she was the only reason I wanted to be happy... I lost her.. I am very sad and crying how do I win her back?

Question

I did really stupid things cause I was drunk... I kicked her about 7 times... but I want to tell her I am truly sorry but she won't answer my calls or emails

please help me I didn't mean to lose my happiness

u all got to be kiding me.. I am sure I am not the only man in the world who has put some force on woman.. but anyway my question is how I get her back

Answer 1

You're kidding me!
You're a drunk...a mean drunk....a mean drunk who kicks girls.
Why doesn't she want you back?

Sorry is a just a word - your actions speak for themself.

Figure out why you're a jerk, otherwise, you'll always be one.
Start at AA.

Answer 2

First thing you need to do is to go to an AA meeting & get help for your alcoholism. You should also go & see a therapist for your anger problems, since IT IS NEVER OK TO HIT OR KICK YOUR GIRLFRIEND/MATE.

Do these things & stay sober before you even think about contacting your girlfriend. You need to focus your energies on these things.

If you find that your girlfriend has broken up with you, still go to the AA meetings. This is only the beginning of what could be a life long battle with alcoholism & anger management. If you can't do this for yourself, then how can you possibly have a sucessful relationship?

EDIT:

No, you are not the first person to harm a woman. But that doesn't make it right. The only way that you have a chance of getting her back is by getting some help for yourself & showing her that you are sticking with it instead of using it as a cheap play to get her to come back.

My stepdad was an abusive alcoholic. He drove every single person in his life away & kept using AA as a "come back to me" play. He hurt my mom in far worse ways than just kicking her 7 times, but it all started with a smaller form of physical abuse. He only ever did it when he was drunk. It can & will escalate if you don't get help. She left him because she was tired of it all not stopping. She will forever bear emotional scars from that relationship. Surely you don't wish that on your love?

This is the #1 way to show her that you love her & that you want to have a successful relationship. There are AA meetings for spouses/girlfriends, so maybe you could get her to come to one of those?

Answer 3

Well my advice to you is to take a hard look at yourself, & do whatever it takes to make sure that you never have an episode like that again. Let's call it what it really was here, YOU ASSAULTED HER, if you kicked her even once, but SEVEN TIMES? Drunk or not it's a criminal act, and you did it. So who can blame her for keeping her distance.
If you love her as much as you claim, then you will stop being so selfish, & encourage her to stay away from you until you GET HELP.

One day you might win her back into your life, but not until you can show her through YOUR ACTIONS, not just words & empty promises that you have changed.
That will take time, patience, & work.
If she's worth it, you'll do it.
If you're worth it, you'll do it.

Answer 4

You kicked a girl 7 times ... WTF ... tht's not the way to treat a girl in other words thats not the way to treat your happiness. You lost them by your own mistake. I hope you get her back but whatever you did was really wrong and I don't blame her for leaving you.

My advice to you is keep on e-mailing her and keep on saying sorry and at the same time in those e-mails write how much you love her and tell her that she is everything for you and you mean it. Also write that what you did was not to be done and you are deeply sorry for that and you want one more chance and nothing will like that happpend again and promise to her. Don't just write 2 or 3 e-mails keep wriitng e-mail whenever you get time and even txt her. I hope it works and i think it will work.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

I don't define your character through one facet of your relationship, but violence has to be isolated to be acceptable. Perhaps she's better off without you and this makes it all the more upsetting.

Regardless, the best way to show someone you're trying is to seek professional help and prove you've changed. But talk is cheap and people cross a major mental hurdle after leaving someone, so don't keep your hopes up...

Answer 6

If you actually hurt her physically in such a manner, she has every right to never forgive you. Alcohol doesn't and can't excuse your behavior. She is very smart for not allowing that to happen a 2nd time. You can try apologizing just because you did a horrible thing and should say how sorry you are that you did it, but don't expect her to forgive and forget that easily.

Answer 7

Forget it. You have no business with a girlfriend until you get some therapy for your anger. Don't you realize that you could have killed her, or done serious damage to her? I can't believe that your parents raised you that way, so I just have to assume that you are just stupid. If it had been my daughter or me, I can guarantee that your butt would be in jail right now!!

Answer 8

wow your luck that's all she did was leave you because i would have had you arrested or shot you myself. You don't deserve her and i pray that someone will deal with you before you can hurt another female. Your not sorry you kicked her your sorry she left you and i applaud her that because YOU DON'T DESERVE HER!!!!!!!!!!! if this pissed you off oh well get over it your scum now get ur *** off ur computer and go to an AA meeting.

Answer 9

you blew it. if you kicked her 7 times like you said you got bigger problems than losing a girlfriend. get some professional help.

Answer 10

Try finding another one who is stupid enough to put up with you. You don't deserve any girl if you behave like that.