I'm worried about people not responding and then not having enough food or whatever. Is it acceptable to give those who haven't responded a call and see if they are attending or not? Or is this considered rude?
2007-09-20 14:58:58 · 17 answers · asked by BlackDahlia 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is unfortunate but quite a few people these days are too slack and rude to be bothered responding to your invitation, and it is especially sad if you have made it very easy for them to get back to you; there is no excuse really. But in these situations, yes you do need to call them if they have not responded a week after the RSVP date, don't wait any longer than that. It is not rude of you to call and ask them, but it is rude of them to not reply. Just call and say 'I was wondering if you received your invitation to my wedding?' instead of just saying, 'why haven't you replied you lazy person?'. A subtle reminder is polite and they will probably get the hint and tell you their answer. If they still can't give you an answer when you call, just say 'so I will put you down as unable to attend' and make it clear that that is their decision and that they can't change at the last minute as it is too late.
2007-09-20 15:45:20 · answer #1 · answered by BTB2211 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You definitely should call them if they do not RSVP on time, it's not rude at all, perhaps their card got lost in the post, just call them and say that you are finalising the numbers for the caterers and just giving them a little call to see if they are able to come, that doesn't sound rude at all
2007-09-21 04:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can call them! I know just how you feel! I am missing about 40% of my RSVPs and there's only a week left before the date I asked them to reply by. I asked a question about RSVPs recently, and got a great suggestion-call and say "I never got your RSVP, I just wanted to make sure you got your invitation!" (Even though you know they did) and then go from there. I hope you get your replies, I know how frustrating it can be!
2007-09-20 23:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes call them. It is not rude. Some people have two list of people A & B list. If you have two list this my free up space for people on list B . I am a wedding consulant and that was one of the things I learn in school. I hope you sent out the inviantions at least two months in ahead of time ( if you had A & B list ) So Yes call them. Do it nicely.
2007-09-20 22:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by NayNay 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is six of one and half a dozen of the other. Polite people will respond - a negative reply is also expected. Since your friends aren't up on Emily Post, a phone call would not be out-of-line. Be chatty and friendly - say how much you would enjoy to have them come. Don't be pouty or apologetic.
2007-09-20 22:07:23 · answer #5 · answered by retmil 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Absolutly!! It is not rude at all to call, in fact that would be your wedding planners job if you had hired one. So once the RSVP date passes, pull out your phone book and give them a call!
2007-09-20 22:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by Reba 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It's not rude at all, what's rude is them not bothering to let you know. You could go the mean way and have them turned away if they show up. I'd call though. They might have forgotten, a call would be a gentle reminder.
2007-09-20 22:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by Katy 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes, you can call them once and leave a message if they don't call back in 24, exclude them from the guest list. They are being rude, not you.
2007-09-20 22:03:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes it is acceptable to call them and remind them to send their RSVP. you are not supposed to ask them if they are coming just remind them to send it in. also if you did not stamp them, that could be why alot havent come back.
2007-09-20 22:16:05 · answer #9 · answered by MissLoriSunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No don't call them, that would be rude and would look like you are forcing them to come. I would plan a little extra food for those who forget to RSVP. I have never been to a wedding that I had to RSVP for, I might forget.
2007-09-20 22:16:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋