ok, my friend was nervous 'cause she didn't know what exactly to say to this guy who wanted to see her breasts, she likes him but didn't want to do that so she said no and left. now he asked her again and she also said no yet feels guilty for disappointing him, but still doesn't wanna flash him.
If a guy asked you to flash him what would you say/do?
2007-09-20 10:37:34 · 24 answers · asked by A Lonely Kitty__♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay if this guy isn't her boyfriend he has no right to be asking her. It's immature, disrespectful, demeaning, and just plain rude. Your friend did right to have said no both times. It's good to not give into such pressure especially if she likes him. She may like him but a man who can ask for such a thing of a girl is not worth her time. She's wasting her brain thinking about him and wasting her heart space for liking him. There should be no guilt felt for "disappointing" him. He is disappointed that a girl can stand up for herself? She should have slapped his face for even asking. The only thing she'll gain is the wrong type of attention and disrespect from the guy. He'll just think of her as a girl that is easy and will do anything that he asks her to. Even if she said no twice she should do it everytime and set it straight for him. Tell him that he's not her boyfriend and she won't be his girlfriend just so he can ask her to show her breasts. It's just not right. It is not right for any man to be asking a woman to do such a thing! If she wants a good relationship with him then she shouldn't. But to be honest I think she's wasting her time...even talking to him. Maybe at a party just for the hell of it and to have fun but like that its not right. I'm sorry. I say just walk away from the guy. Stay away from him.
2007-09-20 10:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by Hali 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lol wow I think your friend is messing around with a wierdo. Any guy who is going to ask a girl to see her breasts has problems. hopefully he is atleast dating her, but if he wants to see her breasts, he should be willing to date her and do it the romantic way and dont rush it.
What i trying to say is what would be more respectful and make a girl feel more special?
1. Can I see your boobs
2. Or building a relationship and maybe getting more than just a quick flash, and have a lasting romantic relationship
It sounds like this guy has a smash and grab mentality. Meaning he acts of urges and doesnt look at the big picture.
Sure He may get one flash, but if he does it the tactful way he can end up coming away with much more. not in a perveted way I mean he can keep his dignity,her respect and have a real relationship one that could last.
2007-09-20 10:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by sebastian cookie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't want to, she shouldn't do it. Her body, her choice.
If he does not respect her decision, he is not worthy for her to even consider dating.
A girl should never settle for a scumbag who is interested only in her body. He is treating her at about the same level as a girl he would pay to have sex with.
If she believes he has a right to treat her this way, she needs some psychiatric counseling to boost her self-esteem.
Tell her she has nothing in the world to feel guilty about.
He should be feeling guilty for treating this girl so badly.
If a guy asked me to flash him, I'd suggest he either grow the hell up or go buy himself a one-handed read at the adult bookstore, because that's all he's looking for.
And I'd suggest your girlfriend go find a mature, intelligent guy she can have a real relationship with, because this guy she's dealing with now has the maturity level of a twelve year old.
And that seems insulting to a twelve year old....
2007-09-20 10:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by grrluknow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Before or after kneeing his crotch? Sometimes a good swift kick to the male brain is all it takes...Obsession Boy is a jerk, and yet your friend, who has no self esteem whatsoever, feels guilty for disappointing him??? How about his disappointing behavior in treating her like meat? Fly that kite over a powerline and see if it gets fried. Good grief. Dump this jerk.
There are nice guys, great guys...advise your friend to find one and spend no more time on Obsession Boy.
2007-09-20 10:44:31 · answer #4 · answered by teacupn 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's a good thing she said no. If a guy told me to do that, I would definately refuse and walk away. Tell her she didn't do anything wrong and that she shouldn't feel guilty. Showing her chest would just be like selling herself short. It would be dumb if a girl does everything a guy tells her to, she needs to think for herself! Tell her to hang on her prides. If she wants to, she can go ahead, but its not in this case. If she does decide to do it, and her heart isn't into it, she would regret it.
2007-09-20 10:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by Nina is here! :D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
Hey if your an adult over 18, heck flashing someone can be fun, but not if your under 18.
He seems like a perv to me.
I would just walk away and laugh.
2007-09-20 10:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by Mom of 2 great boys 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It depends on how well you know the guy! You can't just turn into a huge slut and go flashing everyone who asks to see your breasts!
2007-09-20 10:42:25 · answer #7 · answered by rinxi_7 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am a guy so this doesn't really pertain to me, but I think he's naturally acting as a male. If I were a girl I would feel uncomfortable if someone asked me this.
2007-09-20 10:41:37 · answer #8 · answered by Mythical Tales 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Pretty sure she shouldn't feel guilty at all. No means no, and that should be a good enough answer for him.
2007-09-20 10:41:04 · answer #9 · answered by flyswimmer1988 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Doesn't want to disappoint him? Good grief........is your friend that desperate? Lift up your shirt and show some boobies to get a boyfriend who is only interested in getting the panties off next. Why are you young girls so flipping trashy? At least your friend didn't do it.
2007-09-20 10:41:17 · answer #10 · answered by spinster wife 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋