Well I've been raised jewish- hebrew school, bat mitzvah, the whole bit. And I HATE it. I honestly dont want to have any religion whatsoever but my parents make me do all this stupid jew stuff. Whenever I tell them I dont want to be jewish they just get really mad! How can I ditch my religion?
2007-09-20 15:01:14 · 19 answers · asked by Alyson♥ 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Just walk away. Don't go with them. Explain to them why their religion does nothing for you. If they do not listen then you know you need to not involve them in your life.
2007-09-20 15:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by meissen97 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ok listen, I understand that you don't like it because it's completely meaningless to you and that no one should force you to do anything. Do what everyone else say if you want and just wait to leave when the time comes, but please do yourself a favor and think it through; give it a second thought; it might mean something more to you when you're old enough.
You see the big mistake that most Jewish parents make is that they make kids follow the laws, and so they do it because they have to; not because they want you. I'll bet that if your parents would have raised you in a way where everything would mean more to you, then you'd look at it differently.
So basically, just keep in mind that it may not just be the religion but the way you were raised to look at it. Pretty much every good (religious) Jew today is only religious because he WANTS to, because he loves it so much that you have something so beautiful to live for.
Obviously I'm not going to force you to do anything, but please keep in mind with you always that you are always going to be a Jew--whether religious or not--and no one can change that.
EDIT: Oh yea, don't listen to Nadine about the offensive Jew thing...some people just take things differently than others and are more sensitive lol. I'm very religious (out of free will from birth) and I don't find it offensive.
And also don't listen to those people who talk about christianity and jesus and all that crap; don't let it anger you even more about the subject or even draw you closer to that religion =D
One more quick thing: I know that you're probably getting mad at the fact that everyone's just telling you to wait until you're older or to just stick to religion or w/e, so I'm just going to tell you that to ditch your religion, then you can't really do anything about it according to both religious law and the USA law if you live there, which is why you must wait (not really changing anyone's answer; just explaining that there's no alternative or any better answer).
Well, good luck! Contact me if you have any Qs!
2007-09-21 00:39:58 · answer #2 · answered by Yossi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a Christian. Without the Jewish people, there would be no Jesus. I am very respectful and appreciative of Jewish people. They are God's chosen.
We both believe in the Old Testament or Torrah. God tells children to obey their parents.
As a jewish person, you will have more understanding of the Laws that Jesus followed when He was on the earth.
Christianity is not a religion, it is a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, God's only begotten Son. Please don't ditch your religion, instead use it as a tool to help you understand God's Son, Jesus. And obey your parents.
2007-09-20 22:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow. It must be so frustrating that you and your parents can not understand each other. Maybe you should check out more what being Jewish is all about before you reject it. (I mean there's obviously something in being Jewish that it is the religion that has been around the longest.) You could check out more on www.aish.com. Or, you could speak to an Orthodox Rabbi, (who are the most knowledgeable on Judaism) who might be able to help you out with your dilemma.
Good luck!
2007-09-23 22:24:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and respect your religious traditions even though right now you "hate it." When children become adults they will believe what they want to believe. But you come from such a rich tradition and culture it helps tell you who you are and helps you find meaning in your life as you get older. Many things might not make sense now, but they will make a lot of sense when you are an adult. I am a Christian so maybe it isn't my place to say, but I really think you will miss out if you throw the baby out with the bath-water.
2007-09-20 22:09:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you live under their roof, you probably have to follow their rules, including religion. (I feel for you)
When you are old enough to move out, you can "ditch" the religion, but I hope you don't hold it against God, the only thing God really asks is that you believe in Him and do the right things in life. God is a lot easier to get along with than strict "religious fanatic" parents, believe me.
2007-09-20 22:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to understand the religion. If you think you do that and don't believe it, then you have to make your case. It is a free world. I explored and learned and decided I embraced Judaism.
If you truly don't want to be Jewish and your motives are real and intellectual, then sit down with them and tell them why and listen to their arguments for it and counter them with your own knowledge.
My brother went through the same phase and my dad told him to come to him with the reasons and as my brother studied and learned he realised he had no real reasons other than rebellion.
Just do it in a mature fashion.
I am sad to hear Judaism is causing you sadness. It is meant to bring warmth and help into your life. I wish I could help you but I also believe in exploring it for yourself and reaching your own conclusion.
Good luck with whatever you do.
2007-09-20 22:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by Feivel 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound a bit like a spoiled brat by your tone. Do you have a reason for dumping your religion other than sheer apathy? Besides, no need to break your parents hearts. Be a secular Jew, why the big fuss? It's not like you have a legitimate reason to quit on your people.
2007-09-23 22:45:48 · answer #8 · answered by shadyshinobi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that anyone who went through what it takes to be bat mitzvahed would be intelligent enough to realize that using the term "Jew Question" is offensive to Jewish people. Also "stupid jew stuff." I'm skeptical about what you are saying.
2007-09-20 22:11:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I wish I were Jewish. What an honor, because God loves the Jewish people so much. Maybe when you get older, you will appreciate it more. If you are under 18 and in their home, you need to do what they ask. God will bless you for this also. Just ask Him to show you something that will excite you and want you to be involved.
2007-09-20 22:04:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Well, you already have. The fact that you don't acknowledge or follow your faith whole heartedly means you have abandoned it. No matter how many times you go to a synagouqe (sp?) or attend any religous activities, you are not really practicing your religion because you are their physically not spiritually.
2007-09-20 22:05:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋