I have seen many bruises on my daughter. She claims it is from playing "dead arm". I don't think this is true. I know it's not drug use because I drug test her and her brother. I don't think it's a bf, because she does not have one currently. Please help! She is 15.
2007-09-20 18:04:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sit down and talk to her again. Assure her that you are going to support her and believe what she tells you. And that if someone is hitting her they do not have a right to. Even if she tries to shut down, or roll her eyes (or any of the other things that our teens tend to do) keep at it. And trust your gut. Also keep your eyes open and make sure that her and her brother aren't duking it out when you're not around. Sometimes siblings can be pretty brutal to each other, and the parents just tune it out. And don't be so sure that she isn't being abused by a bf, how do you REALLY know that she doesn't have one? If all of the poss. options turn out to be false, then you need to get her to her Dr. there are some medical conditions that cause bruises.
2007-09-20 18:14:39 · answer #1 · answered by MoonGoddess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't worry too much. "Dead Arm" is pretty common with teenagers. They punch each other in the arm until one doesn't want to play anymore. Is it the smartest idea, probably not, but not too harmful in the long run. If the bruises are in places other than the mid to upper bicep, then you would have cause for concern.
To be honest though, if you can't trust your daughter to be honest, you're going to run into problems down the road. You won't always be able to prove things and stuff like drug testing them may cause them to feel like you don't trust them.
Unless your children have done something to deserve this lack of trust, I'd recommend looking into why you don't believe her.
2007-09-21 01:22:29 · answer #2 · answered by Xeno 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well are the brusies just on her arms??? If they are then she is telling the truth however if these brusies are popping out all over the place I would take her to get a check up.
IT could be a sign of something being medically wrong.
One of my brothers had bruises popping up. My mother didn't think much of it because he was very active. However when a bruise showed up on the scar from his open heart surgery, She decided he needed to be check out. Turns out he had A-Plastic Anemia.
2007-09-21 03:26:08 · answer #3 · answered by wondermom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she having any trouble with other kids at school? Could her brother be hurting her?
Tell her that she should not be playing this "dead arm" because she is getting older, and bruises look awful on young ladies.
2007-09-21 01:11:32 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would check in to community resources in your area such as Girls, Inc (visit the link below). They have staff who are trained in dealing with the various issues that girls of all ages face. I work with at-risk adolescents and the bruises you mentioned could be anything from dating violence (even if you aren't aware of a current bf) to self-inflicted injuries. I recommend sitting down and calmly talking to your daughter about your concern without making any accusations or unjustified assumptions. It is important for all girls to know that there are adults who care and can be trusted.
2007-09-21 01:13:55 · answer #5 · answered by DT 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's telling the truth?
I have no idea what "dead arm" is but I know it sounds like one of those stupid games that teens come up with because they're really bored.
Like that space monkeys one where they choke each other to get a high.
2007-09-21 01:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by sKa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Proabbly she join a gang, the rules of gang is when the new member join the gang it beat them up and see who survives during the beating... she might have boyfriend hiding from you and your husband.. who knows but try to have a convastion with your daughter and ask her why she gets numberous of bruises...
2007-09-21 01:10:56 · answer #7 · answered by Sakae 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and discuss this with her. Maybe serious if she has a bf/friend who hurts her intentionally. Take her to a doctor for a medical checkup.
2007-09-21 02:38:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have there been any changes in her behaviour recently? It could be that she's being bullied at school but doesn't want to tell you. Ask her about it and, if she doesn't give you an answer, speak to her school.
2007-09-21 15:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by chemical_sister_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may need medical help, she could be seeing someone abusive that you are not aware or she may be hurting herself. At any rate you need to find out so you can help her.
2007-09-21 01:09:13 · answer #10 · answered by jodie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋