My boo and i have always planned on being together when were older, but lately i've really realized just how insecure he really is: he would get an additude if i were with my friends and he called and i couldnt talk, he would get irritated if i didnt pick up the phone somtimes when he calls, i wanted to go on this summer trip with my club,but he didnt want me to go, it was the last year the club was doing this,b'cuz it was gonna be shut down. he dosent trust me around guys, he gets jealous even when i have a conversation w/my guy friends, and this had been happening for about 2 and a half year maybe 3
And i just now realized how unfare it was to me i cant live my life like that, i wanna go have fun with my friends(and guys friends) b'cuz its not like i like my guy friends,i dont think he would ever change for me and i cant have someone like that for a husband, just think of when he goes of to college, i just know we'd probably have trust issues
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2007-09-20 10:27:06 · 3 answers · asked by latice g 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
but anyway i told him i dont think we should plan on dating anymore, its just to stressful.
he said "ok" but it didnt sound like it bothered him really. i just wonder if he still loves me and cares about me,...i still love him so much,and i always will nothing could ever change that, and i still wanna be witrh him i just dont think he would ever change for me, i wonder if he even loves me enough to consider it, but you cant change people(some) but...not really..............i miss him so so so so much i pray just to talk to him, that he would say sumthin to establish what he thinks about this.......on top of that i miss him so much and love him, and i dont know what to do.
ps. And i just told him we should plan on dating yeasterday.
2007-09-20 10:33:38 · update #1
about him getting irritated cuz i didnt pick up the phone.....well i ment to say cuz i didnt pick up right away(you know the 1st time he called)
2007-09-20 10:35:35 · update #2
What part of this relationship do you miss? Is it his controlling ways or that you truly love him? It sounds as if you need to back off for a while and finish your education before this guy makes a mess out of your life. Your young and should be able to have fun with your friends and to be able to speak with them. Don't allow some guy to dicate your life.
2007-09-21 06:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
he definitely loves you because if he didnt he would not be so insecure and would of left you a along time. two and half years is a long time and i bet he misses you alot but he wont show it at all because of his pride and thats why he said "ok" i know that because i used to say that like i didnt care but in fact i cared ALOT. just try to have a serious talk with him and show him you can be trusted but sadly in the end its up to him if he wants to change his insecurities it takes time build trust though so good luck
2007-09-20 19:58:55 · answer #2 · answered by Krazy_Rican 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good job on getting out of it. shape up or ship out. insecurity in a relationship needs to be eliminated, whether by solving the problem or bailing out of the relationship, because insecurity can cause way too much misery.
go away from him, pretend he doesn't exist, and find someone else.
2007-09-20 19:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋