2007-09-20 11:44:34 · 14 answers · asked by ♥guns go bang_bang♥™ 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
we have conversed on line about your parents, what i can say is i went through this myself when i was a kid, all i wanted to do was be a musician i wanted to be a drummer in a New Orleans jazz band i loved Louie Armstrong and AL Hurt one evening i was watching Louie on the black and white tv no color in those days, it was a studio GE production something like that, and Louie was playing live my stepmother came in and watched a while as the musicians sweat ed under the studio lights all she could think to say was "is that what you want to sweat like a ****er and play that crap" i knew then she didn't have a clue to what was right and had no music or art in her soul, i also made a vow never to treat my kids the way i was treated, and i never did you must do like wise, use them as the reverse of how to do the right thing, i know it's a cold comfort, but some times it's all we have, learning from others mistakes, it really sounds like they can only make them selves bigger by pulling you down, i just worry you'll enter into any relationship you can, to get out as soon as you are old enough, just bide your time get to collage and don't look back
2007-09-21 07:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's mean. Some dreams are impossible and they need to be disuaded if they continue past a certain age but I would never laugh.
My son wants to be spiderman and thinks this dream will really be. He also believes he will become invisible when he gets older. If it doesn't pass by the time his imagination is a little more controlled then I will have to burst his bubble. For the meantime I just get excited about it with him.
2007-09-27 15:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by Emily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No parent should say things like that but at the end of the day parents are very flawed. People send a lot of time learning a trade or going to school but are not taught how to be good parents.
For give them for they don't know what they do.
2007-09-27 14:36:50 · answer #3 · answered by 007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they didnt succeed at their own dreams and believe that dreams dont come true....maybe they're preparing their child for reality...you know the theory of not getting ones hopes up in order not to be dissappointed.
2007-09-28 08:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats the childs dream if its like my nephew who s dream was to be superman and then jump off the shed with a towel as a cape cause he wanted to fly how can you not laugh cause he will not suceed but i get what you mean cruel parents should be supportive unless that dream is to be a crack dealer or something, hey you never know some people have f***ed up kids!
2007-09-26 16:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter.
If you work hard for what you believe in, and NEVER give up, then you can make it happen.
Why let others' emotional decisions direct your life?
1) You have the ability to educate yourself through multiple resources.
2) You have the ability to make your own decisions.
3) You do not have to rely on a committee to rule your life.
Good luck. Follow your own educated decisions.
2007-09-20 19:02:57 · answer #6 · answered by melomego 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your young and full of ideas and dreams - your parents have got old and possibly things haven't worked out for them regarding their personal dreams so ignore them, it's your life you live it as you see fit. Not everybody has these plans for who they want to be and what they want to do so be proud of having a vision no matter what that vision is...humour them they wont have control of you for ever.
2007-09-21 10:01:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents never seemed to say anything like this to me although sometimes I would say an Ideas and if they don't like it or don't think it's a good idea they just stay quiet but I disagree and oppose to ppl bringing their childrens spirits down this way. Afterall kids look up to their parents you are supposed 2 b there 4 them.
2007-09-27 08:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Vix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents do this all the time.
I guess they think that their kids are only successful if they conform to everyone else, and drag themselves to "cubicle hell" every morning ,sentencing themselves to 35-45 years of unfulfilling drudgery.
2007-09-20 18:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Saying I love you is like a license to do the most inhumane things to people"
"If thats what love is protect me from love"
I dont know why parents do these things...But believe me, I get how yo feel.
Sorry its like this hun!
2007-09-20 18:54:39 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs Adorkable 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋