He's mentally disabled & living in a group home in Baton Rouge, LA. They treat him poorly, they steal from him, & the staff mentally abuses him. He's 30 yrs. old & wants his independence. They have a 10-minute phone limit, he gets no privacy, he has to eat what they feed him, & he can't go where he wants. They control his money & won't even tell him how much income he receives. He has a right to know since it's HIS money. & they take $400/month for rent, which is understandable, but what do they do with the other $200 that they're not giving him? They treat him like he's in prison. I currently live in Texas, & I would like to take him in. He has a hard time trusting me, since my other sisters & brothers & my parents misused his money & treated him poorly. I'm not like that. I'll pay all the bills & help him get his GED & won't give him restrictions on his money spending, & I won't deprive him of food like they did. They'd take his money & spend it on groceries & wouldn't let him eat.
2007-09-20 16:55:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well he has a choice here. Continue to suffer where hes at or learn to trust you and hope for a better life. The place hes at sounds absolutely crazy! I hope you can get him out of there. I can't believe places like that exist . Good luck.
2007-09-20 17:07:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
Bless you as you are truly a treasure! However, the best option, and I state this from experience, would be to find another group home in your area. There are many people living very productive lives in well structured homes who are allowed to manage their own spending money. Call your local government offices and ask for the correct contact information for your brother's needs. When he gets placed, let them know you are a concerned sister and sit down with them to establish the guidelines and expectations your brother will have in regards to his money. Also, give them your contact info and follow up with many visits. You can take him out to lunch and let him visit on weekends. Trust me, this will work much better for your own sense of well being!
2007-09-20 17:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by PZ 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to do is to find out if he has been placed with Adult Protective Services. It sounds to me that they may have already steped in. If they have, there isn't really much that you or anyone else can do to get him out of the situation. Once someone becomes part of Adult Protective Services, they become properity of the state.My mother-in-law is in the Adult Protective Services program and she is treated the same as your brother. My hubby and I have been trying to get her away from them for over 2 years now. She don't live in a group home but she does have to be supervised 24/7 by nurses in her home. The only reason why she isn't in a group home is because she got some serious $$$ from the medical malpratice lawsuites that her family filed against the doctor and hospital who made her the way she is now. Even though she gets to live in her own house, she can't go anywhere without one of the nurses and she never see's a penny of her money either. The rare chance that she gets any of her money, she has to show recipts for what she buys. The way the rest of your family has treated your brother is grounds for Adult Protective Service to step in. The best thing to do is to find out if he is under Adult Protective Service or if he is under guardianship through someone else. If he is, the best thing to do is to get a job that pays really well and sue for custody. Here is what I could find for Louisiana Adult Protective Services.
http://www.dhh.louisiana.gov/offices/?ID=95
2007-09-20 18:28:20 · answer #3 · answered by kittysoma27 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
God bless you dear. I work for the mentally and physically disable. You need to see about your brother getting evaluated on cooking, cleaning, taking showers etc... This will help him to be on his own and even get help from the state if needed. I am not for sure what your state qualifications are but here in Kansas they help alot. I am so glad that you want to take him in your home, maybe he will come to trust you in time. As for his caregivers that he has now, i would be seen and heard as often as you can. Remember, they work for him and he has rights. I wish i could talk to you more about this. I pray that things will turn out for the both of you. Remember, HE HAS THE RIGHT TO BE SEEN AND HEARD by his doctors, church, and even his congressman. Maybe when he is seen and heard from someone will listen. The group home that i have seen let people have their own rooms, TV, snacks, ect.... Please check on him often and let them know that you will not put up with this crap.
2007-09-20 17:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by tallorder60 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow... you are doing a great thing for your brother, bless you. To get him around the trust thing ask him if he would like to just have an extended visit with you. maybe the weekend or for a week. When he sees that you are not being mean and he gets used to your environment, then he will feel safe about moving in with you. Good Luck!
2007-09-20 17:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by truthbeginsasblasphemy 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
generally state laws require that homes provide an accounting of funds for persons under their care and control.
unfortunately, in a state like louisiana, i suspect enforcement and regulations may be lacking.
the us department of labor does not play where the taking of earning is concerned. the labor dept will lay down a serious a** whipping on people who steal earnings.
before you take any action, visit your brother. speak with the staff. ask for an accounting of your brothers funds, do not accuse. be friendly and professional. do not assume. do not tell them you are from texas.
before you consider taking your brother to live with you, can you tolerate his disability day in day out???????
its one thing to live in texas and criticize his care; its another to do the job yourself. for example, when you are at work, how will you supervise and assist him?
you wouldn't want to take him from his home and than find that you can't handle all the demands
it would be ideal if he could live in a home close to you so you could visit often.
congratulations on being considerate and loving your brother
good luck.
best wishes.
2007-09-20 18:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by ramni222 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You will be such a blessing to your brother. Talk to a social worker who is in charge of his case and see what steps you have to take. I don't think they can stop your brother from living with you. You are doing a great thing. I am happy that you are willing to take care of your brother; that is the way it should be in families.
2007-09-20 18:14:02 · answer #7 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are a great sister and you should try your best to get him to live with you. if your brother doesnt trust you try talking to him EVERY DAY so that you can gain his trust and get him away from where he lives now b/c that is crazy the way they treat him but its even crazier b/c your mother did it to.
2007-09-21 11:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by volleychick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow! ummm i think you should go to the police and report that place he's in!
good luck sweet heart and god bless you and your brother!
2007-09-20 17:11:47 · answer #9 · answered by SiLlY GiRl 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋