my therapist says that I am choosing to live in sadness and despair. But I feel that I cannot help it because so MANY bad thngs are happening all at once. What do you think? Is that really a choice when everything is so overwhelmingly tragic?!
2007-09-20 15:47:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
get another therapist
2007-09-20 15:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by StephiPets 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are not fighting the sadness & despair, are unwilling to change your point of view, yes, you are choosing to be sad. You have to take your meds, exercise, eat right, don't stay in bed, etc.
I know what you mean about tragic, been there, wrote the book. The first thing is prayer. I put my burdens on Him and abandon them. If they come back, I send them back where they belong, to the One who deals with our troubles and illnesses.
The second is ministering to other people. I know, you can't leave your house right now, but I didn't have to leave to make a huge difference in my life and the lives of others. My husband & drs asked me to find a new hobby, so I decided to study floral design. After a lesson or two (from a textbook my sister gave me), I had too many bouquets in my house. So I started giving them away. I've been amazed how the flowers find themselves to someone who really needed encouragement that day. I often give more than one bouquet, and ask the receiver to give the extra bouquet to someone they love. Very often this is someone I don't know, or someone I could not reach out to. The encouragement to me has been well worth all the work, the money, the worry, even if not a single soul benefitted other than me.
Try making care packages for troops abroad, or crocheting thick warm blankets for the homeless. Send a college student some brownies, or send a note to your grandmother--hi, just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you, Me.
None of these things take much effort and some don't require much $$, but all of them will choose life and happiness for you. Instead of choosing despair, choose to be an angel for someone who needs it.
NAMI - National Alliance for Mental Illness has great resources from finding a dr and seminars to buckets full of information about your specific malady. There are discussion boards, too, if you want to talk to someone who is walking in your shoes today. www.nami.org.
Best wishes,
TX Mom
Debbie
Chronic depression, anxiety disorder 20 yrs.
2007-09-20 23:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is such a thing as self-pity but it is done to get attention. If you get attention then do it again. Your female therapist will still be able to help you when you are ready. There has to be more to happiness than a simple choice to get rid of sad. Let her teach you some ways she uses and you pick one of those. To be free of depression is a goal. Travel is the easiest answer and often cheaper than a therapist.
2007-09-21 00:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people actually do choose to feel that way at times. I know that when so may things negative happen it feels like things never go right. My sister has felt this way at times. Sometimes things happen to people and it can not be explained. I would just try to get through the things that are happening right now, and it will get better!! Good Luck to you!!
2007-09-20 22:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by JEJE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a lot to be sad about today. I don't know how people make it without faith in the Lord. Since I asked Christ into my life many years ago, I have been much happier. I recommend Him to you. Read the Bible (New Testament). Try praying. I'll pray for you. Look for a good Bible-believing church. John 3:16.
2007-09-21 00:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by Cee T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he means not to give in to all the things that have been going on with you. If it were only just that easy. Some people find it easier to stay in a sad fink rather than rising above. Change Dr's too.
2007-09-20 22:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by gowpet 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being a witness to what is and accepting what is, will give you a happier life.....
this is not less than the most powerful trans-formative advice you'll get.
2007-09-20 22:54:37 · answer #7 · answered by in_light_7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nami is an organization founded by drug companies if you want to be drugged and not deal use them, They also help doctors get teens kidnapped. Faith based counseling is Gods help not mans.
2007-09-21 00:06:50 · answer #8 · answered by theroadwetake 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop seeing him and see a new one!!! They are meant to help you, not tell you your feeling this way by choice because your not!!!
2007-09-20 22:55:41 · answer #9 · answered by honeychild_star 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first person..Get another therapist.
I wish you luck.
2007-09-20 23:07:27 · answer #10 · answered by }{PurpleLipz}{ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋