i have a girlfriend thats in navy boot camp and she wants to leave?

Question

she had wrote me and my roommate also her mom saying she dont wanna be there no more then i missed a call from her and i called the number back and it was the hospital and she has a bad knee so if she serious hurt her knee do they send her home do she have options or my girlfriend has a pride of not being disrespect and also in the letter to my roommate she said she got in trouble for disrespect any officer or something so let me know any info thank you

Answer 1

She really needs to get with the program and honor her commitment. She doesn't need a dishonorable discharge on her record. It will haunt her for life.

Answer 2

At one time or another everybody wants to leave boot camp. That's just the way it goes. If she's injured and in a medical platoon, she's probably getting pretty down in the dumps. Before a decision is made to drop her from boot camp altogether, they'll give her knee every opportunity to heal.

That's where you come in... You need to be her cheerleader right now. LEt her know you believe in her, that you KNOW she can do it, that she's tougher than she thinks she is.. and soon she'll be back in a training platoon, kicking some serious butt. That's what she needs to hear from you.

Boot camp is mostly a mind-over-matter experience.. and her health has got her mind telling her she can't or doesn't want to complete the program. How will she feel about herself in six months, or 2 years, if she doesn't stick with it? She'll probably always regret not gutting it out and getting back in there, if her knee will allow her to. So... encourage her not to give up... THAT'S what she needs.

Answer 3

EVERYBODY sends those letters home.....EVERYBODY!
Also, everyone spends a lot of time being hurt or sick in boot camp.

They are not sending her home. They will make her better. She will get the life of boot camp figured out and she will be just fine.

The Navy is a great job, but yes boot camp does suck until the last couple of weeks. It is a breaking down process to make you a team player instead of an individual. Your girl friend needs to keep her mouth shut and her ears wide open. There is a lot of information to learn in boot camp. The more she fights it by mouthing off to people senior in rank to her the worse her life will become. She will learn life is much better for those people that listen and only do as they are told. The others will get a lot of special treatment in the form of jumping jack, push up's and sit up's.

Support her and listen to her cry along the way about how bad she hates it and in a few more weeks she will graduate and be proud as hell at herself for hanging in there and making it.

She is not unique at all with the letters and calls.

Answer 4

If she had a disqualifying condition of the knee before enlisting she will be discharged with a general discharge under honorable conditions for a disqualifying condition which existed prior to entry. Or she could be discharged for being unadaptable to military service. That discharge could be under less than honorable conditions. But, unless she faces and is convicted by a general court-martial there is no way she can receive a dishonorable discharge.
In either case it sounds like she made a tragic decision in her life. Better to face the music and get her discharge. If she sticks around too much longer she will become an "attitude anchor" weighing everyone else down.

Answer 5

Hi. I just got out of the Navy less than a year ago. I was in for 4 years. It's very normal during boot camp to want to go home. When you're there, it feels like the worst thing ever...but once you're finished, it seems much easier than it was. I hope she sticks with it, even if she doesn't reenlist later. Not to make you feel bad, but it's really disappointing to call home and not get to talk. If you don't already, try writing her letters, even if you don't have much to say. Or maybe, send a card to let her know you're thinking about her. Try to stay optimistic and encourage her. She may feel alone right now and maybe questioning why she decided to do this.

If she's hurt, first they will try to fix it, but sometimes, they will send you home. It's really determined case-by-case. And as far as being disrespectful, it happens. She may get in some trouble, but usually they don't kick you out for that. Everyone gets reprimanded in boot camp for something at some point. If she's stressed, she can always go and talk to a Chaplain (they are like the religious officers in the Navy). They can usually make you feel better without being too "preachy".

She must've had a reason that she wanted to join in the first place. Try and remind her of that and please tell her that it gets better (much better) after boot camp, trust me. For now, it will be tough, but when it's over, she'll be proud of herself for sticking to it. She can make it harder on herself or she make it enjoyable, it's up to her. In my experience, you just have to remember that they are basically trying to make you mad and break you down, but it's only to build you up the way they want to. It's sort of like a mind game, but in a good way. The only way to really get through it is to do want they want, you know, "grin and bear it". I know that sounds hard and it is, but it's easier than getting in trouble all the time.

I wish her the best and also I hope that her knee injuries aren't serious in any case. Good luck to you as well!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

The best thing for her to do is follow the rules and regulations of the Navy, serve the time that she volunteered for, do her job well, stay out of trouble, and receive an honorable discharge when her time is up. Things will get better after she finishes boot camp. If she is ill or has an injury, she will receive good care in the Navy hospital

Answer 8

I agree with everyone who says that she should try to stick it out. Basic training or boot camp is very hard and almost everyone DOES want to go home. If they do not give up, graduation day will be one of the best days of her life.

Try to encourage her to stay AND do her best including not being disrespectful. I promise, once she gets through and goes to A school, things will be a lot better.

Listen to her cry and let her know you understand but if she quits she will regret it. Quitting things once you have committed to a course of action gets to be a bad habit. I hope she decides to stay. She will be really, really glad she did.

P.S. Tell her Mom to listen too but encourage her to stay. Your support and encouragement as a united front will help her stay strong. And let her know that when she comes home on leave, you will take her out to dinner and celebrate her success! It will be something she can look forward to.

Answer 9

It is no important if she wants to stay.she sighned a contract to give the navy 4 years.
Lots of girls that sign up,get home sick and miss
the old friends.
sure boot is hard and it makes girls into young
ladies.Navy changes ladies,and give them a chance at a fucture.
I was a MARINE boot across the parade field behind a high fence,Thats were the NAVY boot
camp was.Just seeing them on drill field gave us
the guts to go on.
if she disrespects a officer,she started off bad.
the hospital will give her good care,but won't send
her home,
if love that girl,you will ask her to stick it out,so when she comes home on leave,she be proud
to have her picture in the paper.
Even if she don't make it and comes home
in disgrace and her friends won't mix with her.

I GAVE YOU A ANSWERE,NOT THE ONE YOU WANTED,BUT THE TRUTH,
I

Answer 10

If she is SERIOUSLY injured, and it was a result of something since she enlisted, she might be medically discharged depending on how bad it is. These days, fewer and fewer service members are being medically discharged because they need to keep as many in as they can during this time of war.
So to actually answer your question, there is no way to just "leave" the military, she signed the contract and only her commander (or even higher) can determine her fate.

Answer 11

If your girlfriend wants out, she needs to go to her instructor and say: I refuse to fulfill my commitment. I don't want to serve any more.

This will start a series of unpleasant events.

First, she will be mentally and verbally abused by her instructors and fellow campers.

Then, if she sticks to her decision, she will be "out processed". This will take even longer than her training and be even more unpleasant.

After 6-12 months of doing lousy jobs and having her dishonorable discharge filed and processed, she will be released from service and have a dishonorable discharge that will follow her around the rest of her life preventing her from ever holding a government job of any kind or political office (except in disctricts where LOTS military hating morons live).

On the flip side, if her injury is such that she will not recover, pretty much the same thing will happen, without the unpleasant jobs, and with a little less harassment. And at the end have a medical discharge instead of dishonorable which isn't nearly as bad.

On the flip side, she COULD fake a medical discharge WITHOUT hurting herself. Tell her to just continue with her training (There really ISN'T a FASTER way out of boot camp then completing the training. People who wash out will still be there when the graduates all leave and are deployed). Then, the next time she is given a physical, say that she can't hear anything out of one ear.