I went out with him once. I broke up with him. Thenwe went back out. He broke up with me. I still love him. I can't stop thinking about him. I wish he would take me back. What do you think? How many trys do you think could work? My sister said the third try might always make things better. Because it means either person could make the tie a winning cut. We still talk alot. But oh my gosh i still love him! Please help!
2007-09-20 12:37:13 · 5 answers · asked by gurly_gurl230 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go with what your heart,tells you,and Good Luck.
2007-09-20 13:03:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whenever people are doing the "on again off again" thing, they usually forget the reasons they kept going "off again". These are the relationships that usually should stay off before a bad marriage occurs followed by children who end up in it and are forced to have miserable childhoods.
I know that I do not know you personally and do not know what you are feeling, but I can tell you that just because you keep thinking about someone doesn't necessarily mean that you love that person. People are quick to throw the word "love" on top of any agreeable feeling towards another person.
Love is an unselfish feeling that while you cannot live without him, if living without him is what will make him happy, then you will make that sacrifice and take the hit so that he can be happy. It is also a feeling that is backed by action (and no I'm not talking about sex at all) like finding what reasonable thing he likes and giving it to him, or spending time getting to know him intimately, or even those moments when the two of you are together not doing anything and you still feel like you are on the top of the world. Also, if you only went out with him twice, I don't think you know enough about him to love him. You may have been infatuated and intrigued, but it's very unlikely that it was true love. Find out everything about him: All his bad sides, all his bad habits, the opinions of his friends and family about him, his goals and aspirations and the things that are possible keeping him for reaching them, and the good and bad things he has done in the past. After learning all these things, then you can decide if you are in love with him or not.
This is how you know: back off of him for a while. No calls, no seeing each other at all, for a couple of weeks. If at the end of that time you still feel the same, then it may be the real thing. Anyway, a break is what you need to figure out why you two are not working. I can also tell you from experience that the more you keep in contact with a guy you like, the more it exxagerates that feeling, but if you back off, it will normally widdle away if it is not love.
2007-09-20 13:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by peaceablefruit206 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there was a reason you broke up. A serious reason then you already know the answer. But if its petty stuff, then sometimes couples have to work through that until they learn to communicate without overreacting. If you cant make it more than a few months without breaking up, then there is most likely some differences than one or both of you cant seem to get over.
2007-09-20 12:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by slabside 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You went out twice and you love him? What are you...12!? I think you two have hit your limit. It wasn't meant to be.
2007-09-20 12:48:48 · answer #4 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just dont give up if you find someone else thats ok.
2007-09-20 12:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by donielle 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋