I'm a 32 year old female, recently diagnosed with bi-polar disorder. I met this amazing guy that we both fell madly in love with one-another. The feeling was mutual, but something happened when I went to meet his parents, can't explain it, but I guess I was having one of my moods associated with manic depression. I was depressed the entire time I was there. and when he asked what was wrong, I couldn't explain. He now won't support me at all, and I think is completely hurt by what happened at his parents house. Also, I've been calling him alot, and he usually hangs up on me. I don't know what to do. I feel like I have lost him forever and I love him sooooo much.
any advice would be appreciated!!!
2007-09-20 12:14:27 · 17 answers · asked by BeautifulRose 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Any guy who doesn'r support you after a "just being human" incident like that is not worth your time. Alot of people don't know how to act around the parents of someone they care about.. It is your duty to figure out why you got depressed...fear...anxiety....not feeling worthy? All things in your' mind and not of reality. Is he angry because of the incident or your' inability to communicate with him? Maybe he thought you didn't like his parents... At any rate maybe you push guys away because you think if they knew who you really were they wouldn't like you...When they probably know who you are more than you think they do already.
2007-09-20 12:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by Joe S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-19 21:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have reviewed all the questions that you have posted. You have obviously had some traumatic things happen to you in your life. I would seek a 2ND opinion on the Bi-Polar disorder. Until then I DO suggest you stay on the medication given (Probably Lithium)
I also agree with the comment from above. Quit calling this guy for now.. You do need to work on yourself and you can do this on your own as well as with help.
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Good luck
2007-09-20 12:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first thing..i am in Mental Heath in nursing school and we are doing clinicals at a mental instituition. I have learned alot about bipolar and the effects it has on peoples lives. We deal with these types of people inpatient and outpatient. By reading what you wrote...the only thing that i could make out of this situation is that your boyfriend obviously does not understand your disease process and the fact that you can not help your moods. In all fairness to you he should have explained to his parents before u got there just to inform them...and then he should have backed u up.....if he does not want to be burdened with you b/c of ur disease then he does not deserve someone special like you.....i would write him a letter to tell him how you feel and that you are confused to what is going on and that u would appreciate his honesty! i hope that everything works out for the best..what ever may happen!
how long have you had bipolar?
do you take your medications and attend your appointments?
2007-09-20 12:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by jewelry lady! love my job 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it to pen.
Find a really nice beautiful card that is blank inside, or the message is sweet and short. Tell him how you feel, what your medical condition entails, how you are handling your medical condition, offer an apology to him and his parents and ask if there is any way you can make it up to them.
Stop with the phone calls. Sounds desperate. Finish your letter by asking if he could call you and you'll meet over a cup of coffee (neutral area).
If they can't accept you right now, then it's a blessing that you don't get tied up with a family that doesn't have empathy for those with illness. Nobody has perfect health.
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2007-09-20 12:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you evr explain to this guy that you are bi-polar?
If he cannot handle your mood swings and cope with your disorder he is not the right person for you.
You need to be fair to any prospective boyfriend and warn them in advance that you can have these mood swings. Then they can make an informed choice about it.
It sounds as though your ex found he had bitten off more than he could chew.
2007-09-20 12:21:26 · answer #6 · answered by bri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loved you he at least try to understand. You deserve better, and he's not it. Don't call him because your giving him more of a reason to think your "out there". Your better than that. He sounds like a very selfish person with no compassion. Move on. And bi-polar disorder is so common now, so don't hide behind that and make excuses because his family made you feel like ****. He is what he came from.
Move on honey and show'em you'd don't need'em
I too suffer form b-p-d :)
2007-09-20 12:27:56 · answer #7 · answered by gowpet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is does he know you're bi-polar that you have certain mood swings? If not, just let him go for a few days, then call him and see if he's in a better mood.
2007-09-20 12:19:55 · answer #8 · answered by alwaysagoodgrl2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I am so sorry. Sounds as though he is not the right person for you. You need someone that is much more understanding and will not be embarrassed by your moods. It will be difficult, but you need to move on. Let him alone. The sooner you get over him, you will be able to find someone that really loves you. He is out there for you, you just need to be patient.
2007-09-20 12:20:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been diaganosed with this problem "bi-polar" then how about getting help with dealing with it. I'm sure there's support groups or something out there. Check it out. If I had this problem that's what I'd try to do, especially if its making me screw up my life. Ya know? Good Luck and go find out how to handle it.
2007-09-20 12:19:56 · answer #10 · answered by MLJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋