My ex and I broke up about 7 YEARS AGO. However, we have remained in touch since then. When we meet up, we're always out drinking and one thing leads to another. My question is: WHY is it that we are both in relationships BUT still call or text one another? It happens probably every couple of months?! Sometimes when we are out but other times when we're not. He's told me he never wants to marry me, etc. but still calls. HELP! He has been there for me during tramatic times (yrs later, after our break up) so he isn't necessarily just about hooking up. HELP!
2007-09-20 17:44:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is nothing wrong with what you and he are doing unless you find it to be a problem. You 2 shared something together that was something very special, hold tight to that, if it gets you through whatever. It's hard to find what you 2 have shared, and many don't experience it after, now ain't that grand. If you are happy, with who you have don't venture out, stay where you are and keep this lovely friendship in check.
2007-09-20 18:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by carmel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of it would be peculiar for her to stay in touch with you, if she's in yet another relationship, till she nonetheless has emotions for you. it is achievable she is somebody who has a stressful time letting go of folk she cares approximately and needs you in her existence as a chum, yet while she's been seeing this different guy for a little while, she may well be talking approximately him with wish that it will make you slightly jealous and choose her back. i don't comprehend the justifications to your wreck up, besides the undeniable fact that it is not any longer likely she might decide to rub her modern relationship on your face after 2 years. the two she nonetheless has emotions for you, in spite of the present guy, or he's a clean guy she's no longer into and needs to work out the type you react. in case you have been stable friends on a similar time as you have been relationship she won't decide to enable that go.
2016-10-09 14:05:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have is a friendship. And it sounds like a good one. There doesn't seem to be any romantic love. But, I think that love is there. If he's been there for you when you needed him, how great. Take it for what it is a friendship with a history of caring about each other. I do not know why you need help, sweetie. At some point you both will find your own "right person." Hopefully, this person is secure enough to understand the history that you and your ex have and that he/she will accept it. best of luck :)
2007-09-20 18:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people love each other, or have love for each other, but are not meant to be together. Since he has been there for you it's not like he's an awful person. Unless it's going to burden your current relationship, there should be no problem with keeping an ex as a friend. If you have been cheating, however, I suggest you come clean with your current mate (and shame on you). If you want him to stop contacting you. . . let him know that. And stop contacting him. But like I said. . . only if it's creating a problem.
2007-09-20 17:56:28 · answer #4 · answered by Iceman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might think thatt this is just a harmless hook up every once in a while but can both of you really move on with your lives as long as you are still sexin each other? One of you has to be the grownup here and say "no more!"
2007-09-20 17:54:39 · answer #5 · answered by bigdaddyrobid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys arent together for a reason, you said it yourself he would never marry you.. etc. I understand hes been there for you when times have been rough and you should appreciate him for that but that doesnt mean anytime he wants to call or talk that he should get it. It sounds like your both cheating on your current bf/gf (maybe I just misread it) but why are you risking all of that for him? I think you need to move on and just let go.
2007-09-20 17:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by applesauce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is strange that why all girls tend to look relationships to a single end marriage.
why cant you treat the relation ship as just plutonic and nothing else. why always it has to be love, etc only between a man and women.
there can be other form of relationship as well, one of them is called friendship too.
actually marriage depends on many factors other than love.
2007-09-20 17:53:42 · answer #7 · answered by p.amol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex and I did this on and off for years..
we did it because we loved each other and felt a huge attraction for each other, but it never worked out as a relationship.
Enjoy it for what it is - You have a lifelong friend that loves you and is attracted to you. Eventually, the sexual relationship will taper off and it remains as a deep, loving, platonic relationship that you will adore for ever.
that is, of course, unless you're still in love with him.
2007-09-20 17:51:11 · answer #8 · answered by Judi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on!!! You're his booty call. He's a great friend but with benefits and that is NOT appropriate. Tell him a Christmas card to your family is fine but that's it. No texting for booty and you solve you own problems.
2007-09-20 17:57:43 · answer #9 · answered by Net Rider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in love with him STILL. Only YOU can stop all of this. He just want you for a BOOTYCALL. He doesnt want to 'be' with you. You need to stop 'getting together' with him. He already told you his intentions or lack thereof (dont want marriage or any of that..).
YOU KNOW..what you should do. You already know and 20 of us strangers on Yahoo Answers.com wont make you stop 'hooking up' with your ex. Let me tell you this: STOP ALLOWING YOURSELF TO BE USED FOR SEX because that's all he wants!!!!!
2007-09-20 17:56:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋