how can i convince my girl friend to go see a doctor for her depression?

Question

she says she went to a doctor before (2 years ago), but they cannot help.

She had a bad experience with some medication, where she felt happy but also very hyper and she felt something was wrong; the pill was making her feel unnatural.

Anyhow she had a bad experience with the whole system as well, now she don't want the face the health care people because they seem to think that she is crazy and look down on her (did you take your pills today).

There is nothing i can do to convince her that the doctors can help; she is already convince that pills don;t help and talking therapy is just silly.
And if i can make any progress in my arguments; she hit me back with the "whats the point" routine.
And the situation is getting worse. She is talking about suicide and how it would actually be the one noble thing she would do in her life, she does not want to drag me down with her; she does not want to be a burden.

Please help me convince her there is hope!

thank you!

desperately!

Answer 1

go to the doc yourself. explain the situation. ask if you can make an appointment for the two of you and have her accompany YOU.

Tell her YOU have an appointment and want her to take you. then the two of you talk to the doc, and at the appropriate time YOU go out and let them talk.

Answer 2

Yikes! I kinda know how she feels. I had a negitive experience with a counselor who funded a few vacations on my dime and the headache, literally of trying to get of Effexor which took 2 years. You really can't make her do anyhting that she doesn't want to do. You have to understand that. Your support is more than most would do and that's totally admirable. If she's threatening suicide you wouldn't be out of line to say, "If you say that I'm gonna call 911 for your own safety and my sanity." You could try to encourage her to try it again with a new counselor or psychiatrist. If it's a clinical depression where there's a chemical imbalance, drug therapy might be the only way for her to have relief. And there's so many different medications to try until a balance is found. I think there are cases where people need medication for there brains just like some need medication for there hearts or diabetes. But know that at the end of the day, the decision is hers. Whether to keep trying or to give up. I really hope she keeps trying.

Answer 3

Hi!

Your girlfriend is right - pills and other synthetic medication helped her temporarily but this not a permanent solution. There's a rebound effect from taking drugs and it's good that she stopped! After this event, doctors cannot do anything because drugs are the only solution they can prescribe.

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Answer 4

Hi Patbb,

Your in a very difficult situation because your girlfriend is an adult she has the right to make her own decisions. However if you know that she is definitely going to harm her self please take her to the hospital or call 911 and she will be forced to get help. The Suicide Prevention Crisis Line is a great resource and they might be able to offer you advice but also support for your girlfriend when she is in a crisis situation. there number is: 1 (800) SUICIDE 784 - 2433 Is your girlfriend willing to try holistic medicine? if so, it might be well worth your time looking into it and it might help where western medicine has not.



Sincerely,

Alice H.

Answer 5

hi tell her suicied is for crazy people and she not crazy although she might be feeling that she is , she is not just in a rough spot that will not last forever and that you need her to be around to take care of you when your blue tell her that she will only past though this world but once and any good that she can do let her do it now for she will not pass this way again and she doesnt want to end her life with people saying she was to weak to hack it out like the rest of us belive me we all been there and some times beening over tired doed help take a bath drink some tea and sleep wake up and do something nice for someone put a smile on some ones faces then it was all worth sicking around for. ps good luck and tell her to love her self more and tell her self it in the mirror as many times as she needs to to make her self feel better

Answer 6

Your girlfriend does need help
to recognize the danger she is in. Talking suicide -- she has crossed the line, needing to be evaluated now. Call your local hospital or mental health center to get your questions answered, and to arrange an evaluation interview. Her statements are not new to them, others use the same stance. She has proven that she is unable / unwilling to take care of herself at this time.

Although your girlfriend has had an unsuccessful experience in the past seeking treatment, she again needs help. All of her arguments and attitudes are skewed by her frame of mind and her illness. She is so ill that she cannot see the error in her reasoning. As adamantly as she is refusing mental health care, she is showing her illness in full bloom.

When I was so sick, I required someone else to make the appointment and to drive me there. I was so shut-down barely any words came to my mind. But when caring and hope were offered, I did lean in the direction offered. One step at a time.

The situation you are in, either the friend walks them through the steps - no matter what (yes, at the time she may hate you for it)
Or the friend steps out of the person's life, rather than see them hurt themselves, to cause them to move off of where they are stuck. What they decide to do is no one's fault. Rather it is the responsibility of the ill person to decide to reach out for help.

Answer 7

Talk to her family, do not ignore someones threats of suicide. She needs help if she is threaten this, I had a friend who killed herself and she used to say it all the time. I called her doctor, but it did no good you have to know when she is going to do it and then call 911. She would have to be committed to really protect her from herself, so you should involve her family and find a support group for yourself dealing with this kind of issue.

Answer 8

There is hope and if you have faith in the doctors you are going to fail. Doctors are there to protect the public not to hold your hand and show you the facts of life. She needs a friend who will tell her why she was raised as an outsider .Then the two of you can learn together the ways of the world.

Answer 9

there is no better cure to depression other than her family, friends and YOU!...

i really dont know how serious her situation is, but, i once to went to depression, and the cure for this is my friend is positively outrageous and fun... like he is the eternal bliss in my life...

let her be surrounded with positive people with hyper active mind...

let her be confident... let her be happy, instead of sharing sad stories... share jokes... instead of crying about embarrassing sad stories.. laugh at them....

friends, family and you are her doctors...
jokes, positive outlook, confidence are her pills...

Answer 10

She needs more help then you can give. She needs more people involved. Im guessing she trusts you, thats the key. Get her parents involved tell them everything. You cannot be the hero and do this by yourself. I know, I lived through it. I lost someone close to this. She is crying out for help, YOU CANNOT DO THIS ALONE. I know it may seem like you are betraying her confidence, worry about the outcome of that later, SHE NEEDS HELP NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DID I MENTION, YOU CANNOT DO THIS ALONE. I attempted it alone and swore my close one to confidence, thinking I was helping them, I WAS ONLY HURTING THEM. GET HELP NOW!!!!!! I don't care who you tell. TELL EVERYONE WILLING TO LISTEN. SHE NEEDS HELP NOW.