Would you date a girl who has a different faith than you?

Question

I'm Christian. I just don't think it will work. Sure she seems nice, but it feels weird. It's not going to be easy to convert one another to the other faith. Plus you might even be turned to their faith. So I don't know what do you guys say. What do Christians say.

God comes before my own desires. So if God says it's not good then it's not good. I live for the spirit not the world.

Answer 1

Yes. Why the hell would you convert her. Unless shes a devil worshiper.

Answer 2

OK First off I DATE a girl of another faith, she believes in god, but the way the worship is different. she is Pentecostal, I am Southern Baptist. Good combination right! ;) Actually I kind of enjoy it. Sometimes I go to her Church because she asks me to and she will do the same. Her mother goes to church with her and they have been going together for a long time now. I was born into the church I am in at this time. I have no reason to leave it unless I move.

Another thing If you love someone, and you really care about them. Shouldn't you be loving them for who they are? You should never try to CHANGE anyone that you are with, unless it is dangerous to there health, or someone Else's. If you feel like she should change what she has been for sometime now then maybe You should take a step back and look at the whole thing for a little while. Its you that needs to change. If you feel it is not worth it then it prob. isn't.

Answer 3

The term "Christian" on this forum, seems to mean "fundamentalist", in my opinion. But are not Catholics, Protestants, etc. also "Christians"? It depends on your definition of the word. In my opinion, a "Christian" is somebody who believes in God, and that Jesus died for our sins; yet so many self-professed "Christians" are willing to condemn others over what I will call "details"---is THAT something God would approve of?? I've always been amazed by what PEOPLE think that God believes is important; my neighbors, for example, are Baptist, and their brand of religion insists that women MUST wear skirts/dresses. My argument with that: Does what you wear make you a better person?? And also, does God really CARE about such stuff??
All that said...if you can accept the girls' basic faith, do you need to sweat the details? You did not mention what "faith" she is...if she is Jewish or Bhuddist you might have an issue. But if she believes in the same basic idea you do, it may be time to examine your own ideas about how religion should be expressed. Good luck!

Answer 4

I'm Baptist. My first real girlfriend (of 3 years) led me to Jesus. She was a believer and I wasn't. If she believed as some in here say Christians should do (don't have anything to do with a non-believer), I wouldn't have gotten saved. If she didn't 'yoke with a non-believer' then she wouldn't have been able to do what God wanted her to do...introduce me to Jesus.
Let's see, I dated 2 Baptists, a Lutheran, a Methodist, 2 Buddhists (Thailand & Viet Nam), a nothing (Christian as compared to anything else, but not a practicing Christian), a Shinto (Japanese foreign exchange student), and a Catholic (married her). The other ones I dated for a bit, I don't think it ever came up or I don't remember (I'm having a hard time remembering what I had for dinner tonight!).

Answer 5

Good for you to follow the leading of the Holy Spirit. It is not that she is bad or maybe even wrong, but when you have different faiths it is difficult, especially when you have children. My mom and dad were of two different faiths and it was unbearable. My dad resented her and she disliked him. You sound young, you have a long way to go through life. Might as well enjoy it with someone you have alot of common with. You probably have already decided that this is not best for you. God will send you someone that will be great for you.

Answer 6

I think the scariest part of your question is that your first statements are concerning CONVERTION. is that all you worry about is who you can make follow your faith?
I date a Pagan woman and im Christian. and its fantastic, we respect each others right to freedom of religion and have interesting discussions. learning about each others faith (with an open mind and not concerning about convertion).

I really think if you cant be with another faith because of the way you think, well then dont be, but i think you should rather consider learning about other faiths and dont concentrate so much on making everyone like you.

Answer 7

Why should it matter? And you "might be turned to their faith"? Is that a bad thing? Like you have a lock on the truth? If it were truth and factual it would not be called FAITH!

I am a non-religious person and have dated many girls of various faiths. Sometimes it would come up, and we would talk about it and then move on. Except for the one Christian girl who asked me "What if you're wrong?" I asked her what if Christianity is the "wrong" religion and the Buddhists have it right? She didn't like that.

Answer 8

I'd say it depends. For example, there are people who are nominally some kind of religion, like those people who are Jewish but never go to Synagogue, and it might be OK to date a person who does not have a strong belief, but at the same time, wouldn't you want someone you loved to be a Christian? And wouldn't you want her to be a strong Christian? We are supposed to be each others helpers and soul-mates. The best thing is to stick to someone who loves the Lord.

Answer 9

I had a similar situation. I fell for a girl who said that she was a Christian, displayed all the right characteristics for being a Christian and still something didn't feel right. So, I went with her to her church and all the "quirks" were discovered. Her church believed in the basics of Christianity, but they didn't believe that the majority of the New Testament was true. The part that the Old Testament is a foundation for the New Testament never occurred to them.

I stayed with that girl for three months. At the beginning of the third and final month, I concluded that I couldn't stay with her because she didn't believe in growing in the Word. She was firmly planted and wanted to watered just enough to stay planted. No growing, no enlargement of her knowledge, no telling others about Christ. There were other factors as well, but they weren't as "alarming" to me as the ones that I have listed.

The apostle Paul didn't warn us, "..do not be unequally yoked.." for no reason. Consider the word picture of two puppies pulling in equally opposite directions on a milk bone. One of them is eventually going to relent or give up.

Answer 10

I too am a Christian... I think that dating another person with different faith will only lead to hardship. Because of your differences in what you believe you'll have a harder time in keeping your faith. It says in the bible to try and surround your self with the ppl that would help your faith grow and not kill it. I would suggest not to, but it depends on how deep you are in your faith

God bless

Answer 11

..... Yep IT Won't Work.....!

(2Corinthians 6:14-to-18) Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers; for what fellowship does righteousness have with lawlessness? And what partnership does light have with darkness?

(2Co 6:15) And what agreement does Christ have with Belial? Or what part does a believer have with an unbeliever?

(2Co 6:16) And what agreement does a temple of God have with idols? For you are the temple of the living God, as God has said, "I will dwell in them and walk among them; and I will be their God, and they shall be My people."

(2Co 6:17) Therefore come out from among them and be separated, says the Lord, and do not touch the unclean thing. And I will receive you

(2Co 6:18) and I will be a Father to you, and you shall be My sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.

Thanks, RR

P.S. I don't Smoke.... and I don't Chew.... and I don't GO... WITH GRILS THAT.... DO !