I am 12 and I live with my adopted mom, who looked after me since I was 8, she is 29.
I am not allowed to watch r rated movies.
I have to go to bed at 8:30.
My mom lets me shower or bathe my self but after im done she comes and slathers like 100 pumps of lotion on me herself to make my skin smooth and checks to see if my hair is washed.
she wont let me play M rated games and she does not let me go over 4 blocks without her.
Is my mom a little overprotective or is this normal for her to do?
I told her if i can have my privacy and if i can go outside but she said its my job as a mom to do these things.
what do you guys think?
2007-09-20 19:22:00 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well shes from europe like slovakia i think. Shes very tall like 5;9 and she likes to care about her body and how athletic she is.
its so annoying when after my shower she has that nivea firming lotion for dry skin bottle with her and rubs it all over me. I said i can do it myself but she said " its not a big deal your only 12 and this way I make your skin perfect smooth"
I dont know if its to do with her from europe but please I want to know.
2007-09-20 20:00:19 · update #1
At 12 yes you do still need watching in this day and age and what your adopted mom is doing is indeed very normal
at 29 she has seen dangers come into existence that didnt exist when she was young
as you grow and develop more life skills you will show her how much more freedom you are able to take on
Believe me, even if she yells at you or punishes you for stuff
if she is watching out for your safety then you are a major factor in her heart
give her a hug and tell her you posted this and let her see the answers
keep communications open between you two and your life will be much better
You are very lucky I would say just from seeing that little that you posted in that question
I wish you well!
2007-09-20 19:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by genntri 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing about all of this I find a little odd is the lotion at the end of the bath. The bedtime could be a little later, my kids at that age went to bed at 9:30 on school nights. the rated M games are for older kids, so no, I'd not let you play those. But the lotion at the end of the bath should be done by you, you are too old for her to rub you down all over with lotion.
2007-09-27 07:58:05 · answer #2 · answered by WVPV07 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think 12 is a little too old for her to be rubbing lotion on you. Tell her how you feel I think she will understand. The other issues good for her. With all the crazy people out there I don't blame her. I will be the same way when my 6 and 4 year olds are 12.
2007-09-28 20:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by zachdaddyone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that your bedtime should be a little later than that. I allow my 12-year old daughter to go to bed at 9:15pm and 10:00pm on weekends. However, you should just accept the R-rated movies. That type of material isnt appropriate for someone of your age. The whole lotion thing, is absolutely unbelievable. I think its nice that she cares about your health but she should let you do it yourself if thats what you want. Many parents are naturally overprotective and since your mom is from Russia, she might be accustomed to differant tradtitions or customs over there. Try to show this to her and I hope it helped! -Anonymous parent
2007-09-29 00:26:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your mother loves you very much. You said she is your adoptive mom and this may explain why she wants to do things for you that you could do yourself. Like putting on lotion. I have 2 adopted children and because I wanted these children so badly, I might be considered a bit over protective. Your mom loves you and sounds to me like she is trying to give you the best care she can. Talk to her about your feelings. Let her know how you feel about the lotion. I do not think you can change her mind about the other things, I wouldn't let you do those thing either if you were my child.
Good luck!
2007-09-28 18:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll appreciate it someday, you may not understand it now though.
I remember when I was 14 and I wanted to go out on a date with my boyfriend soooo bad! My parents kept telling me that I had to wait until I was 16. I just didn't understand what the big deal was at all. Now that I am a mother myself I TOTALLY get it now and I'm so glad she made me wait. Granted my son is only 5 months old I can already tell I'll have a lot of the same rules. :)
2007-09-21 02:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by bsdude2002 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she is over protective. I actually think she sounds like a really good mother. My kids where 16 before they could watch R rated movies and that was only after I watched them for content. My daughter is 17 now and still will ask me if it alright for her to see certain R rated movies. I appreciate that from her, considering she can legally enter a R rated movie now. Be thankful for the care and concern your mom has for you, it is not as common as it should be anymore.
2007-09-21 07:56:20 · answer #7 · answered by dsrtrat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like a caring mom, ur lucky she looks out for u, even tho now it feels restrictive for u, just trust her for now. she has ur best interest at heart im sure.
the lotion rubbing would annoy me as a 12 yr old, & my mom never did this, sure promote good skin care - but not at 12yo, i bet ur skin is already smooth! if u have a lot of exposure to the sun - definately give ur face some moisture, but no need to overdo it :)
2007-09-27 08:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by janine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she is being a great mother, but the lotion thing I think you are just at that age where you can do it yourself, but other than that she sounds like she really loves you, P.S. you don't find very many moms to take that kinda responsibility on and stay cool!!
2007-09-25 16:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im 13 and i go 2 bed at 9(unfair)...i think u should be able to see those things(r rated movies and m games)...now that shower thing is weird!!! i always bathe and get out on my own without anyone checking my hair. try and talk 2 her about getting more freedom
2007-09-28 18:56:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋