have you been able to stay friends with someone of the opposite sex (friends for atleast 5 years) without being sexually attracted to them
2007-09-20 18:03:12 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. I am a female and I have had plenty of guy friends that I only see as friends...nothing more! But they have been attracted to me at one point or another. I like to have friends no matter what they look like or who they are. I look for personality and humor in a friend. Someone I can chill with and have a great conversation with. Someone who is a great listener and who gives great advice when you need it. A friend who is always there for you even when you don't expect them to. Whenever I ever meet someone like this, which I have, I plan to keep them in my life as a friend, no matter if they're a male or female. I mean, it's inevitable to not be attracted to your friends if they're good looking but if that line is drawn between the two of you from the very beginning and it's never crossed or even thought of being crossed...then you've got a friend who is truly a friend and not someone who is just pretendind to be just to get in your pants!
I think that guys are more willing to be sexually attracted to their female friends than females being attracted to their male friends.
2007-09-21 05:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Even the few gay men I know. I think, when you are able to become good friends with someone of the opposite sex, at some point in time you will be drawn to them in that way. Not always, but even if its something that only lasts a split second lol. Just because you want alot of the same qualities in a relationship. You have to be able to be friends first to have a good healthy relationship later on anyhow. All bf/gf is, is friendship with romance && you know the sexual perks!! LOL
2007-09-20 18:10:47 · answer #2 · answered by queenB 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. I have had male friends for over 20 years and never had any type of romantic or sexual attraction to them. I just feel that the friendship would be jeopardized by something like that and I value relationship too much to risk it.
Hope this helps.
2007-09-20 18:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by snowbirdbabe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best friend and I are of the opposite sex, we met in school 32 yrs. ago and have never even dated or discussed it. I've been married 2 times, he never married, but as of 4 months ago has finally found a serious girlfriend with 3 kids, over the years he's collected many friends who were women. But I would say it's rare, as most other guys have always accused us of being involved, our relationship really seems to annoy most men, we or he has known, they never have been able to get over this, as if it needs to be surgically removed from their brains.
2007-09-20 18:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by ferochira 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not a question of being attracted, its a question of being able to control it. I think if two attractive people of the opposite sex are friends there will be at least some attraction between them, but that certainly doesnt have to stop you from being friends. (im 23 btw)
2007-09-20 18:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Is very hard, the difficult part is, that as friend, for example a women with a man, you are more confident talking about your needs,you talk more open wide about what you like and enjoy, that communication is waived when you talk with your boyfriend and girlfriend, specially when you are talking about sex, you seems to talk more open with your friend as simple tal, with the time that starts to became traction in between, in my own experience, we have share many thought about life and sex with my friends(girls), and we got attracted sexually, and is much stronger than any other girlfriend i got in the past.....
2007-09-20 18:13:08 · answer #6 · answered by coffeefarm4u 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes i have several friend of the opposite sex and have been friends with them for 10 plus years with not a thought of sex
2007-09-20 18:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes indeed i have been able to with many males friends,not always must be attraction,sometimes there is for sure specially cause if u like someone to be your close friend u could also enjoy his company in another levels but its perfectly possible if u both value more your friendship than a brief encounter.
2007-09-20 18:09:25 · answer #8 · answered by nataly_23_h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. But in general I don't believe it's wise for girls and guys to be friends, close ones anyway...one or the other is bound to start to become attracted, even if a relationship isn't possible or wise. There are exceptions, but it's unusual
2007-09-20 18:10:08 · answer #9 · answered by LaSperanza 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have a few male friends that I have had for over 5 years and never even thought of them in that way.
2007-09-20 18:14:26 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋