Today I arrived to pick up my 10 year old nephew. Whom is a handful and isn't a perfect child he has his fair share of outbursts and struggles with anger issues. So I pick him up from school today and he has a bright orange note that covers his whole torso area taped to him and it reads in big bold black letters " I DON'T KNOW HOW TO BEHAVE AND I MUST CHANGE IF I WANT TO GO TO 5TH GRADE" I had two thoughts. My first was WTF! Maybe he won't do that again. My second was no one should ever do that to a kid. What would be your thoughts on this issue?
2007-09-20 14:34:03 · 17 answers · asked by Jenny L 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
This reminds me of a news story in which a little girl kept forgetting to wear her glasses to school. The teacher used permanent marker to write a reminder about her glasses ON HER FACE!! Seeing as how this is 2007 and not 1832, this form of punishment seems really stupid and cruel to me. If you have custody of your nephew, make an appointment to see the principal and teacher right away. Find out all the details and let them know in no uncertain terms that this is not acceptable. Keep the note for documentation if you haven't already thrown it away. If you don't have custody of your nephew, bring the problem to the attention of whoever does.
As for his "fair share" of outbursts and anger issues, work on it with him. Has he been tested to see if these problems are beyond his control? How can YOU help him to behave better in school? The teacher HAD to be at a breaking point to make a sign like that and tape it to his body, so clearly his behavior is beyond normal. He needs to be held accountable for his actions (assuming they're something he can control), and the teacher shouldn't have to be the only person making sure this is getting done.
2007-09-20 15:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have demanded to speak with the teacher or faculty member that was responsible for the note.
It is absolutely NOT ok to do that. Children need guidance and structure. You cant tape a not to a kid and embarrass them and think that it will make the child act like an angel. If anything that may have the opposite effect. You should defiantly tell your brother/sister about this so that they can arrange for a meeting with the teacher. Bottom line, they are children. Not everyone remembers that and not everyone has there best interests at heart so the parents, aunts, uncles and other family members need to ensure that they are receiving the proper care and guidance that they deserve.
2007-09-20 23:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by izumz420 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I actually got chill bumps when I read this. Personally I would have turned around and talked with his teacher. However I understand that might not have been an option. Tell the mom to take a picture and also do not destroy that note. She needs (or whoever takes care of him) to go to the school and DEMAND what was the meaning of doing this to this child? Was he also upset about it? I'm sure he got made fun of. Gessssssssssssh. That teacher needs to be FIRED. I really don't think contacting a lawyer is going to do anything. (unless your nephew is disraught over it). Tommorrow is Friday and a great time to handle this issue. Do start with the teacher however...then go to the principal WITH the teacher.
2007-09-20 22:50:00 · answer #3 · answered by OMGiamgoingNUTS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the teacher doesn't understand is you need to be loving at all times, even when disciplining children.You should never ever humiliate a child, they are fragile, i know from experience that humiliation at a young age is especially painful. You never do that to a kid, it lowers self esteem and creates opportunities for other children to tease.I firmly believe that children need to be treated with the same respect as you give adults, that teacher would be furious if you pinned that to her. The only way to teach a child is rewarding. When positive behavior is shown, rewards. When they misbehave, that reward is taken away. All humiliation does is open doors for teasing, and cause the child to be more unruly because they are mad at you. I suggest you read child psychology/parenting books that prove humiliation to be harmful, take the evidence to the principal, and argue. Don't drop this who knows how often and to whom the teacher does this!
2007-09-20 23:29:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that was called for at all. I'm sure alot of kids made or will be making fun of him. If he has problems at school maybe the parents and the teacher and or school counsler should sit down together and see what the problem may be and to handle it in a more respectful way to the child.
2007-09-20 21:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have marched into that school with the sign off his chest and stuck it so hard against that teachers skull she wouldn't be able to think for a week. I love my nephew very much and I would NEVER let anybody treat him like that. I would tell the school, and suggest they send her back to school or something.
2007-09-20 21:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by Shelbi =) 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
as a concerned parent, or other, i would press charges against the school for this public humiliation of a child. it's more understandable to do something like this to an adult (someone who should know better), but a child is still learning. a teacher who can't handle a difficult child is in the wrong profession. they teach teachers how to deal with these kinds of kids and this kind of humiliation is NOT one of those tactics. this is absurd.
2007-09-20 21:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by JaneDoe 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think that that is some teacher's poor excuse for discipline. The teacher is lazy and doesn't not understand behavior in children. It was more of his/her way to vent about the child than to actually discipline him.
I would suggest a school meeting and brainstorming ways to discipline the child in a way that teaches him correct behavior, not humiliate him and build up the teacher's ego.
2007-09-20 21:40:48 · answer #8 · answered by AndyL 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
No one should ever do that to a kid! If I were you I would bring it up to the administration, because kids start to get depressed a LOT earlier now, and with that already building up it's just wrong.Poor kid he probably got teased ALL DAY !
2007-09-20 21:42:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
no that is NOT right! that can embarass him and make he act out more in the long run. i think you or whoever needs to have a talk with that teacher and the principle! you dont do that to a 10 year! he might be growing thru a stage, or he might be acting out for unknown reasons, but treating him like that could make matters worse...he can be punished in other ways...like detention or extra chores in class...anything but embarassment!! it that was my kid i would be FURIOUS!!
2007-09-20 22:00:12 · answer #10 · answered by LuckyMama06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋