My sis in law *maggy* was married in Germany 4 years ago. She moved back to the states right after and now wants to do a *wedding* for all the family here that missed out on her real wedding. Her wedding renewal was supposed to be 6 months ago..but a car accident that left her mom paralized put the wedding renewal off right now and she said maybe next year. Please read my other question to read on the accident!!! Almost a year ago Maggy asked me and another sis in law to be her brides maids. The fact that she even asked me, I thought she was trying to be friends so I said yess but then the accident happened and I saw who she really was. While Maggy was away in Germany years ago I did all the planning for holidays and birthdays. I did not know at the time that maggy was the one who did this. I plan 1 month ahead of time but Maggy planned 1 week ahead of time never giving the family notice. The family said now they prefer that I do things for planning instead of maggy. I never ment to take over her place. Ive tried to work things out with her and include her in plans but she will either dissagree with ALL my ideas and not work with me or she just starts fights. When Maggy was a kid she did a suicide atempt, was commited in a crazy house over the weekend and is now curently on tons of meddication. Shes the type of person that if you tell her that she tooks like she is pale, she will may have cancer, she will rush to the doc office and demand medication even when shes fine. She likes ppl to feel sorry for her.
2007-09-20 20:50:44 · 6 answers · asked by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The thing is...now the accident is over and the family is trying to pick up the pieces and get back to normal. A month after tha car accident happened and we got in a big fight, I wrote her a formal letter saying I would be stepping down from being her bridesmaid and ive stopped all contact with her. I honestly did not want to get in a fight with her right before her wedding renewal. I bought a $200 dress that I can no longer take back but I still decieded to step down. Please go back and read my other question about the accident and you will understand more on why I stepped down from the wedding.
2007-09-20 20:50:53 · update #1
Please go back and read my other question about the accident and you will understand more on why I stepped down from the wedding. ing or stand by my stepping down. She still wants me to be in the wedding, even though she said that she thinks im there to cause trouble. By me stepping down, there is no way she can blame anything on me if something happens during the wedding. Its almost like she wants me to cause trouble so she can point her finger at me. I just dont feel ok with being in the wedding
2007-09-20 20:52:22 · update #2
Why do you think she asked me to be in the wedding if she thinks I will ruin it anyways? I did not get along with her that well before the accident but now after the accident, the things she has done helped me make my mind up in stepping down. BTW I am married to her younger brother and we have 2 kids. She has only 1 baby and is now not able to have kids becuase of complications during her csection. Give me your honest thoughts on what I should do. No need to be rude but I will listen to waht everyone has to say
2007-09-20 20:52:37 · update #3
ur an idiot lol oh yeah..its so freekin hard to read a few more paragraphs...I just wanted advice
2007-09-20 22:00:33 · update #4
you must have issues with a sister becuase you just attacked me & did not even answer the question at all. I wanted to show you the type of person that she is & by doing that I had to tell you about her. No one else knoes that I stepped out of the wedding except her & her husband. She wants me back in but I dont thnk so. Weddings are sacred & if we cant get along why pretend that we like each other. My husband & I both decieded to not go to the wedding at all, its not just me that has problems with her. Her anxioty as you say yes is all an act even her husband says it is & insists she go to therapy. I was hoping that maybe if you know the type of person she is & what pains she has had to deal with in her life...just maybe someone would give me an answer on why she is like this & if it has anything to really do with me or if she just needs someone to hate. At the moment her parents have not talked to her in 3 weeks becuase of the problems she caused & other sis in law wants 2 step out
2007-09-20 22:35:44 · update #5
It was right of you to step down. Stand your ground and don't give in.
She sounds very childish.
2007-09-21 03:32:43 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She more than likely asked you to be in the wedding, along with your other SIL because she has no other friends if she is this much of a drama queen. If you or both of you step out then it's going to prove that she has no one and she can't deal with that. In her eyes family has to like her, even if they don't.
I am not going to get in to all the other problems that you mention, they are too many to even attempt. All I can say is you need to either find a way to get along with her or stay away completely. Be careful of fall out either way.
Good Luck
2007-09-21 00:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by Cory C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she's jealous of you and how well you fit in to her family. She needs to grow up and instead of resenting everything you do she should be thankful her brother found you to be in his life as well as their lives. Not being in the wedding is a tough one if she's going to be a baby about it, one way to think about it is you could just do it cause it's not technically her first one anyway. Besides if she really wanted everybody there for the first one she would have waited till they were home to do it.
2007-09-21 05:25:53 · answer #3 · answered by lambertj68 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You seem like a very cruel person in the ways that you describe your sister in law. It also sounds to me like you enjoy her misery and the drama. In fact, it sounds to me like if you step out of the wedding, you'll be causing drama and if you don't you'll be causing even more drama. There is absolutely no way that you are innocent in this.
She probably just wants you in the wedding because it's better than having to worry about the drama and rumors your going to be spreading about how you stepped out of the wedding party.
Meantioning that her C-section had complications, that she attempted suicide and that she has health related anxiety (which you claim is for attention) only shows what kind of a nasty person you are as none of these things relate to your story. Grow up before this ugly personality rubs off on your children.
2007-09-20 22:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋
It is all so very simple!! Trust your instincts, if you do not feel like you should be a part of this wedding, just don't do it!
2007-09-20 21:06:45 · answer #5 · answered by wheezie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you go on and on endlessly and then want me to go and look at something else to answer this question . NO. u want to much
2007-09-20 21:57:16 · answer #6 · answered by Nora 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋