my son is 8 and keeps askin can he go by himself there is no way i would let him i worry too much and he is way too young,i told him when he leaves primary he can,am i being unfair?
2007-09-20 10:34:58 · 27 answers · asked by Angelx 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
your not being unfair at all, just pick up your local newspaper and show him all the bad things that can sometimes happen to kids left to do their own thing and I'm sure he will agree. harsh maybe but thats the world we live in today trust no-one with your kids they are irreplaceable xx
2007-09-20 10:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends. How far away is the school? There's no way I'd allow my elementary school age child walk to school alone, period. Even if I lived across the street, I'd still at least stand on the porch and watch him cross the street and get safely inside.
I don't even think middle schoolers should be walking to school ALONE. With a couple of friends, OK, but not alone.
High school age is the only time I'd consider letting them walk to school if it was only a few blocks away. Even then, I'd feel better knowing they were walking with friends.
If that's over protective, then so be it. I'd much rather be safe than sorry. The kids may not understand at the time, but they'll know how I feel once they have kids of their own in this crazy world.
2007-09-20 17:44:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
my son is year 6 and i have just started letting him walk home with his friend its only a 10 minute walk but the cars can be manic and i worry about them crossing the road. it depends on the child and where/how far u live from the school. do his friends walk if so could he go with them? i dont think ur being unfair as i still dont like it at 10. things are nt what they used to be , i went to same school when i was young and we walked home from age 7/8
2007-09-20 18:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is totally up to you. My 5 year old walks to school, but the walk is about 500 ft from our front door and I can see her all the way into the school gate. There has been a man trying to pick up 8-12 year old boys off the street around here though, so if I were you, I wouldn't let my son go unless I could see him the whole way or he was walking with a group of friends.
2007-09-20 17:44:15 · answer #4 · answered by ShortnSweet 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
No, you are not being unfair - you just have his best interests in heart, whilst he is now at the age where he is wanting his independence and feels you not allowing him chance to grow up.
You need to access how far the school is from your home - how many roads would he need to cross? Is there any alleyways he needs to go through or parks he needs to go through etc?
Also you need to access whether he is conscious enough of danger and what he needs to be aware of when walking to and from school.
Also remember the day and nights will be getting darker soon as we enter Winter...
I would personally wait until he in the last year of primary school so he gets use to it for when he begins high school and can show you how responsible and mature he is.
If you still unsure about it then maybe discuss it with the parents of your son's friends and see what they feel about the issue.
Good luck!
Lx
2007-09-20 17:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by SunshineApple 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends if they have got far to go or busy roads to cross etc, Fortunately i live opposite my Sons school he is also 8 years old, I watch him across the road and down to his School gate in the morning from our Front door and then in the afternoon I watch him from the bedroom window so he feels like hes doing it on his own! i think that if we lived further away though i would have to walk with him because i would be the same as you worried all day till he came home safely
2007-09-20 17:47:48 · answer #6 · answered by Mark H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Primary- as in grade 1-5? Yes, you're being fair. I remember I used to bug my mom about the same thing everyday when I was in fifth grade and everytime she said no. There was one day where she left me walk by myself (I read a book the whole way), but she was driving slowly and close by. So yea, I personally wouldn't let me kid walk until 7-8th grade when their comfortable with the route and don't mind walking. Oh yea sixth grade was when my mom would give me a ride to school and I walked back by myself. Good luck!
2007-09-20 17:46:02 · answer #7 · answered by james24 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two days past NEVER! In this day and time, you can't risk it. People are snatching kids left and right, and of course you don't want to lose your son. MAYBE you can reconsider the decision when he is say 16. But certainly not before that. Not only kidnappers but kids get into alot of trouble walking alone. The get approached by rebeling children, even gangs. You just never know. Keep him safe with YOU.
2007-09-20 18:34:25 · answer #8 · answered by Cammi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends where you live.We live in a quiet village and quite a few kids big and little walk but usually there is more than one and there's always other parents not far off.If you are worried you must walk with him as so much things can happen these days and it's better to be safe than sorry.
2007-09-20 17:52:01 · answer #9 · answered by sanny 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're being unfair. I personally wouldn't let my kid walk to school by themselves until they were in high school. And by then they'll be driving to school. I just worry too much. There are alot of crazy people out there & I can't imagine something happening to my kids. So even if they'll hate it, I'll always take them to school.
2007-09-20 19:18:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i don't think you are my girls go by them self they are 8 and 9 but i live right across from the school so i watch them from the door till they get inside why don't you try walking so far with your son then let him go the rest off the way on his own as long as you can see him go into school then you no that he is safe
2007-09-21 05:37:40 · answer #11 · answered by lisa150180 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋