me and this guy started IM'ing 3 months ago and we hit it off really well. we share the same morals and interests and we can talk about some of the most personal intimate things. he had a gf when we met and i always gave him advice to help him with her, but one night while we were chatting his gf texted him and gave him the "just friends" speech, I helped him out of it and he said he has an appreciation for me for more than he has words 4. I already really liked him before, but since his breakup i've gotten crazy over him. we even met at the state fair and hung out a little bit. he lives 2 hours away tho! help me, what do i do? he lives so far away that we hardly talk face2face and it seems such a hassle to meet up anywhere. what do you think about dating someone you found online? how do you deal with a longdistance relationship? he's the same guy online as he is in person. we aren't really dating, and it's never really come up, but what if it does? what do i do?
2007-09-20 13:21:04 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't really tell you what to do about the distance, but I live in TX and I met a man online that I connected with and I even visited him in New York. I moved there for a while. I had to come back to Tx because my father was ill, but this guy is still one of my dearest friends( this all began in 1998), and when I'm in NY he's all mine and when he's in TX I'm all his. As for what you should do..... If you really think there is something between you and he does too and you have taken the time to get to know each other online and in person well, a move isn't that difficult and if all else fails you can always move back but at least you'll never look back thinking "what if"
2007-09-20 15:56:24 · answer #1 · answered by Dallas4872 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not knowing how old you are is a bit of a problem. If one of you is driving, 2 hours isn't so bad. If you aren't yet, i think it's a bit tough.
If you're both still in school i think the distance is too much.
i date men i MEET on line but it's because im also 48 years old and it has become pretty standard for professional men with little time to start there. And some very interesting, great men have turned up.
Oh, and just so you know, i've not met ONE SINGLE MAN who even so much as lied about his age, weight or what he does for a living. Nor have i been raped and left for dead to be eaten by bugs.
There certainly are creeps on line and that's where maturity comes in. i do try to stay away from guys from Madrid with dead relatives who have fortunes, guys who are writing from prison and those who's voices squeak when we talk on the phone (yes, you can giggle here).
So if you're 18 or more, why not? You've met him. There's no more danger meeting someone that you chose from chat or a profile than there is in a bar, folks, as long as you are mature enough to weed out the weirdos.
2007-09-20 13:38:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Natasha I married the woman that I met on line and so have nothing but positive things to say regarding long distance relationships. We, like this fella and yourself, also lived over 2 hours apart but we did communicate nightly either through e-mail, phone or IM. Trust becomes a bigger issue because of the distance but if you two are mature, open and honest with each other then there should be nothing to worry about. Best of luck and even if you two don't end up dating or going out as a couple sounds like you may have found a new friend anyway. And none of us can ever have too many of them. Best of luck.
2007-09-20 13:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
been there , done that. i thought the girl i met online was totally my one and only,.
but you will find as i did, that longdistance relationships work because they are longdistance and can get away with cheating behind your back, since you are in different towns.
trust me on this, or learn the hard way, your choice.
2007-09-20 13:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by Aaron M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at it as the one that got away. If it was meant to be, so be it! Long distance relationship are hard to maintain and online relationships are usually fantasy, being LD will breed trust issues with this type of relationship big time.
2007-09-20 13:29:08 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥JDub♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
2 hours! lucky, that's not as bad as me, and i can't even see him, sry lol, just wanted 2 vent a lil. hmm, lets see dating someone u met online, sounds lk a pretty good idea, lol, no thats really cool, i met someone on yahoo myself. dont let the long distance break u apart, yes it can b very very very very very very hard but its worth it. u can always talk online and on the phone, so, just have the special times when u meet, and enjoy talking over the phone.
2007-09-20 13:31:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its okay if you want to get raped, beat and sold into slavery, or better yet buried underground with tons of bugs eating away at you, or as fertilizor in some field, or even better sunkl by weights in the bottom of the ocean and becomming fish fodd, yep that would be great!!! AWESOME!!
2007-09-20 13:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by juniper555 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think is best that you two stay as online friends considering all factors. Only time will tell after that.
2007-09-20 13:30:46 · answer #8 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's fine. I'm crazily in love with someone I met online. From another country.
2007-09-20 13:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Thats the only way for a shy nice guy like me.
2007-09-20 13:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by thresher 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋