muslims read this. i need ur opinion!!....?

Question

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i asked abt the hijab and if men prefered women w/ it or w/o.

now im gonna tell u something i experience everyday:

im in 9th, u see, i just started HS and everday when i go to skoool, in the hall i see at least 10 muslim girls at diff. times and in different parts of the hall. at least 5 of them wear the hijab (real pretty hijabs too), cover themselves properly, wear loose clothing, and try to look modest and like a true muslim woman.

the other 5 wear tight, revealing clothing, curse (A LOT lol), dont wear the hijb, and r always w/ boys.

so while the first 5 r practicing their religion, the other 5 try to be "cool" and fit in.

but wat i find is tht the ones who try to be "cool" usually turn out to be the ones who r hated by muslim boys and girls. and the modest ones turn out to be the ones who r respected by the muslim boys.
do u experience this too? tell me...

qi- yes u r soo rite!!!

Answer 1

This is my honest answer. 1) No Hijjab, tight clothing, revealing skin = hot (shows outter beauty, but inner beauty is hidden ). That is because im 16 and those things seem appealing. 2) Hijjab, loose clothing, not too much revealing skin = modest (inner beauty showing). Now, chances are i would spend the rest of my life with (2) because modesty and inner beauty means much more to me than outter beauty. Well maybe thats just me >>. Odd eh? ive grown up in toronto canada..shouldve been the opposite prefrence.

Answer 2

perhaps those other 5 girls you mentioned are also flirtatious or what that's why the boys hated them.

i don't know if you have seen that debate thing on bbc. one team said that the scarf should still be worn until now, while the other one said that nowadays, muslim women should be allowed to not wear the scarf. they had good points there about the wearing of the scarf.

anyway, i think it isn't fair for the 'accultured' muslims to be hated because they don't wear the scarf.i for one don't wear the scarf, not yet. but i still dress properly, no mini skirts whatsoever.but i cannot avoid being mistaken as a kafir. and yea, i do practice my faith . it is just that i don't wear the scarf,long-sleeved blouses and long skirts.

i have this friend who is also a muslim. but they wear revealing clothes, they drink on certain occasions, and they don't practice their faith. perhaps, rarely.whenever she shares, i sort of feel angry because even though she's a proud muslim, they don't act the way a muslim should act. it's like they're just muslims by the name.
well, she's still my friend though.

Answer 3

The thing is I'm very loud, & a generally happy person, so usually I get on well with everyone, mostly white people (non-Muslims) who are mostly girls. Which means sometimes I get hassled by Muslims. But when they see that I have no hidden agenda & that I am genuinely just being nice to everyone they're fine.

I don't care how other people dress or how they portray my religion though. Because when the time comes, it'll be our own burden to bear, so I feel happy just knowing that I try my best to follow Islam's teachings & I hope that Allah forgives me for any idiocity on my part.

I feel like I haven't answered your question properly. Sorry :/

Answer 4

Salams.My daughters ,all four of them ,wear hijab.And I dont think that they would judge a girl just because she doesnt wear it.I know that it makes them very mad though when muslim girls date and have boy friends on the sly.I guess they figure that If they are able to follow the rules the other girls should be able to do the same.I dont think personally that your dress is what matters, it is your Niyyah.And sometimes your intentions can be misinterpreted by what you are wearing .So if you are really trying to be a good girl ,your clothing should relay that message.

Answer 5

It is not true to say that if one Church was attacked the world would take severe actions against the attacker. Before they left the town of Quneitra in the Golan, which they had captured without a fight and which they held for seven years, the Israelis demolished or gutted every building in the town. This included the Greek Orthodox church, which was visited in 2001 by Pope John Paul II. All removable fittings were looted from the houses and the hospital, and were sold by Israeli civilian contractors.

Answer 6

I think that this depends on the background of the boy. A muslim boy who is very religious will like girls who are religious too. Not so religious guys will think of girls suited to their style. I think it is the background that matters here, rather than the religion. More over, respect and hatred might be judged over one's behaviour. I dont think how girls dress matters in this regard. Just my opinion! :)

Answer 7

Totally agreed with Qi.

Appearance is something which is temporary and an illusion in people's lives. If you want to be respected, you should earn it. And no one can earn it by looking fancy or being popular with useless things. Personality makes a person a real human being, so if you want to be respected and have a good value in other's eyes, try to follow what your heart tells you, not what others do.

Have a nice day, dear.

Answer 8

The boys will go with the 'loose' girls for physical gratification but in the long run, they will want the modest girls as friends and partners in life.

This does not only apply to one specific religion or culture, but to all. Even Westernised men prefer modest and reserved and untouched to the 'loose' that you mention.

Answer 9

When Muslim females dress modestly as Quran has commanded, they have special blessing of Allah upon them.
Not only Muslim boys/men but even non-Muslims show respect to them.

When my daughters were in high schools they always told us that they get extra ordinary respect from non-Muslims as well as Muslim males.

Answer 10

I am a Muslim boy and I hate girls without Hijab.
i know that you should have faced these types of problems but believe me it is not in every case.
You should believe on Allah (whose order you are following).