ok so im a virgin and my bf is also a virgin. i want to have sex with him. we have been dating for about 2 months now. i asked him if he would ever have sex with me and he said yes, and i tld him i wanted to have sex with him, but since then we havent talked about it at all. i really want to have sex with him. what can i do to get him to have sex with me. its kinda akward to just say outright "lets have sex right now". has anyone else had this problem? if so what did u do? or does anyone just have some advice on how i can make bigger hints without actuallly having to say something. any advice would be appreciated. thx. and btw i am 18 and he is 19.
2007-09-20 19:44:10 · 22 answers · asked by blah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no i am not going to get him drunk, we are both very against drinking.
yes i know i am ready and he did already say he would have sex with me as i said before. i am only his secons serious girlfriend, this would be why he is still a virgin. i want to have sex because i think it will bring us closer together. also i dont want to wait till i get married. i leave for BMt in Jan and dont want to be a virgin when that time comes. i have thought long and hard and know that this is waht i want and i want it with him. so stop telling me to get him drunk and asking me if im really ready, i already answered this.
2007-09-20 20:09:09 · update #1
put drugs in his drink and rape him
2007-09-20 19:47:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yikes! Are you wanting sex for sex's sake? Cuz they make things for that ya know!
Why are you virgins in the first place? Do you or your bf have social, or faith based reasons for staying celibate until now?
If you want to know details there are more books than you can count (or even check out from the library depending on your branches limit) on fore-play all the way over to some seriously weird floor play! LOL.
You might well be cautious!!!!!!!. When men are this timid about having that first go at a red hot cherry it's generally for a good reason! Find out what that reason is. Apart from the earlier person's idiotic response you really can't make anyone do anything they don't want. If he says no with either his voice OR HIS BODY LANGUAGE, you best listen chick!
2007-09-20 19:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by lizzil32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're both adults, then set up a romantic dinner and have a hotel room already checked-in nearby.
Have your romantic dinner and talk about sex. Specifically your interests and what you think it'll be like. If you both want to have sex, then take him to the hotel room and go from there! You'll figure it out on your own once your in the room.
If for some reason it isn't going to happen that night, like he says he wants to wait until he's married and some other reason, then when the date is over go to the room yourself and have a nice hot bath, and enjoy the night in a nice hotel room! It doesn't have to be a super expensive hotel, just clean and decent.
Also, when you check in, go to the room and pre-position a box of condoms, a couple bottles of water and anything else you think will make the night special.
Good Luck!
2007-09-20 19:54:19 · answer #3 · answered by Greenman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two months is not long enough to know someone before having sex. You should learn more about each other, and talk about protection, so that you do not end up bringing a child into this world before you are ready. Your first time togethr should be specil. it should not be about just sex, but lovemaking. It willbe a day that you remember for the rest of your life. Don't you want the memories to be good, or would you rather be regretting that it happened later?
2007-09-20 19:52:12 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a Huge step! Have you planned precautions? Are you doing it out of feeling or do you just want the experience?Are the 2 of u planning for the future?
Are you sure you want to share this most intimate gift with this particular person?
If you do decide to follow through, be patient, communicate, and maybe read up on a few how to books. Luck!
2007-09-20 19:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what i do.. get him drunk and just do it! lol no j/k losing you virginity is a big deal. Think long and hard about what you want... don't think long and hard is what you want but then again...hmm.... no back to the subject... Maybe your guy doesn't' feel that 2 months is enough to get him to want to lose his v-card. You guys have waited this long why not wait a little longer before thinking about jumping his bones, not *****.. perves...anyways i hope this helps
2007-09-20 19:54:10 · answer #6 · answered by Ladybug355 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call me conservative or whatever, but my advice is for you to avoid doing it with your boyfriend. OMG, you are only 18 and he's 19, why are you in such a hurry? Believe me, your husband-to-be would be the happiest person to have a "virgin" for his wife. Another thing, are you ready to suffer the consequences of such acts?
2007-09-20 19:54:24 · answer #7 · answered by private "y" 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all don't pressure him into it. Guys get scared sometimes as much as we do when it comes to sex. Maybe your bf isn't ready and when he is you'll know. Just cause your ready doesn't mean he is. When it's time it'll happen. Try bringing the conversation up, maybe he is scared and wants to know if your ready. Maybe he thinks your not ready and because of the he doesn't want to pressure you.
2007-09-20 19:50:19 · answer #8 · answered by silver_night_sky6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, for a not so subtle hint, start putting your hand down between his legs. Look him in the eye so he knows its not an accident. The rest should play out on its own without you having to say a word.
2007-09-20 19:48:34 · answer #9 · answered by Xeno 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, I'm preeetty sure I don't ythink it's has anything with you, there's some guy out there that actually willing to wait, you have to look it at the bright side to it, he's respect you and your choices if he doesn't make a move sooner , then why don't you hit me bak up I'll be happy to have sex with you
2007-09-20 20:15:12 · answer #10 · answered by paoddow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your clothes off and lay on top of him, presto you'll be having sex!
Unless he's a gay, in which case you'll just be having an odd naked staring contest.
2007-09-20 19:51:13 · answer #11 · answered by Nathan H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋