please give me some hope. i mean, my son is not really a bad kid. but i am frustrated with the limit testing and the not listening and the taking out his displeasure on his sister, etc. he will be 3 in november. also he started his terrible 2's a few months late. does that mean that it will take him a few extra months to get over the terrible 2's? i am consistent with discipline and even use a reward system as well and some days it seems like it is futile. what should i expect as far as behavior into the next year? please give me something positive to look forward to.
2007-09-20 17:19:24 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I know how stressing it can be.Terrible two is just the start.
You are right he is not a bad kid. They just can`t express themselves appropriately .
continue your reward system, you are on the right track. Just make sure it is working.. try time outs... 1 minute per year of age. Say everytime he says bad words, put him in his timeout corner for 2 minutes.You have to be strong....if he stands up bring him back.. until he sits still. When he does you know he realized that you mean business.You also have to let him know exactly why you gave him a timeout . Remember to praise him for every good behavior.
I have a very opinionated kid.... I learned that I can`t be mad all the time... no matter what she does. We are moms... we love our kids. We wish they will behave the way we want them to be.They are kids!!! WE HAVE TO CHOOSE OUR BATTLES. We can`t be stressing out all the time.
We were not able to enjoy our outing till my daughter was about 4.
2007-09-20 17:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by rayv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay strong! I always joked that the terrible two's turned into the hideous three's. I know it isn't really funny when you are in the throes of it but it DOES pass eventually. There is a really great book called 1-2-3 Magic by Thomas W Phelan and it actually works! When I got divorced, my daughter really tested me and was fairly aggressive. I found that the book gave me a great discipline tool, as long as I stuck to it, it worked. I promise that it isn't futile. A day will come when you realize that it has all slowed down to a trickle. Just be patient. Good luck!
2007-09-20 17:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by jenlvali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol, well every kid is different, but if you're consistent with him, he'll probably move through the terrible twos! Unfortunately the testing never really ends, but it does change it's shape;). Most of my friends have older children, ages range from 6 to 16, one of them had a little boy who was a complete terror until about three and a half, but he's now the sweetest eight year old! And he was a wonderful four year old!! Don't give up hope! Enjoy him now, I'm sure he's a wonderful boy! Good luck!:)
2007-09-20 17:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL all kids are different and you learn a few tips on the way,sure different parents know what works for their kids but it may not work for yours.The tantrums do seem to be a bit better but I really couldn't tell a difference between their attitudes between 2 and 3.By 5 they are more independent and by 9 they think they are 21.Just enjoy while they are little:)an remember the most important thing is to at least take 30 minutes for yourself. Be it a a walk around the neighborhood a bubble bath something for you so you wont drive yourself nuts.:) Good Luck:)
2007-09-20 20:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no, but the terrible 2's or 3's don't have to be that terrible. Positive reinforcement. Don't let it drive you crazy, they need to be asertive. My son was so wonderful from age 4 to 12, then he had a few set backs. He'll be 30 in Nov. He's a wonderful man now.
2007-09-24 10:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by snowwillow20 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the trying 2's and the terrible 3's. It's all about me first and the gimme gimmies. this will probably last until they have kids. be consistent and back up your punishments. use patience. and remind your kid to use listening ears. I have a 2 year old boy and a 3 year old girl. I know that of which you speak.
2007-09-20 17:29:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If You think the 2's & 3's are bad,
wait until you meet the 13's & 14's
that's when the trouble really starts.
2007-09-20 17:44:29 · answer #7 · answered by trebor2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son was worse at 3 yo, as he was wiser to the world. Be consistant with your toddler, they are hard work. Go to the book store and find a relable parenting book or class to attend. This will give you suitable strategies, so you will enjoy being a parent. it is the most challenging job you will ever do. Disipline is on-going and adaptable with constantly altering age. Bordom at any age produces 'bad behaviour', so keep your toddler busy.
2007-09-20 23:03:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I thought 2 was easy compared to 3. Three has been the hardest for me so far. I started putting him in half day pre school just so I could have some sanity.
2007-09-20 17:25:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will grow out of it! The key is consistency on your part. He needs to know that when he does something wrong he will be punished. It's important too that even if he apologizes and tries to make up, that he still be punished. However it is also important to remember to praise him when he does right, even if you have to praise him as your punishing him. Time outs work well with my kids. For a while my daughter was really testing and I had to hold her in the chair or sit with her on my lap and hold on to her. Eventually she realized that when she did wrong she had to go to time out and stopped fighting it. She cried while in time out, but she did the time because she knew she had too. Now she's real easy going and obeys real well most of the time.
2007-09-20 17:38:32 · answer #10 · answered by cljokla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋