How can I keep a job? Please help :(?

Question

It seems no matter what kind of job I get, I simply can't keep them.

It's not the work, I don't mind the hard work. But it's the people. I just can't deal with them, I'm so bad at dealing with people...

Anyone have any advice on how I can keep my job? I'm working at Sonic at the momment, but I'm so close to quiting because I can't deal with the stress :(

Yeah it is mainly girls where I work, they're all back stabbers. But it doesn't matter if it's full of girls or boys, I still have alot of trouble dealing with people.

Like I said, I don't mind the work, I like working hard... it's just people I have problems with :( I honestly hate working with people, but I know you have to work with people in order to keep a job. I just don't know how I can deal with it.

Btw, I'm 19, so I really need to keep a job =/

Answer 1

Let me guess.......female vs. female in the workplace -- am I right???? If so, I totally understand. We can't all get along for some reason and there are a lot of wicked women out there (I'm a female, obviously) --- been there A LOT...........I'm an adult - not a kid. Am I correct?

Answer 2

You don't give your age, and age can be a factor on what might be available to you at this stage of your life. I'm going to assume you are young. It's no great shame not dealing well with people. Although your professional life would be much easier all around, some of us just can't do it. Do you like animals? See if you can get a job at a groomers, or a boarding kennels. You can pretty much work in the back, away from customers, cleaning kennels and bathing animals. If you live in a large city, look for dog breeders....I used to breed Pomeranians, and I would hire school kids and retirees to be "puppy petters"; that is, socialize the puppies to be sold as pets and get them used to human contact. You might apply for a job at a market as a stocker...when you interview, tell them up front you become stressed and nervous when dealing with the public and would like work not related to costumer service. I think most employers would appreciate this knowledge at the start. Look for jobs at the malls that aren't specifically geared to direct contact with customers....window dressers, custodians, and. again, stockers. Everyone has limitations....it is good you know yours. Although you will need to work on your "people" skills, in the meantime, you can find other jobs better suited to you. Best of luck to you.

Answer 3

Wow What you seem to be dealing with is similar to what my daughter had put up with, more mature than the workforce that surrounded her. ie the high school bs. Hard worker among slackers not wanting to spend the time bs ing but wanting to do the job. Go into stocking at a big retail store like Walmart, Target etc it is physical which it appears you want, works off stress and you are primarily left alone to do your job, and are judged by the job YOU do. Had a child that has been in the same situation and that worked for them. Good luck hang in there with that attitude and work ethic you will go far

Answer 4

Is it because you lack people skills? What people are we talking about, customers or your fellow workers? If you can't deal with customers, then try to move to a position that does not require much customer interaction (i.e. backroom cook).

If you can't deal with your fellow workers, let me ask you, is it because of you having poor people skills, or are your fellow workers actually terrible to work with? If you can't deal with your coworkers from job to job, then you have a general people problem and you need to modify your behavior and attitudes.

A lot of job dissatisfaction is a result of low confidence and not feeling like an equal team member with other workers. You say you work hard...good for you. You should be proud of that fact and it should bring a smile to your face. However, if you are working particularly hard to compensate for a lack of getting along with other workers, you need to change your behavior.

When management (or another worker for that matter) tells you to do something, you can either think 'Ugh, why is he/she asking me to do it? I'm the hardest working person here.' or you can think 'That seems like a reasonable request. It will help us close/maintain a healthy environment/make more hamburgers.' Focus on the group output as whole, realize that you are all in it together for a common purpose: serving the customer. Also realize that you have these same powers. Don't be afraid to tell your coworkers to do things! As long as you are helping out yourself and you address them maturely and confidently, they will respect your requests. This will help you feel more confident (and consequently, more comfortable) at work.

Answer 5

I know exactly how you feel, your just not meant for piddly going nowhere fast type of jobs, your a person who needs to follow your dreams...whatever it is, do what you wanted to be when you were growing up. As for now I would recomend just not letting them get to you, what other choice is there...or you could do what I did and find a boyfriend who makes good money and doesn't care if you work. I mean i am looking for a good job that I want but hes patient and understands and likes taking care of me. The main thing is that he always knew I wanted to be a housewife primarily and he liked that about me. Oh and dont work at Sonic, do a clothing store or something or be a receptionist

Answer 6

Well people are going to always be around whether you work for someone else or run your own business. I think you need to confide in someone who can help you understand your problems in dealing with people. Believe me others have noticed your actions. A close friend can help you correct those acts which get you in trouble.

Remember, you don't know what others around you are going through. They may have an illness, they may be scared, they may be lonely. They may not realize that they have stressed you out. They might be really sorry to know that.

Try to emulate the actions of someone that has treated you well. Practice.

Answer 7

Maybe try to find a job that would be more enjoyable to you that is less stressful. Any kind of job that you get will be stress of some kind, but there are ways of dealing with it. Some of it involves being tolerant to accepting the way that people are and just know that they can think they want to, it doesn't mean that you have to deal with it or believe in it. Kind of ignoring the way they act. Put yourself higher and not on their level. Don't let them win you.

Answer 8

all the restaurants I've worked at there are always people who are hard to deal with whether it be the employees or the customers

customers are fairly easy to deal with even the hard ones, it can get extremely stressful especially when the customers can/will be ***** but this is because your taking the what the customers do/say to personally, the best thing to do is to just ignore what the irritating customers do/say to make you stressed don't let it get to you, realize that a lot of people have had a bad day and they take it out on whoever they can. If you can't ignore the stressful customers, the best thing to do is to dehumanize them in your mind think of them as objects that require food and require a specific food product...find out what they want give it to them and be done with it...

coworkers are another matter, these people are generally not the cream of the societal crop and can be hard to deal with. The best thing to do is to just be polite as you can, mind your own business and get on with your work around coworkers that stress you out, try to find common ground at work with them and leave it at that

I've had this same problem but have been able to cope with it, it's not so bad once you get used to it.

another thing to keep in mind is since this is a recurring problem it could very well be something with your own personality that's causing people to react negatively to you.
Some things to think about:
-do you consider yourself friendly?
-do you consider yourself a gossiper?
-do you unintentionally say things to people that may put them
off? (perhaps you do and don't realize it)

you should consider why these people stress you out and what you can do about it? if anything

I recently walked out on a job at Wendy's because the environment(as far as coworkers/managers go) was extremely volotile, poeple would go out of their way(especially a particular manager) to make my job more difficult and stressful....I've had 2 succesful service industry jobs in the past both lasting nearly 2 years and ending without me getting
fired(1st time I quit because I had to move, and 2nd I quit to go to college)

Answer 9

Read as many books as you can about stress management, problem solving, communication, and relationships. Figure out what behaviors bother you the most. Then make a list of 5 ways you can cope with it. Decide in advance how you want to respond.

Some of the career coaching books have great techniques to solve emotional frustrations. I found "The Portable Coach," by Thomas Leonard, very enlightening.

Answer 10

If it's people that contribute to your success, I would suggest not working in retail or food service. Think of something that you're interested and would consider doing. Do you like research, do you like animals or mechanics? Do you like fashion or makeup/costume design? You will never WANT to keep a job if you hate what you're doing. I know this was a pretty general answer but I really do hope it helps. I know the feeling and now I stuff dead animals for a living. Take care!

Answer 11

If you have a hard time getting along with people, then fast food is definitely the wrong place to be at. I would go for a more one on one type job, like assisted living, or night stocker at the grocery store.