committed adultry". So a woman must first be divorced then you can marry her and commit adultry.
I know he said that when a man and woman marry then they become one soul and one body, and what is gathered by God cannot be separated by a human. However, not every marriage can be considered as gathered by God, even if it is in a catholic church and blessed by a catholic priest since these are not God, and maybe all the marriage was not meant to be from the beginning by GOD.
Please read all the question before you answer.
2007-09-20 13:30:48 · 27 answers · asked by Paula 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
bass p, look at the answers below you!
2007-09-20 13:39:01 · update #1
Please answer without firing back, I mean no offense.
2007-09-20 13:44:43 · update #2
I'm speaking about catholics not all christians.
2007-09-20 13:46:49 · update #3
The Catholic Church believes that God does not recognize civil divorces.
Jesus said, "Therefore what God has joined together, no human being must separate." (Mark 10:9)
However there may be hope of a declaration of nullity.
The term "annulment" is a misnomer because the Church does not undo or erase a marriage bond.
Rather the Church issues a declaration of nullity when it discovers that the parties were not truly joined by God and hence a full spiritual sacramental marriage as understood by the Church was not present.
Then the parties are free to marry for the first time.
With love in Christ.
2007-09-20 17:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by imacatholic2 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the tenets of the Catholic Church enforce the idea that it is impossible for a layperson to commune with God directly - communion, reconciliation, marriage, and the rest of the sacraments must be conducted through an intermediary (a priest). According to the Catholic doctrine, the priest is a holy representative of God, and therefore, when you get married by a priest, you are getting married by God.
The Catholic Church does have a mechanism in place to end a marriage without divorce - it's called annulment. There are many, many restrictions around getting a marriage annulled - one reason is if the marriage was never consummated. Another reason is if you can prove that your spouse has cheated on you.
As far as your quote goes, that indicates that Jesus was against divorce - basically saying that marrying a divorced woman is the same as having sex with a person who is married to someone else (which is the definition of adultery), because of the belief that a divorce cannot really end a marriage in the eyes of God.
I agree that most of these beliefs are unrealistic. Nowadays, the Catholic church won't excommunicate you or anything for getting a divorce, but they won't allow a divorced person to get remarried in the Church, because officially, the Church doesn't recognize the second marriage as valid.
2007-09-20 13:50:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous Coward 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is not forbidden. The Church understands that some marriages don't work out. What is forbidden is getting married again or entering into another relationship. That would constitute adultery.
"Separation (2383)
While maintaining the marriage bond, Canon law does provide for the legitimate separation of spouses (Canon 1151-1155). There is no moral offense if a civil divorce is the only way to safeguard children and legal rights.
Contracting Another Marriage (2384)
Divorce is a grave offense against the natural law because it claims to break a freely chosen contract which really lasts until death. Contracting another marriage (even though recognized by civil law) adds to the gravity of sin, because the remarried spouse is in a situation of public and permanent adultery.
"If a husband approaches another woman he is an adulterer because he makes that woman commit adultery. The woman is an adulteress because she has attracted another's husband" (St. Basil)."
2007-09-20 14:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Catholics *can* marry a divorced woman, providing that her ex-husband has died. Catholics believe matrimony to be a sacrament ( a special blessing from God) and that the husband and wife were joined together through the grace of God.
Adultery, is committed when a married man (or woman) cheats on their spouse though it can also be committed by your own thoughts and desires.
A wedding in a Catholic church can be blessed by a priest, it is not always done, one instance is it the bride or groom is a non catholic and was baptized under a different religion. I my case my wife was Catholic, I was not but I had never been baptized so our marriage was blessed. As of last Sept. 1st my wife and I have been married 34 years.
It is true that a priest is not God but the Catholic church is an apostolic church, meaning that the power that was given to the apostles by Jesus after he started his church, this power was passed to every priest..
You have to keep in mind, that even if a man and woman are joined together by God, they are separated by Satan, look at the primary causes of divorce; Number 1 is extra-marital affairs, most arguments are started over money, if you read the bible it tells you that money is the root of all evil. Not having money but the desire of money.
I believe that every marriage is meant to be forever or until death do us part, but equally I believe that Satan has a big say in how that turns out through his temptations and our own human weaknesses.
By the way, the ONLY reason for divorce in the Catholic church is fornication, any other split-up is often annulled by the church.
2007-09-20 13:53:40 · answer #4 · answered by justgetitright 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is not allowed in Christianity. It is considered sin. It does not mean that divorce does not happen, and there are a couple of cases where it is allowed. In the case of adultery, a Christian is ALLOWED to divorce, although it is still not considered the correct response. Also, a Christian is allowed to let a non-believing spouse leave.
If you continue reading the verse you partially quoted, it goes on to say that you have committed adultery. Hence, Jesus is not saying divorce is ok.
All marriage is considered to be holy, whether there was a ceremony in a church or not.
Since forgiveness and love are the center of Christian conduct, and marriage is to be a selfless act of unconditional love, I can think of nothing cannot be overcome in a marriage through the Lord and prayer. My marriage is proof of that.
God Bless
2007-09-20 13:45:55 · answer #5 · answered by lovinghelpertojoe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Moses from the Old Testament allowed divorce, or the "putting away of wives", which is how divorced women could be found. Jesus taught then that one should not divorce for any other reason besides adultery of the spouse. (although there has been some debate on possible divorce in the case of abuse, but then the divorced could only stay single or marry within the church... but that is quite controversial since there is no solid evidence in the bible condoning remarriage in such cases)
Mathew 19:7,8: "They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? 8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so."
God intended marriage as a lifelong commitment and joining together. There fore anyone marrying a divorced woman/man would be "aiding and abetting" the sin that parted the original couple.
just my humble opinion.....
2007-09-20 13:47:23 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sick of society coming down on divorced woman.(Wouldnt you agree?) I've been there. My ex & I would've killed eachother if I hadnt bailed. No exaggeration. God didnt put us here to be abused!!
If God sent people to hell for their partners crap we'd probably all be up the creek. I think " the church" just cares about ordering people thru hoops. Thats not Gods way! He never wanted drones! I hate the fact that Ive been divorced but that doesnt mean people should just take their partners crap either ( Man OR Woman) I DONT believe God put it together or it wouldve lasted. I know the difference now becuz I finally have who I believe He picked for me. (It could be that people were sleeping with woman who only "claimed "to be divorced. That could mean not to commit til it was documented that the lady in question was truly free by the laws of man.Likely to prevent fornication also Did this help you? I hope so. GOD BLESS!
2007-09-20 14:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by Robyn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read it, and I do not understand what you are talking about. If you marry a divorced woman, and you have committed adultery, then you have broken one of the commandments. We are not GOD and cannot decide, your words "maybe all the marriage was not meant to be from the beginning by GOD, " and pick and choose what we think will be pardonable in HIS eyes. If there is adultery committed by one of the partners in the marriage, then the divorce is the only time that GOD will recognize another marriage for the person who was the partner who did not commit adultery. Anyone who marries the other partner who committed adultery is also guilty of committing adultery.
2007-09-20 13:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What that passage means is actually that divorce is forbidden because it says : if you marry a divorced woman, then you have committed adultry" meaning that if you divorce anyone who marries you is committing adultry so you are making them sin.... meaning that divorce is wrong.... and the priests are the messengers of God so you can actually say they do bless you in the name of God.... and marriage is not only about the ceremony but also about the love and afection you have for each other
2007-09-20 13:38:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
first thing i cant find your question second thing god may have said that but if those who got married and have a huge problems understanding each other they may divorce if a man or a woman can't handle there relationship maybe cause of jealousy or understanding each other. for those who are divorce you may find a church or a session to re group with other people who are divorce , because this special sessions may help you live either alone or with you kids.
2007-09-20 13:40:20 · answer #10 · answered by John Jacob E 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋