i have had this friend named ashley for thirteen years. but she moved almost 2 hours away and i haven't talked to her in about 6 years. we used to be best of friends then we stoped talking because of the distance. well, i'm getting married next year and i really want 3 bridesmaids. i only have two so far and i can only think of ashley for my third one. she's the only other one i would want up there.
although, she just recently had her wedding and didn't say anything to me (even though, we don't have a way of getting ahold of eachother. our numbers changed)
is it a stupid idea for wanting her as one of the bridesmaids even though we haven't talked in so long? and if it's not, how would i go about by asking her? it would totaly be outta no where if i did! please help! thanks!
2007-09-20 22:36:41 · 16 answers · asked by bethany_osu 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Maybe she hadnt invited you cause she thought as you do now, that it's been too long. But I believe you should call her, tell her you don't like it that you've lost contact and remind some good times you had, tell her you want her as your bridesmaid. I think she'll appreciate it and try to stay in touch. Besides, nothing bad can come out of it, right?
2007-09-20 22:47:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is very stupid! You aren't friends with her anymore. Why would you want her in it. . . .just so you can have 3 people?!?!? Not to mention that why would she want to be burdened with the expense of being a bridesmaid for someone who wasn't even invited to her own wedding? 6 years is a long time. Move on and just have 2. You don't need the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen.
2007-09-21 02:58:42 · answer #2 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't think it's stupid at all... i had a best friend move like 3 1/2 hours away about 4 years ago and we stayed friends for a while but drifted because of the long distance. just recently we started to talk again and are going to make the distance work this time! you can't find many good friends so you have to keep all of them whatever the distance. i might consider having her in my wedding! good luck and congrats :]
2007-09-20 22:54:42 · answer #3 · answered by lottie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I were her, I'd be less than thrilled at the invite...you can't call me in 6 years, then show up out of the blue and ask me to be in your wedding? She just got married and didn't even invite you to attend, and you're thinking of asking her to be a BM? I think she probably thinks you were friends as kids, but have moved on when she moved away, and that's it.
That aside, if you want to rekindle your friendship with her, why not give her a call and try to catch up on old times?
2007-09-21 01:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it is stupid to ask. My MOH did not have me in her wedding. We were childhood, lifetime friends and I could not picture anyone but her being in the wedding. Same for my fiance's best man. He has not seen him in over 10 years and have only spoken periodically. But his BM was thrilled to do it. Distance can cause a strain on a friendship, but does not tear it apart. Ask her, I am sure she will be honored. Good luck!
2007-09-20 22:42:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She'll probably be honored to do it, and if you ask her and want her there, then do it. Don't just do it because you want a certain number though. It should be people who mean something, not just for appearance. Make more of an effort to keep in touch! 2 hours isn't too far, and with technology, like email, text, etc you could at least chat occasionally!
2007-09-21 01:54:02 · answer #6 · answered by ShouldBeWorking 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
But you just said your numbers changed and you would have no way of getting a hold of her, so I don't really know how you would ask... How do you know she just got married? If a friend told you, then wouldn't she have been able to contact you through them?
It doesn't really sound to me like you're friends any more. Ask someone else.
2007-09-21 00:39:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you really want her to stand for you, just call her and tell her that when you had to choose bridesmaids her name immediately came to mind, because you think of her often. Tell her that you really have missed her, and would love to have her there for your wedding. Don't mention anything about her not contacting you.
2007-09-20 22:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No it is really sweet. If that is what you want get hold of her and explain to her what you have just said here.
She was important in your life and that is all that matters.
If she does not want to then at least you have tried.
Don't end up thinking after the wedding I should have contacted her. Life is to short for that sort of thing
After all you have no, you can get yes
2007-09-20 23:01:42 · answer #9 · answered by MissE 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think what u should do is find her and talk to her a few times without asking her to see if shes the same person u remember her to be. then if she seems to feel the same about u and being ur friend no matter how much time has passed, i would think to go for it. i dont think it should matter if she asked u to be in her wedding or not. maybe she was asking herself the same thing about u. so go for it and try to find her and see how it goes. good luck!
2007-09-20 22:42:38 · answer #10 · answered by shutupndrive 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋