sex before marrage?

Question

what do you think? why?

Answer 1

No, because the guy won't respect you. He'll wonder how many other guys before him you opened your legs for. As for the test drive saying, everyone started from zero. Nobody instantly knew how to do it well. Sex is a learned skill. It can be learned in the context of a loving marriage between two people who love each other and want to fulfill each other's needs.

It is too common nowadays for women to sleep with many men and for it to happen before marriage. Nothing is sacred anymore. As for what Arysa said, is it any wonder why the divorce rate is so high with attitudes like this? Marriage doesn't mean anything anymore.

Think about it - if you sleep with him before marriage and dump he because you didn't like it, what makes you any different than a hooker?

Answer 2

I agree with God's teachings that sex should wait until you're married. I think it's pathetic and sad how people compare marriage to buying a car. If you "test-drive" with everyone you come across, what do you have left to share with the one special person you marry? And then you have to wonder how many other people the people you're "test-driving" have "test-drove". In fact, if you're having sex already and/or living together, why bother getting married? Is it just for the tax break? Because that's not marriage; that's just forming a business partnership.

Everard G, what country do you live in; could you post the source where you got those stats? And please explain something: if a condom breaks, how then does it protect against AIDS and std's?

Answer 3

It's called fornication in the Bible, and also considered a sin. Christians revear sex as something precious and sacred that is reserved only for people who have been married. There is very good reason for this. Sexual sins as they're known as doesn't just effect the two people who had sex. It can potentially effect the lives of generations to come. It can destroy trust and confidence. So that's why it is asked by God two people wait until marriage.

Answer 4

At 61 I'd still be a virgin cos I never married.
I'm all for sex before marriage otherwise no one would know if they got a dud.

Do you realise that the more atheistic the society the less teen age pregnancies, STDs and abortions?
Weird, huh?
Probably has a lot to do with education without lies ... unlike in US where I've heard they're taught that condoms can't stop the spread of AIDS or STDs.

Answer 5

Why not?

Here's the deal. You can look at marriage as this great big holy thing handed down from God, but the reality is that we don't go to churches to get our marriage licenses. We go to courthouses. When a marriage is dissolved, the courts (i.e., government) does the dissolving. Yeah, people get married in churches (I didn't, but that was my choice), but to deny that marriage is a state-regulated contract and not some magic bond from God is to delude yourself. If you're waiting specifically to get married before having sex, you have to ask yourself. Are you going to love this person any more after the ring is on the finger than you do right now? Realistically, nothing changes after the wedding. So why not take that approach before the wedding?

Answer 6

Men have a lot of respect for virgins who wish to sleep with only one person. It shows how much respect a woman has for herself and her body. It also shows she has more to offer because she uses her mind to attract and keep her man rather than just sex.

Also the fact that the woman isn't willing to just spring open her legs everytime she looks at a guy also means she is trustworthy and less likely to cheat on the man than a woman that believes in casual sex with no meaning.

Edit- It makes me wonder if the mother of these women had several sex relationships with men and are proberly divorced or had several marriages and relationships and so therefore haven't bothered to teach their daughters to value sex and to think of marriage as something lasting and not just a piece of paper easily disposed of. Good luck to those that think marriage is just a piece of paper..hope divorce works out for you!

Answer 7

Thou Shalt Have No Sexual Relations Except With Your Husband or Wife To Whom You are Legally and Lawfully Wedded.

I think God's point is pretty clear there don't you?

Answer 8

It's a sin called fornication, and the Bible forbids it.

I believe the Bible is God's Word. Our Creator tells us the best way to live because He cares about us.

Sex before marriage leads to extra heartache of broken relationships, plus it opens a door to demonic involvement.

Even if you don't agree with Christianity, there's an old saying that you shouldn't give the milk away for free. A rather poor way of stating it, but basically it's best to hold out for a marriage commitment, rather than "throwing your pearls before swine"!

That Bible verse doesn't specifically refer to premarital sex, but ask any woman who is no longer in relationship with her lover: I bet she'll tell you it applies!

Answer 9

okay...i know this is going to sound confusing, but there is no such thing as having sex before marriage. the reason is because if you have sex with someone, God automatically takes that as a bond between the two people, and sees you two as married. from then on, you MUST treat them as husband/wife. that is why its so hard to forget experiences like that - because you are bonded with them until death. hope this helps!

PS: on the contrary, if you and someone else wanna have sex and dont mind being committed to each other for life, then yeah, its fine. you dont need to get formally married, cause God already recognizes u. =D

Answer 10

The Bible clearly teaches that all sexual relations outside marriage are wrong in God's eyes. The Bible bluntly says, "Flee from sexual immorality" (1 Corinthians 6:18). This includes any kind of sexual activity apart from marriage.

Remember that God gave us the gift of sex in the first place—and He intended for it to be a source of joy and happiness for us. But He also intended for it to be restricted to marriage. Why? One reason is because it was to be a sign of the unity between a husband and wife. It was, in other words, meant to be an expression of their mutual commitment and love. But sex outside marriage easily becomes selfish, and even boring.

God knows what is best for us, including this important area of our lives. Why ignore His way, when it is best for us in the long run? The Bible warns, "There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death" (Proverbs 14:12) The Bible also promises, "Blessed are they whose ways are blameless" (Psalm 119:1).
There is forgiveness and new life for all who turn to Christ in repentance and faith. Yes, we live in a sex-saturated society—but with God's help we can follow a far better path.