i know he likes me, andi like him too, but how do i tell him to gain some weight (i you lift his shirt up i swear you can see his ribs...thats skinnier than me, and i wear a size 0!!!) and get a tan, he is so freaking white, i am not rasist, its just weird, he looks like a ghost!
2007-09-20 19:39:28 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't. Accept him as he is or move on.
2007-09-20 19:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter what someone looks like! It's about what type of person that they are. If you are always telling him to get a tan or gain some weight, how do you think that makes him feel? How would you feel if you were told to lose weight and not be so dark? If you really like him for who he is, you need to stop badgering him about these things and start letting him know what things you like about him. If he treats you well, for heaven's sake consider yourself soooooo lucky! What attracted you to him in the first place? Sometimes people forget why they liked someone in the first place. If you truly cannot get over him being skinny and pale, you need to move on and find someone who you consider to be ideal in your mind.
2007-09-20 19:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by redblack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you imagine if this guy likes you & then he accidently came across this post & read what you'd put/said?
Clearly, that isn't going to happen, but I mean, this poor guy could have a problem, he could have an illness or anything you don't know about & all you can portray is the kind of "Ewww" effect in regards to the way he looks.
To be honest, the guy wants someone who isn't going to be like that & I couldn't see anything between you two lasting at all.
You probably have imperfections yourself & you should accept the guy for who he is or leave him alone.
Sorry if it sounds harsh but it's not intended to & that question just seemed amazingly shallow & not very nice at all.
I hope he gets someone better if I'm honest.
2007-09-20 19:46:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fix him a nice, fattening food basket for your picnic with him on the beach.
Seriously, if his looks are such a turn-off, then don't waste your time. Keep looking. But if you're attracted to him because he's a great person, then things like his weight and skin tone will cease to matter after a little while. Most guys fatten up when they get a steady girlfriend, anyway (because she feeds him).
2007-09-20 19:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by artsy_lovely_lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just talking about me before 6 months, I was so skinny and so white you gothic kinda white, so my GF had the same problem with me so she came to me and asked me to start working out because my body and color are so not good, and I look like dead, and you know she told me that because she love me and she wants only good things for me, so anyways I've been working out since 6 months and I went to the beach and right now I got a great body and color too, and all thanks goes to her, so just tell the guy and if hes smart he'll thank you.
2007-09-20 19:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by ßäbéL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're talking about me (I know you aren't).
Some people can't tan, they just burn instead. And it's not as easy for some people to gain weight as you might think. I know I didn't weigh over 125 lbs. until I reached age 30. Now at almost 38 I weigh about 160 lbs.
Just be honest with him, I guess.
2007-09-20 19:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by cespenar69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him as much as you say, then his looks shouldn't matter that much. If it truly concerns you, as far as his health goes, then just politely talk to him about it. There might be something in his genetics that make him thin.
I dated a guy in high school and college that was very thin and white. He was of Norwegian heritage, and couldn't help it. His whole family was tall, thin, and stark white. It's just the way it was.
2007-09-20 19:46:28 · answer #7 · answered by notarycat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont try to change someone. A few months back I made the awful mistake of telling my husband to lose some weight. Either accept him or dont if you truly love someone you can look past it even if it bothers you some.
2007-09-20 19:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by RomesMommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what u do since u guys like each other you should go out with him neway and as ur relationship progresses jus start droppin hints like tell him u think he looks good but u wonder what he would look like wit a tan then when u guys go out make him order lots of fast food act like ur hungry and u want 2 go out to eat u jus gotta be creative
2007-09-20 19:45:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to a buffet and then go to the beach...lol...Girl if you like him you like him. Focus on the inside. If his physical appearance bothers you that much, than you will never be able to let your feelings really develop. Whats more important to you the inside or the out? It's really on you.
2007-09-20 19:47:17 · answer #10 · answered by confuseddisneygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are being shallow and you don't really like him because if you did you would see past these things. care about him because of who he is and how he treats you not the superficial. by the way i dated a guy exactly the same and i felt the same way at first.
2007-09-20 19:44:58 · answer #11 · answered by Roxanne G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋