2007-09-20 11:44:25 · 22 answers · asked by flossy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Wait a minute; it's for your DAUGHTER and you don't want to go????? Do you not socialize with your daughter, or with the future mother-in-law? I can't imagine a mother not wanting to go to a shower for her daughter unless there were serious problems in the family.
2007-09-20 11:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, your daughter has a rocky road ahead of her if she is going to have to deal with your lack of anticipation of your grandchild.
Why make things harder than they have to be. This isn't a time for your agenda--this is a celebration for the new baby coming into your family. Being there for your daughter for the shower and later is the most important gift you could give her.
If you aren't there, you will be conspicuous by your absence--which takes the attention away from your daughter and the reason for the shower in the first place. Somehow, I don't think that is your intention. And it could unnecessarily strain future family relations--which isn't good either.
Go, put the best face on things, and be happy for your daughter AND yourself.
2007-09-22 18:12:16 · answer #2 · answered by Bromeliad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is lovely that your daughter has a mother in law who is thought full and is giving her a baby shower. Regardless of who you or who you do not socialize with you need to be there. This is for your daughter and grandchild. I am sure you can put your attitude aside for a few hours and act appropriate. You should be thanking your in laws as I guess they realized you were not doing anything for your daughter and step-ed in.
2007-09-21 02:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by Kat G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course you must attend. Don't be so selfish.
I just noticed you said "mother-in-law-to-be". Sounds like a wedding in the future. What will you both do then if you don't socialize together? Draw straws to see which one of you attends?
Sure hope your attitude about the mother-in-law doesn't rub off on your daughter!
2007-09-20 13:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by proud grandma 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why would you not go to your daughter's shower? It's not about the hostess, it's about your daughter and your grandchild. A lot of the guests don't socialize with, or even know the MILTB. They are invited because they are special friends/family of your daughter.
2007-09-21 15:38:52 · answer #5 · answered by ds37x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter probaby would like you to attend!
I'm pregnant right now and if my mother in law to be was hosting a baby shower and invited my mom I would want her to be there!
2007-09-20 11:49:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
YES you must. Anything you can do to help and erase any bad blood between the in-laws is a good idea for your grand-child's sake. Her MIL is doing her part by inviting you, you should go.
2007-09-20 13:37:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I say, go on and attend it. Be cool and polite, as your daughter's new mother-in-law might possibly get offended and disrespect your daughter. Some people are like that.
2007-09-20 11:53:11 · answer #8 · answered by Lovin' Life 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Mothers usually are invited to all baby showers given for their daughters. I would think that you would want to go for your daughter, as well as for your new grandbaby! Good luck to your daughter and your new grandchild.
2007-09-20 11:54:22 · answer #9 · answered by Merl 3 · 9⤊ 0⤋
You are not required to attend any party you don't want to attend. I'd recommend it, though, since we are talking about family. Surely you wouldn't want to offend your daughter's future mother-in-law, which might make things harder for your daughter.
2007-09-20 12:03:34 · answer #10 · answered by drshorty 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋