So I come to work about a month ago and there's a new girl working there. Right from the start, I knew there was something about her that just lured me in. We hit it off and by the end of the first weekend we couldn't wait to see each other again. By the end of the second weekend, it was obvious to all that we really liked each other but neither would admit to it. By the end of the third, we admitted it to each other. The trouble is right before we met she started seeing an old friend. She wants to stay faithful to him and won't do anything but also wants to be with me. I am completely into her and want nothing more than to be with her too. It feels only right and almost fateful that we get together but I only want to be respectful of their relationship and her the same. Any advice or ideas on this situation? I've been through many relationships and scenarios but never have I been so confused as I am right now. Please help...
2007-09-20 18:31:34 · 19 answers · asked by jay_63002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if you go for it, their relationship will end & it may mean the end of a friendship.
I'd wait it out a little & see if she leaves him. Don't pressure her, as she may still be undecided & after she dumps him she may regret it & go back to him. This is her choice to make, not yours (even though you are involved in this). I'd also be careful of the whole "work relationship" thing. If it doesn't work out you'll have to see her every day & if it takes off, one of you will have to find a new job.
Kudos on respecting their relationship. Many people don't think of that.
2007-09-20 18:37:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK, this one is simple. You say the girl still wants to be with you, right? Well, just hang in there brother, and wait it out. No one says that this thing has to happen overnight. If you think there's a possibility that there is true love involved at work here, then it will only bloom as time goes by, and she'll realize that her other "friend" is just that - a friend...
Besides that, this guy isn't married to her, or engaged, and in the dating world those are the only two things that should stop you from pursuing her. Just make sure she's not an attention junkie, and just loves having two guys fawning over her every move. But if it's real, go for it!
Everyone searches for true love their whole life, and when they sense that they find it, things just sort of take their own natural course over time. So, I adfvise you to proceed slowly with this girl - get to know her better, keep your intetions visable, but not pressuring her at the same time - and she'll give you the reward you seek someday soon, I guarantee you! Now, go get 'er son! She's yours for the taking, until she says otherwise.
2007-09-20 19:32:38 · answer #2 · answered by Mugsy1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the girl's decision not yours.
You don't have to be confused it is the girl who has to be the one to be confused.
If you really like the girl that much then do an effort to have her. Anyways she is still not married and her boyfriend doesn't own her decisions. There is only one she in the world man. You might regret it if you just leave it be. She is probably waiting for you to do an effort because she might be afraid to leave her comfort zone. If she likes you that much, she'll leave him. If she prefers the other guy then respect her decision. Just be prepared because there will be alot of hurts. But don't worry there are more things to cherish to come.
Just play fair with the other guy. Don't grab the girl without having a fair fight (with out physical contact). Or else you'll end up regretting.
This is an advice from my experience.
Just be sure that you really love her and your feelings are true. That will be very big hurt for her if you are not that sure. She has to leave someone just for you, she has the heavier weight.
2007-09-20 19:21:30 · answer #3 · answered by jerriel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she wants to stay faithful to him it is very clear,
who she has stronger feelings for.
and don't be confused over nothing,
she is not all into you,
keep in mind she is picking him over you, by her actions.
remember actions speak louder then words!
and about you wanting nothing more then to be with her too.
i think you should speak for yourself, cuz that is not her idea too!!!!
she wants both of you.
and that is what should worry you,
cuz soon, guess what? it will happen again.
look at it from the outside,
she is playing both of you.
how can you know, that the same line doesn't take place when she's with him!!
and about respect, obtain respect for yourself.
cuz she's not giving it to you.
or ask her, if she would like or take it, if the shoe were on the other foot!
she might not answer you with the truth, but you think about it.
2007-09-20 18:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW. Your situation is EXACTLY the same as the one I was in and let me tell we ended up marrying each other =D!!!! You jus have to let things be as they r honestly its ok for you guys to spend time together as long as you dont croos ne boundaries and either she will kick him 2 the curb because she realizes how she feels about u or what happened in my case he will do somethin unforgivable and u should b there 2 console her and u guys will have the greatest relationship n the world bcuz she will know u arent tryna take advantage of her because u have been there all alongso stay friends but let her know if she needs u u'r there!!!!!
2007-09-20 18:44:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me like she is stringing you along buddy. Either she wants you or the other guy. There cannot be any in between. If she was really that into you she would break it off with him and date you, if not she is playing with you. I congratulate you on your morals and encourage you not to do anything to break your ethical stance until she is single. It will only lead to your own heartache if you do. I don't think that is the answer you were searching for, but I believe it is the best thing for you.
2007-09-20 18:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by the man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm.... i see your dilemma hun but the first thing you need to do is think to yourself.... How would you feel if this was ur gf and she was seeing another guy? Tell your girl that if she really wants to be with you she'll end it with her guy before things get outta hand and everyone involved gets hurt. hope this helps
2007-09-20 18:40:26 · answer #7 · answered by Ladybug355 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about the relationship between her and her boyfriend. find out if she actually wanted him or just settling into a relationship that happened to be convenient at the time.
2007-09-20 18:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her how you feel about this situation. Tell her that you respect her feelings. From what I'm hearing, maybe she might be looking for someone new.
2007-09-20 18:38:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moral of the story :- dont get involved wtih girls that already have a boyfriend
2007-09-20 18:42:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋