Ok me and my girlfriend have been together for 14 months. About 6 months ago we were having sex regularly about 3-4 times a week. But for the last 3 months or so its been maybe once every two weeks. Every time i confront her about it she gets angry and tells me its not all about sex. Yes its not but once every week or two is not easy to bear. And the fact she told me that she's more into sex when she first meets someone than after she's been with that person for a while. I do love her but i dont wanna cheat on her. She even told me she's not a nympho like me. Wanting more sex than once every week or two isnt that bad.
2007-09-20 13:56:15 · 13 answers · asked by Cdawg . 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
probably each time you meet her all you do is to initiate sex or plan activities that eventually lead to sex until it's become a routine of sorts. it would make her feel like all the relationship is about is sex. especially when you confront her about it, just makes it seems more so that it's all about sex, thus that comment.
i don't think it's the number of times you have sex every week. it's the approach and your sensitivity towards her. make her feel that you're with her not because of the sex because honestly, from this angle, it seems like it's all about the sex for you. good luck.
2007-09-20 14:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by dinOgaL(: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess some people are like that. It was the same way with me and my husband, we used to have sex once or twice a day, but after a while it got to be anywhere from once a week to once a month. He's just not into it anymore. Funny thing is, I am the one who wants to make love and he's the one who doesn't.
2007-09-20 14:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by princesspink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that you love her but you do not want to cheat on her. If the relationship is not about sex, why would you consider cheating on her? .
In any relationship there is a honeymoon stage where you have sex all the time. After awhile, you have to actually love each other for who you are, not for how good the sex is.
2007-09-20 14:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by slabside 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex happens in a woman 's head. she's telling you there is more to her than what's between her legs.
Anyone can get to a female early on - it takes a real lover to keep her interest over time.
Women respond to romance - sounds, smells, environment, situations that make them feel safe, warm and loved.
A threat to see someone else should she cease to put out accomplishes nothing. A commitment to help her regain her feelings for you just might get you everywhere. Make it Your problem as well as hers. Tell her how much she means to you, how much you want her to see you as an intimate partner and then remember that actions speak louder than words. What you do to make her feel wanted, desired and cared for is far more than bedroom stuff and should include your contact with her all day long.
This stuff comes with maturity - talk with an older male who is happy with his sex life - like one who's been married or in a relationship for awhile.
2007-09-20 14:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
yah in the beginning it will be sex all the time...she'd do anything to feel wanted by you....but once she knows you want her (and 14 months should prove that) then she wants to feel like sex is not the only reason you want her...she doesn't want to feel cheap, she wants to feel like she is worthy of love. If you love her, then cheating should not be on your mind, if you want to have more sex, then you should validate her feelings by letting her know how much you really do care about her, no sex involved. once she feels that kind of love, then she'll feel like she's having sex with her boyfriend who loves her as a female person, not just as a female body.
2007-09-20 14:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No relationships are not all about sex, but being sexually compatible is important. If you are this early in your life together and she is this standoffish to you I'd say move on. You aren't a nympho to want sex with the one you love on a routine basis.
2007-09-20 14:08:02 · answer #6 · answered by mommeof3 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Looks like shes bored of you. the relationship is in a ditch i think its time to end it.
2007-09-20 14:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by Dustin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's afraid that's all you want? You should talk to her about it.
2016-05-19 21:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she right its not all anout sex now that you know you are compatable just give it a rest that a sure way to run her off
2007-09-20 14:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by ღOMGღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take this advice--- ditch her before she ditches you, you will be happy you did it 6 months from now, trust me
2007-09-20 14:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by kc y 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋