My inlaws are here and they tend to be extremely rude and condescending. Of course, everything is best the way that they did it. Incessently, they walk around and pick on the way things are - and I kind of feel like - hey, you had your shot - if you really are not busy enough with your own life, why pick on ours? I pray that in retirement, I am not one to spend my free time analyzing my children's existence - do other people go through this?
2007-09-20 13:10:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Slide this guy/gal to the side and tell'em you'll slice there throat unless they cooperate with your wellbeing-- otherwise some dark sh*t gonna rise in their face..you get me?
2007-09-20 13:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a serious talk with your husband. Did you invite them to be with you? Did he? Did they invite themselves. The reason I ask is that many on this site seem to be taken over by their in laws and they do not invite them. Use the word INVITE from now on setting the tone that they will be invited not come at their convenience. If you did invite them, then you need to be gracious until they leave and if it isnt soon, perhaps you could , after telling your husband about this, state that something has come up so you will have to ask them to leave now but you will INVITE them another time. ( not) Then tell your husband he will have to see them at their home...I think this needs some distancing from you for a while. I hope you can practice some comments back to their rudeness ( not in a mean way but in a subtle way) so that next time you ever see them you can have more control.
2007-09-20 14:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have pretty decent in-laws so I really don't have much to complain about. But if I were you, I would politely call them out on it. Tell them that you find their comments condescending and feel like they are nit-picking about everything. Let them know that you don't appreciate the comments and if they can't keep their comments to themselves, then they cannot stay at your home anymore.
And I think "Tough Guy" needs to quit answering if they aren't going to make a positive contribution in regards to advice.
2007-09-20 13:43:16 · answer #3 · answered by sbp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be surprised at how many people deal with this all the time. It's hard to ignore, but when they say this is better that way either say, POLITELY, that sounds nice but we prefer it this way, or say it's nice you would suggest that but my mother taught me this way. Nice hurts more than being antagonistic toward them. You've heard the saying kill them with kindness. It usually works. If it don't help all you can do is try and ignore it, that is unless your spouse has the backbone to say to them privately, I would appreciate you not constantly telling my wife how to do things. If I have a complaint I will take it to her, until I do understand I must like it like this even if it's not your way. Good luck.
2007-09-20 13:22:45 · answer #4 · answered by WACVET75 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes My in laws come here and judge the way we raise the kids,how we drive and where I work.One year my husbands stepmother came down to visit and told me I needed a job. I just broke my foot and had surgery on it. And this mouthy b**** is telling me to go out and get a job.
Just be nice. That will piss them off even more. Because they don't see you getting mad.It will work out they will be gone soon.
2007-09-20 13:21:40 · answer #5 · answered by Mary M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If and when that is occurring why aren't you saying anything to them in a calm manner? Usually when people don't say anything it's because it never happened in the first place, is blown out of proportion, OR they'd rather beef and label to others than deal with their own relationships.
2007-09-21 01:30:01 · answer #6 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would tell them.....
You are more than welcome in my home to visit providing you give me and my wife the respect we deserve. Please do not give us any advice unless we ask you for it. Please do not insult our intelligence or act rude in front of our children.
Add any other rules you want just don't go overboard. If they do not do as you ask then tell them to leave.
Your house your life your rules. They are guests. If they can't act like adults then they leave. That is all. If they refuse to leave call the police to have them removed.
Whatever you do be nice and friendly. Anger just makes their point.
Good luck!
2007-09-20 13:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you letting that get under your skin? Are they forcing you to change? Can you not humor them and make comments about how nice it must have been to live in the good old days??? OR do like the lysol commercial and ask if it will make them forget your adress LOL
2007-09-20 13:16:37 · answer #8 · answered by KatGotHerTongue 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they do not like things the way they are..put them to work! Clean the toilet, mow the lawn, etc. They sound like a bunch of PITA's ( pain in the as#es) . Been there done that...Good luck!
2007-09-20 13:19:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my MIL is a very negative, nasty woman. Her life didn't turn out the way she wanted so she puts others down to make herself feel better.
As a result, I haven't seen her in over 2 yrs.
Good times
2007-09-20 13:15:51 · answer #10 · answered by Earl 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋