I'm sure I've been depressed for the last years.. I believe about 6.. I'm 18.. That would make it freshman year in high school. I have a job where I'm an afterschool teacher..and I love it.. I love those kids.. I do my best.. I do well in school.. And I have a great boyfriend.. Family life isn't very good.. It gets overwhelming..Used to handle it better but not anymore.. Yesterday and earlier today.. I felt like I gave up..emotionally.. Wanted desperately someone to talk to..felt like I had suicidal thoughts.. except I really don't think I would ever do that..But I felt very tired.. emotionally and physically.. I want to tell my boyfriend.. He's my family.. The only one who will stand up for me and be strong for me.. he has.. but I dont know how..I need help.. how do i tell him.. how do i cope.. I dont want to feel like this.. it's a cycle.. I can be very happy then the next days.. feel horrible.. I think it's better..and it goes back to being the same way..
2007-09-20 20:21:37 · 11 answers · asked by Sma 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
i am the same way. i dont have suicidal thoughts, i just get really depressed, for lack of a better word... im 18, my freshman year of college, and im pretty sure im depressed. i have a girlfriend but things are complicated. the depression came before her though. however, due to these sudden complications, the depression seems to be growing worse for me. we hardly see each other or talk anymore. i have no idea why. if i were in your shoes, i would tell him. there is no point in holding back what you feel should be said. time for me to take my own advice.
2007-09-20 20:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by R-Diz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as though you may be a bit bipolar. The ups and downs sound very much like me when I was younger. I am not a doctor though and therefore I cannot diagnose you. Even if I were a doctor I wouldn't even try without seeing you. My suggestion is to find a community mental health clinic and make an appointment. If you like, ask your boyfriend to go with you or, after seeing your doctor ask him to sit in on some of your sessions. This is nothing to be ashamed of. Though you didn't go into detail I think your difficulties at home have a great deal to do with your feelings. I can certainly identify with you on that. I think you will find help and I think you have a tremendous advantage with your boyfriend. You sound like a lovely girl with a wonderful future. I think you have a good heart and a giving nature. Now it's time to give to yourself. I would be happy to talk to you anytime you wanted to. Just send me a message and I will reply.
I wish you the best
God bless
fishergirl
2007-09-21 04:41:16 · answer #2 · answered by fishergirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depression is one of the hardest things in life that you will have to cope with,but there are so many ways to deal with it .Dont be afraid of this problem there isn't the phobia that they had in the old days and yes meds can help, I myself have Bipolar and talk about it in the open all the time,if people know then they can try to understand not push you to the side and say she's a loony I have being through the hardest times even attempted an overdose but at the time i was unwell. Not any more i went to my doctor and after following his instructions and yes it took a while i am happly back at work I still have my loving partner and loving life so please please please get the help you deserve you are a wonderful young woman and you can have a wonderful future even with depression (love every moment that is given to you)
2007-09-21 05:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by gertrude666 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you put your finger on the problem with the statement "homelife aint too good". We can only deal with negative things alone for so long. If you wrote down the bad things that have bothered you since 6 yrs, old, you may be shocked youve done this well. If home isn't healthy you need to ask for help at work, a clinic, Dr. but ASK!!! Your boyfriend can support you, but unless he's a Counselor he can't do much more than be there for you, which is a lot, yeah? Stop suffering and please get help! Luckto Ya LUV!
2007-09-21 03:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could give you a dose of armchair psychology, but you really need to see a real therapist, who should be able to help you to help yourself feel better. As for telling your boyfriend, it sounds like this guy is going to be there for you, and if he is to be happy, he will need you to be happy with yourself, so i think you should tell him what's up and let him weigh in on the matter. Anytime i am feeling a bit stressed, i go outside somewhere and basically commune with nature and i am not talking about some flower child stuff, i just watch the leaves in the breeze, or watch a squirrel bouncing around doing his thing, and in no time i am feeling better.
2007-09-21 03:33:55 · answer #5 · answered by dukefritz79 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is the only other adult you feel comfortable talking with, then by all means tell him how you're feeling. If you're not being treated for your depression, perhaps your bf will go with you while you are evaluated by a health care professional. You could tell your bf that you're having a difficult time dealing with your family and your feelings right now, and need to talk. Suicidal thoughts are nothing to fool around with. Take them seriously, and talk with him about them. If you're uncomfortable telling him, find a minister or school counselor or nurse to talk with. Even calling a hot line may help. Try 1-800-784-2433. Please.
2007-09-21 03:32:52 · answer #6 · answered by NMFlamingo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. If he loves you, he will be there for you. You also need to see a doctor to get checked out, you may have a physical problem. If you work at a school, there's probably someone trained in psychology for the kids: talk to that person confidentially and ask for a referral to someone who can help. You can say it's for a friend.
2007-09-21 03:29:56 · answer #7 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a fair bit you can do.youre not alone.you can:
call a help line
write a letter or talk over the phone if you dont want to talk face to face
see a doctor or counciler
if you have um...suicidal thoughts dont stay alone and get help
remember all the people who love and care about you.they need you.
2007-09-21 03:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write it to him in a letter if you are afraid of face to face. You really need to get it out.
Secondly, call a crisis line and ask where you can get ongoing help and support. They should be able to refer you.
If you feel like you might really do it, please call 911... that is what we're here for.
2007-09-21 03:27:31 · answer #9 · answered by Paramedic Girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make an appointment to see a counselor or therapist. Take your boyfriend with you.
2007-09-21 03:43:43 · answer #10 · answered by Rosee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋