I am a 34, I have no life and I am so lonely. I broke up w this guy a yr and a half ago...and have been in this funk for so long. It's not about him, but I don't go anywhere anymore, meet people or go out with friends. I don't even listen to the radio/cds anymore. I just don't know how to be the way I was.
I've been on meds for anxiety/OCD for a while and go to talk to some one, but any advice from someone who's "been there" would be so helpful. Thank :)
I also have a 16 yr, and she's tries to get me up and out to no avail.
2007-09-20 12:00:42 · 6 answers · asked by gowpet 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
First of all, know that you're not alone. I'm younger than you, not trying to say you're old, but I have been through something similar. It is definately a form of depression. It is very similar in women after a break-up, but usually only lasts for maybe a few weeks. Sometimes, it gets worse though? Are you eating your breakfast??? That's a big one. I'll tell you what, I thought it was just some stupid thing people said for no real reason but I've found it to be truely effective. Also, try to brighten your surroundings. I mean this literally. Pull up the shades and spend some time outside. A good dose of fresh air will do wonders! Another great thing is vitamins. I personally reccomend One-A-Day Womens. This works well for me, but try different ones to see which works best for you. Another thing that would give you hope is To have a religion. Now, I don't want to say any certain one because I'm not aware if you are religious or not and I don't want to offend you, but look around, ask family members. Find something in your life that stays constant and that you can look foward to. Finally, the one true thing that will help you in life is sheer willpower. There is no magical formula to help you, the first step must be taken by YOU! As I said before, you are not in this alone. You must realize that there are many things in your life to be proud of and happy for; one of these beingg your daughter! Was she 16? Know that she cares about you and wants to help. There aren't teens that would do that. And you should also be happy for yourself and love YOU the way YOU are. God loves you and I love you, good luck!
2007-09-20 12:21:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
sweetie you are just going through a depression right now . and i hear sometimes that the medicine's you are on could have something to do with it you should talk to your doctor and let them know how you feel . also try to get out with your 16 year old why you still have time enjoy them cuz kids grow up and get married and leave you so take this time to get close why they are trying . i hope all goes well with you in life and in relationships . just let all of your worries go and live you life the best way you know how . good luck
2007-09-20 22:01:29 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ tweety ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your way to fight back is that no one is going to save you and solve your problems, BUT YOU CAN come to your own rescue and CREATE a life that you love.
Choose to be someone about restoring your happiness and take actions consistent with that. Talking about the sadness only prolongs it. ACTING to get yourself out of your shell, even if you don't feel like it at first, will turn that train around.
Exercise to get your endorphins going, and gradually wean yourself off the drugs.
So you got knocked down. Make the choice to dust off while you are still young enough to enjoy your life and health.
2007-09-20 19:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Been there, done that. Lift your head high. There is someone out there for everyone and if you don't get out there and look for "him" how will you ever be happy. I am 32 now and have been married for 4yrs and have 3 children. I didn't stop. Best wishes, now get out there!!!!!!
2007-09-20 19:11:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, my advice is to stop worrying that you aren't with anyone, and start walking - get out and into the sunshine. walk, and walk, and walk, and walk. it really did me wonders - maybe it was the exercise, or the calming effects of just walking - but it really helps.
Peace+
2007-09-20 19:15:42 · answer #5 · answered by Daniel F 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
keep getting up each day, be thankful for one or two things during that day and try to find something positive, If not for yourself-for your daughter.good luck.
2007-09-20 19:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by Tivogal 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋