okay well i have my first bf for 3 days now and its weird. im 14 and the guy im dating is 16. well all we do is hug each other and he puts his arms around me when we sit and stuff. is this how a relationship is supposed to be? i usually only hang out with him at school during snack(which is our break). at lunch i dnt usually hang out with him. i want to be wit my friends too but i also wanna be with him. who should i be with?
my friends always say y am i not with him at lunch lol. but i dont know i dnt consider this a relationship...but he IS my bf. we also never kiss or hold hands or anythin
2007-09-20 12:39:25 · 16 answers · asked by kristina5193 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well that's good. Take it slowly. You don't wanna jump into things right away like sex or marriage do you? lol ... Just relax and yeah hang out with him a bit more and have good communication. Your relationship is not weird at all ... its usually like this for everyone with their first boyfriend especially because neither one of you have a lot of experience. So don't worry about it. Good luck!! =)
2007-09-20 12:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by ↓ ♥мǝow♥ ↑ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly it has been three days, dont you think your stressing a lil too much for three days!? So there is a two year age gap, when your 14 that is in some ways looked down on, but the reasons behind that are because 14 your still so immature, your trying to find yourself, i mean your together three days and stressing!!
With the holding hands/kissing situation, it will happen, i mean you've barely been together and maybe he thinks ur freaking out or not wanting to spend time with him, try get him and his group of friends to come hang around yours, otherwise you'll be torn between the two if the relationship lasts and thats the last thing you want...
Stress less and good luck
2007-09-20 12:54:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 days and your friends ask why you are not together at lunch? Gimme a break.
You have to start somewhere and I hope you are not planning on something more intense at school. Figure out if you have something in common - besides hugging - and then you might have a "relationship".
There ought to be a rule - how about "You have to be friendly with someone for at least a week and have had at least 3 hours of phone conversation and one "date" for it to be a "relationship"
2007-09-20 12:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by Mike1942f 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What my friend and her bf do at lunch is they sit with their friends for the first ten minutes. Then, they sit with each other for the rest of the time. Our lunch period is forty-five minutes, so she is with her bf for about three quarters of the time. A relationship and a bf is the same thing, so you should start getting closer. You don't seem that close, so do you really like him?
2007-09-20 12:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 14 & 16 that's ALL you should be doing. if you sit with your arms around each other, why don't you hold his hand?
14? honey you have a lot to learn. there is more to the boyfriend / girlfriend thing than sex, or kissing or anything physical!
who do you want to be with? that's your choice. at 14 i'd choose the boy, but remember when that boy breaks your heart, are your girls still gonna be there?
2007-09-20 12:46:27 · answer #5 · answered by loriloriloriloriv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it has only been 3 days. give it time.
the more time you spend together and get to know each other things will get better. kissing and holding hands can come a bit later when your comfortable.
hang out with who ever you want to. spend one lunch with him and then next day be with your friends.
2007-09-20 12:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by marlie07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez that sounds like my relationship lol...
Well, first ?
What do u feel about him?
Also, i know how you feel ceratainly i have been going out with this guy over 5 months and we never hold our hands, he gets mad when i'm walking with him, he doesn't talk 2 me alot, we dont even kiss, and he always hugs me and also he just put his arms around me. It gets me so frustraded also bcuz he doesn't trust me alot and also he is very cold on our relationship
yOU KNOW WHAT U HAVE TO DO IS TELL HIM WHAT HE FEELS ABOUT U and if he doesn't feel srt of just be friends or whatever it takes him.
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2007-09-20 12:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by clau_kool_lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well by the way he is treating u ..it seems like he just wants to be friends or he just thinks of u as a friend.. and u need to make the 1st move.. becuz some guys like it when the girl makes the 1st move.. and thats when they realize that u want to be with them..but when u do .. and if he still treats u like a friend den that means he just wants to be friends..and if so then.. just be friends and go out and hunt urself another boy.. either that..or ask him if he wants to be with u..and if he does then ask him y he wont act like it.. and it is hard for u to know becuz by the way he is treating u.. all u have to do is talk to him..
2007-09-20 12:50:19 · answer #8 · answered by baby girl 21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit back and relax! give it time and eventually you will actually have a relationship. you just need to get to know one another. and y don't you hang out with him and your friends at lunch? or you could always have your friends hang out with his friends so that you both hang out together.
2007-09-20 13:02:27 · answer #9 · answered by me, me, and me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope! As you become older age won't remember as plenty. i don't be attentive to why, yet its authentic. notwithstanding, I do think of if a 4 12 months old grew to become into courting a 9 12 months old even though it would be freaky. notwithstanding, it does not remember as you become older. desire this helps :)
2016-10-05 02:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by belvin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋