Im a mommy of two young boys who are 9 months and almost three years old. Im just curious to know what age most people consider to be inappropriate for a mommy to be naked in front of her sons or for a daddy to be naked in front of his daughters. Most mommies I know tell me that the cut off point is when kids start asking questions about physical gender differences. What do you think and why. No immature answers please.
2007-09-20 21:04:20 · 22 answers · asked by Julia R 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have two daughters and from an early age, they said they did not want to see either of their parents naked. I think if they're old enough to notice things like that, it's better not to be naked around them. These girls are now teenagers and are extremely modest.
2007-09-20 21:42:11 · answer #1 · answered by RoVale 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe there is an age when this has to stop. My family is a nudist family. Do our kids ask questions? Sure. Who do you want to educate your children - parents who will do so in a loving and age-appropriate manner, or peers who will spread all kinds of half-truths and locker-room science?
Children can tell the difference between males and females at a young age, even if the people are dressed! Why then is "recognizing differences" such a big deal? The removal of clothing does reveal some additional body parts, but since men and women are different anyway, it is a good time to begin the educational process. Treat it as a normal, natural thing. When they ask, "what's that?", give them the answer. There's often no need to go into all the details about sexuality - often a simple answer to their question is sufficient.
Children who grow up in this type of environment don't have the stresses of "show me yours, I'll show you mine" later in life. They already know the basic plumbing of each gender.
Good luck, and congrats on your kids!
2007-09-24 12:32:17 · answer #2 · answered by Dave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it all depends on where you live and the level of nudity you are comfortable with.
so Americans seem to be VERY prudish so their general answer is about 2 (from all other times this has been asked)
Swedish are happy to be naked no matter what the age. I have an Australian friend who married a Swedish guy . his parents walk naked around her. If you go to the baths it is expected you be naked, if you cover up they want to know why you think you are better than them. So nudity is the norm there.
I am Australian and my girl and boy are 8. We all are quite happy to walk naked in front of each other. The time to stop is when your son stops looking you in the eye or is embarrassed to see you naked. Every family is different but as this site seems to be predominantly Americans my guess every one will tell you a very young age. Nudity is natural and nothing to be ashamed of. Maybe this is what has lead to such a high pregnancy rate in young people in America, it is all hidden so much from them from a VERY young age they get curious. Makes you think
2007-09-20 22:36:49 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's inappropriate if either party is uncomfortable with it. But, for goodness sake, if it's dad in the bath or mum putting her bra on, what's the big deal? The opposite gender has different bits. I really don't see why there's this desperate desire to hide this fact from kids - all you do is make seeing the other sex naked forbidden and desirable - and a child who's only just started asking about gender differences is WAY too young to be encouraged to feel like that.
I mean, I think it's entirely appropriate to teach kids that if you want to be private you shut doors, you knock on other people's doors etc. I simply don't see why the adult being a different sex to them has anything to do with it.
2007-09-21 01:59:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My friend has 2 boys and she is a single mom. The boys are 8 and 4 and she is nude around them sometimes. Her boys konw that mommy has a vagina and breasts and they dont. They have asked her about her body and she has explained to them the differences. The boys are doing very well in school and are nice kids. So I think people need to chill out, it is no big deal. She is not a prev and neither are her kids. Why is everyone so uptight?
2007-09-21 16:24:22 · answer #5 · answered by Betty R 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tricky question, many different answers.
I think that its ok to be seen nude by your kids if its in context with day to day activities, like having a bath or getting dressed until they are 4 or 5.
If you are doing something weird like dancing round the kitchen nude then probably never - for the kids sake, but you'll know when your boys start seeing it as rude then its time to stop.
Nudity is not a bad thing, nor should we teach kids to be ashamed of nakedness but privacy is an issue that needs to be discussed,
Teach your kids that its polite to knock for the sake of others. I'm guessing Granny would get a shock if they popped in on her in the shower.
2007-09-20 22:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by akdawswon 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I kind of agree with Steven D. Look at some of the other cultures of the world that commonly don't wear tops, you don't see their children scarred because they've seen their mothers breasts. If you make a big deal out of nudity then you run the risk of causing your child to have hang ups as they get older. While I don't lounge around my daughters without clothes on, my husband and I have never been ones to close doors when we change clothes or shower and if I need a shirt from the dryer, I will walk from one room to the other in my bra. Until my children do or say something inappropriate or until they make an issue of it, I am not going to because I don't feel it should be an issue. God made our bodies and while everyone is different and unique, I don't feel that your body is something to be ashamed of.
2007-09-20 21:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 0⤋
What a bunch of prudes answering this question. Don't make a big deal about nudity and your children and they will grow up with a lot fewer hang-ups than the average American. What's the cut-off age? If they do something inappropriate, or if they tell you they don't want to see you nude anymore. That's when to stop. Other than that--who cares?
2007-09-20 21:13:46 · answer #8 · answered by Steve-O 5 · 12⤊ 0⤋
4 or 5...
Nudity isn't always sexual and it isn't something to be hidden. But for the sake of keeping CPS out of it my husband locks the doors when he takes showers ect, b/c our daughter has a bad habit of opening the doors whenever she feels like it.
Probably my fault lol b/c I was single mom for a while and I jsut let her come and go in the bathroom and bedrooms as she pleased (no guys stayed the night or anything).
2007-09-21 01:29:34 · answer #9 · answered by his wife 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To the people saying never, sometimes it happens.....people bathe with their young children in the bathtub because it can be safer and sometimes kids open doors before knocking. I do agree with the people that say, "when they start asking questions". My two are both boys 7 and 3 and they both get a kick out of talking about privates, so it's be a long time since either of them have seen me. I do think it's natural to wonder and I don't want them to be ashamed of their bodies, but it is important to know that bodies are our own and that we need to keep them to ourselves.
2007-09-20 21:13:35 · answer #10 · answered by Chickenfarmer 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋