Today as I was bringing our dog (male puppy -- cocker spaniel mix) in from outside, he got loose and urinated on my wife's new carpet. I screamed "no" but it was too late. I grabbed him and threw him in his kennel. About 15 minutes later he started yelping. I put a bark collar on, but that didn't fully work. He kept yelping. We live in an apartment. When we're walking outside and he sees other dogs, he starts barking loudly and going wild. He acts like he wants to attack these other dogs (some much larger than he is). My wife says I shouldn't hurt him--he doesn't know any better. But it's very embarrassing! The thing won't behave. I swear sometimes I want to thrust a knife into its skin and seriously HARM this animal! [Am I not cut out to be around dogs?] My wife would freak out if I asked her give the dog away--she loves him--so I'm kind of stuck. Any advice ?
2007-09-20 20:19:24 · 20 answers · asked by zgraf 4 in Pets ➔ Dogs
I think you and your dog need to go to doggy training classes...Its a good way to learn how to treat your dog and it helps you to be a better dog owner...They are fun classes to if you find the right trainer...
2007-09-20 20:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You have to remember that this dog is a puppy. He doesn't know any better until you teach him. Every time that he pees on the carpet scold him, and take him outside immediately. Since you live in an apartment I would recommend putting him on a retractable leash when you take him outside. In my opinion he probably just wants to play with the other dogs. I wouldn't use a bark collar on him, he is a puppy and they are supposed to yelp. Just like babies cry. It is a phase and he will out grow it. If there is any obedience training in your area, try it and see if it helps. In the mean time take a deep breath and remind yourself that he needs you to teach him. I know how frustrating it can be. I have male cocker that is a puppy too. Play with him a lot and make sure that he has plenty of chew toys. A great toy for dogs I have found is a laser light. Shine it on the floor and they go wild chasing it!! It is a great way to tire them out yet still be indoors. Good luck:)
2007-09-22 16:29:42 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dog is the same way....mine actually will jump up to the window sill when he hears something outside and sit there and bark...and I to live in an apartment..lol
You just seem like you don't have enough patience for a puppy....I didn't think I did either because I had my days to with mine where I just wanted to open the door and throw him out. But just always remember that the puppy did not ask to be yours....YOU brought the puppy into your life. So now you are responsible for it. My puppy is almost a year now and is completely house-trained, Knows what is right and wrong, he still barks at everything..but I've gotten used to it, and realize that he is a dog, he is gonna bark, and there isnt much you can do about a dog barking.....It's like telling a human being or teaching a human being not to talk, ever. It's not possible. Just remember when you have your "I just want to kill my dog" moments...that you brought them to you, they didn't ask to come to you, and that you love them and you need to be patient and understanding with them. Things will eventually get better. Trust me...I have been through it all with my puppy.
Good Luck.....and don't hit your dog, that will only make them scared of you.
2007-09-21 04:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by stuckinyourheart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Training issue. You learn first then train the dog. You obviously don't understand dog behavior and the dog doesn't understand what you expect from it. If this is a true concern and you feel your wife wants both of you in her life then, I recommend you research, take a course and bond with the dog. Education of the "Whys, whens and what for's" of a dog should help you both greatly. Not to say the least save any future pets or children. I have nothing against bark collars, I use them myself. I even give my dogs a good whack when needed (one is over 200 pounds) but, you are freaking out and that is never good. Learn and the dog will learn along with you. Good Luck.
2007-09-21 05:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
NO!!!! You are not Cut out to be around Dogs or Children. This makes me very Angry!
First Off, he is a Puppy and knows no Better. You should be patient with Him.... Secondly, if you threw him in to his Crate and then he began Yelping. You have injured him..... Shame on you.
His Crate should be a safe place for him, not a source of Punisment. Never throw, kick, stab or do any type of Harm just because you are embarrassed.
There are Laws that Protect Dogs and all pets from abusive People such as yourself. Let your wife handle the puppy.
If I were her, you would be gone, because I would not be able to trust you around a Child either. If you freak out over a puppy, what will you do to a child? A Baby is a Baby know matter what species it is.
2007-09-21 03:35:54 · answer #5 · answered by fourpawsg 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
First of all, puppies have accidents.
Second of all, puppies yelp.
Third of all, puppies act like complete retards sometimes.
You shouldn't EVER throw your puppy anywhere, and you shouldn't be using a bark collar on one so young either. Dogs are annoying sometimes, and they take a while to toilet train. The accident was YOUR fault. YOU need to take the puppy out every hour or so and let him go. You CAN NOT expect a puppy to hold it, he is a baby.
Second, if you are going to crate train, accept the fact that he is going to raise all hell for a while, he will get over it eventually, it takes time.
Third, your dog acts mental around other dogs because he is not well socialized. You should not be embarrassed, but you should take the time to introduce him to other dogs in a controlled and friendly environment. Socialization is ESSENTIAL. Going out should be a fun adventure, but YOU have to make it so. Take the time to work with your puppy and train him well and you will reap the rewards.
Having said that, there will still be times you want to hurt him, get over it, and control yourself like the adult you are supposed to be.
2007-09-21 04:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by Alex T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Big, tough man abusing an animal.
If you haven't got the basic human abilities of self control and comprehension you shouldn't be around people let along owning an animal.
Read up about animal behaviour, they aren't people. They don't understand embarrassment and other needless human emotions.
My advice to you is give the animal to a rescue centre that's non euthanasia based, you don't deserve him. Then book yourself in for some therapy or move well away from other living, sentient beings. You aren't to be trusted.
2007-09-21 09:47:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I want you to know that I respect you for asking. At least you have the desire to get a handle on this.
Did you know that the same people who abuse dogs will likely abuse their children?
Its a fact. So, you need to get that anger under control.
the WORST thing to do when your dog piddled was to scold and put in crate.
Peeing when coming indoors is a symptom of insecurity. In your dog's mind, he knows YOU won't eat him. However, if he pees outside, when he smells other dogs there, those dogs MIGHT follow his scent home and eat him!
It is a matter of self preservation, and not in any way obstinance.
The matter of his being aggressive with other dogs is also the same problem. *Insecurity*..He is blustering and bluffing, to keep them away from him, as he doesn't know how to deal with them. Most dogs with such insecurities are taken from their mothers and litter-mates before they are ready.
So, my suggestion, if you really want to make this work, is to get a recently written book on dog training, or dog Psychology,
Once you understand what behaviors mean, it will make a big difference in how you feel about them, and how to cope with them, and how to 'fix' them. ..Then the dog won't be your enemy...or your victim
If you would like more direct help, feel free to email me about individual behavioral issues.
Cockers have a very fragile psyche, and turn into *fear* biters all too often..
2007-09-21 03:35:07 · answer #8 · answered by Chetco 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Almost everyone has suggested training and personally I don't think you have the capacity to patiently work with and train a pup. You refer to the pup as "it" and call him "the thing", you don't like him and are angry. While I don't condone throwing animals away seriously think about rehoming him. I wouldn't want an animal in my house if I had to tell my husband not to hurt him - YIKES.
2007-09-21 08:02:53 · answer #9 · answered by Little Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the bark collars are inhumane and don't work ask any trainer I did , they shock the dog, gow large is the crate? they should only be able to turn around and lay down comfortable , try taking the time to train him if not take him to a trainer, just tell your wife if she wants to keep him have him trained so this stops , if you or her won't take the time to go to training classes or train him yourselves the neither one of you should keep a dog you don't have time to train it's not fair to your marriage or the dog.
2007-09-21 04:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by lisadolenz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with whoever said anger management. I mean if you are this bad with a dog, think about life with little kids. Would you treat a child that way? If you have anger issues like that, then you probably would. Not good, not good at all. Anger management classes are definately a good idea. good luck
2007-09-21 03:36:56 · answer #11 · answered by The Sh*t 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋