition" but she could offer a special toast to you and your husband.
And include her in one of the "big dances" - where you dance with the groom's father and your groom dances with your mother - he can also dance with her too.
2007-09-21 01:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 14:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by gustavo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat her like she's the most important bridesmaid. Have her at the front of the others when you walk up the aisle, and maybe give her a slightly bigger bouquet to carry. If you make a speech at the reception, be sure to give her a special mention - tell her how pleased and proud you were that she was there. Most of all, just talk to her. Tell her exactly how you feel, just like you did here.
If your other bridesmaids are older, and true friends, they'll understand why you want this.
2007-09-20 23:54:04 · answer #5 · answered by H.L. Berry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her out yourself and tell her. When you get your gifts for your bridesmaids...make hers a little more special. She is your sister and I am sure that she is happy for you. She might feel a little left out, but you could always ask her to make a toast at the wedding. If she is comfortable doing that. You know the younger sis wishing the older one well. It is your day and hopefully someone else explained that to her. She will get her turn:)
2007-09-20 23:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by Shawn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of having a bachelorette party at a bar/strip club why don't you do something different that can include her. You are the bride and can pull rank with the other girls and say we have to do something that can involve my sister or I don't want to do it. A nice dinner out with all of the girls and maybe a good old fashioned slumber party? A day at the spa? Go see a show and dinner? There are lots of things you can do to include her.
2007-09-22 07:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by JM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. How nice of you to think of your sister.
I agree with the others who posted. Take her out to lunch and tell her how happy you are that she is in the wedding. Maybe the two of you have some pampering - nails, facial.
Is there anything you have NOT decided on yet? If there is even one small thing you haven't decided on yet, why not ask her what she thinks and use her idea.
I would have her walk down the aisle FIRST -- telling her that she is #1 in your heart. Maybe do something special with her bouquet - nothing usual, but perhaps something little....a ribbon that says "sister" tied in somewhere or something little like that.
2007-09-21 04:20:46 · answer #8 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you ask the other bride's maids if they would mind doing a dinner or something (even at someone's house to keep the costs down) so your sister could at least attend part of it?
You could take her out to a sisters-only day at the spa. Have lunch in a little cafe or something and then go to the spa and have facials, manicures, etc. Maybe give her a card that says how much she means to you, etc, and a little gift - maybe something like a very simple necklace.
2007-09-21 00:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we had an underage bridesmaid too. what we did was before the actually night out we had a little get together at my maid of honors house since we werent going out until close to ten. then we all went for a massage the next day
2007-09-21 16:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by scarry good 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋