I'm really worried my boyfriend is depressed but he won't admit it, he drinks alot of alcohol and he's been the Doctor's about his drinking and the Doctor asked him was he suicidal and he said no and he even said no to me but then twice he's said that he wishes that he could go to sleep and not wake up and that he hates everything and it upsets me that he could be so unhappy and I don't know how to help him, he always says he's bored of life aswell, he drinks and smokes so much and he's also quite cocky and over confident and I think it's a way to cover up him being sad? He's not had a very good relationship with his mother growing up, sorry for the bad way I've written this but I've just tried to get everything down. I just want him to be happy but I don't know what to say to him when he says he wants to go to sleep and not wake up, I just want to help him, I told him to try going the Doctor's but he just shook his head, what should I do? Does it sound like depression?
2007-09-20 10:53:36 · 12 answers · asked by LittleMissLolita 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I think your boyfriend has signs of depression for sure. If you ever read about depression you will learn that drinking, drugs ,etc. are signs that appear when a person is depressed. It's not your fault that you chose to be with this guy. Did your boyfriend act this way prior to you and him hooking up? Nobody in this world is perfect!! We choose who we want to be with. I give people credit who are with someone who struggles with a problem. It takes guts to be in a relationship that is hard. I had a friend who had depression and two other disorders. He was good friend. We just drifted apart but it wasn't because of me. I would have stayed his friend but his depression got in the way. I accepted my friend who he was. So he felt that we needed to end our friendship. I would have your boyfriend seek help. I think when a person has depression they tend to ignore the fact that they might have it. He might not want to admit that he's got a problem. His brain is thinking one thing over another!! He needs your support!! As his girlfriend you should support him. Be their for him when know one else will. Good luck!!
2007-09-20 11:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by P 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I definitely sounds like depression, and he is cocky because he's trying to cover it up. PLEASE convince him to talk about his feelings with a doctor. He sounds like he is so unhappy with life. He might be suicidal, I don't know, and am not an expert, he just sounds so troubled, I know he needs help.
2007-09-20 18:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by makeloans2 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Severe depression I would suggest! Have him see a massage therapist to try and relax him then maybe he will listen to reason and see a good doctor for a through evaluation. Could be a physical problem or maybe mental anguish. Tell him the booze is making the problem worse.
2007-09-20 18:03:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes. He has to stop drinking first. Then he has to decide that he wants to get better. Nothing that you will do will help him until he decides to be happy. Read my blog if you like. All of us have problems but we are the only ones that can make ourselves happy or unhappy.
2007-09-20 17:58:55 · answer #4 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it does kind of sound like depression... I'm not really sure how to help... but if he starts going on about how he doesn't want to wake up, just tell him that you need him. If he's bored with life maybe you two could go do something fun together (something that he likes)
2007-09-20 17:59:30 · answer #5 · answered by 5475uj1/// 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You can't help him until he accepts the fact that he has a problem and decides he wants the help. You can a) dump him until he gets his life together or b) tough it out and try to be there for him through it. But it's going to drag you through h3ll and back until he gets his act together. Honestly, I think you should move on for now. He cannot be a good boyfriend if he can't love himself. If you can't love yourself, how can you truly love anybody else?
2007-09-20 17:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes, this sounds like it could be depression. Refer him to a psychiatrist, psychologist, therapist, counselor or industry professional.
2007-09-20 17:58:48 · answer #7 · answered by ►solo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes its depression. i had it myself. i had to go see a doctor. he needs to go see a doctor or talk to someone. intervention might help. do something. i hate seeing or hearing about people going through this. its a veeeeeeeeeery dark place. he needs to get out of there fast!
2007-09-20 17:59:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are you with this guy? I dont understand women who feel the need to have men that need fixing. Maybe look into a co-dependent support group for yourself and let this guy sort out his own life.
2007-09-20 17:58:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
you can have depression and not be sucidal. i'd say support to overly bothering suportive i know when I my depression is really bad i think its good to have someone who cares and not overly like pushing.. and you can't force him to get help if he wants help he will get it.
2007-09-20 18:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋