Would you love him or would you just be friends with him?
Good things about him:
- Lets you borrow $1600 for your house payment
- Later makes it a gift because you couldn't pay it
- Emotional and crazy about you
- Cares about you deeply
- Gets slightly jealous when your with other guys
- Stands up for you whenever needed
- Pays for everything when you go out together
- Cares about you so much that he cares about your daughter
Flaws:
- Tells you how he feels too much
- Brings up the money when there is a fight between you and him.
- Clingy (emails.. asks how day went etc. too much)
2007-09-20 11:37:09 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Looks like your pros like outweighs your cons list.
Is it really so bad that he emails you to ask how your day went? If it's more than once and you don't like it, just ask him to slow it down a bit. But I wouldn't deal with the blame game over the money. If he said it was a gift, then the case should be closed...along with his mouth.
2007-09-20 11:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by getusedtoit 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think the pros and cons pretty much balance themselves out, and I also feel the good and bad about him aren't enough to keep him around. I see him as an emotionally flat individual that really has not a whole lot to offer. When the love and caring goes away and it turns to more of a friendship, could you see yourself staying with him? He gave you a gift of $1600 wit the original understanding was that you would pay it back, and now he wants to say that is like... your birthday present?! Regardless of what kind of gift it happens to be, a man needs to stick to his word. Unless you abosolutely have convinced him to make it a gift and he just broke and let it be that way, then I feel he made a mistake.
Everything else. If you don't see any glinting reason as to why you know you want to stay with him, then why are you doing so. The only negative thing I can see in the whole thing is what you thought was a positive. His flaws I find endearing, overall you seem to be an incredibly lucky gal with a great, enduring man on your hands. But only you know whether or not that is true in your heart. I hope this made any sense~
2007-09-24 05:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jeska J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're playing him like a musical instrument. He obviously believes that his financial contributions entitle him to some side action with you. There are some red flags there, like he's going to turn into a controlling abusive husband one day. The best way to resolve this issue, is to go to lunch at the mall where lots of people are around, and tell him how you feel about him ie you appreciate him helping you out and his generosity, but you're not interested in a relationship and you don't see it ever happening between you that you love him like a brother. That way if you mention you love him like a brother, he knows he doesn't have a shot because hooking up with your brother is nasty lol!
2007-09-20 11:42:03 · answer #3 · answered by jprofitt303 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This would depend on how you feel when you are with him. It appears he may be a controlling individual who feels if he pays for everything then he can "Buy" your affections. This would come to an absolute stop once he has you close enough to cut it off. Be careful, keep him as a friend for a while and feel it out a bit to see if he truely loves you or is only lusting for you & you effections.
2007-09-20 11:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can really tell you what to do. It is your choice of matter.
As an example when you guys fight he always brings up the money but he made the choice of giving it to you. He blames someone else for his mistake. So if someone tells you what to do and you realize it was the wrong choice you are going to blame the person you listened to; when it was truly YOUR fault for choosing.
2007-09-20 11:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by Jp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cons might be things that get on your nerves but they can be fixed by just talking about them! The good qualities he has are those of a keeper though. Give it a shot. It sounds like it might be worth it hun.
2007-09-20 11:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by lindsay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you actually like him try to make something happen, but not something thats just physical cause it seems he wants more than that. If you dont actually want a relationship with him you need to distance yourself a little more. Stop accepting money etc. its almost as if you're leading him on.
2007-09-20 11:41:54 · answer #7 · answered by shakursraven 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont even need anyone to tell you the answer to that! compair the flaws list to the good list! the good list is way more things! and i think the emails are cute, makes you feel happy, u know? like if your having a bad day and need someone to talk to, he's theryou go for it gurl!
2007-09-20 11:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by iloveseattle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well unfortunately it doesn't matter what we think of him because you're dating him. He sounds like a nice guy but I'm not so sure its right if he cares that much about him and you're not even sure if you want to be with him. I think you need to think about whether you really want to be with him! Maybe he's not for you. Good luck, I hope this helps!
2007-09-20 11:42:01 · answer #9 · answered by sara e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about the Chemistry? Do you love him and feel attracted to him.
If he is willing to work on the flaws I think he could be a good catch. We all have our demons. Can you work with his.
2007-09-20 11:44:10 · answer #10 · answered by 007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋