Should I say something to my ex though he would know it means I'm syping on him?

Question

My ex and I broke up last June. I was really in love with this guy, but he cheated on me after 4 years and a trip around the world together (that I paid for). It really hurt and he apologized, but I still am pretty upset about it. I'm trying really hard to get over it. He moved away, and we parted on good terms, and as much as he hurt me I still care about him a lot. I couldn't get back together after what he did, but I still have a soft spot for him. However, I still know all of his passwords, and read his email sometimes. I know, I know, I'm going to get all sorts of answers berating me for this. Trust me, I know it's bad, and that I'll never get over him if I continue. But in the course of reading his email, I've found out that he's having trouble finding someone to date in his new city, and has turned to Craigslist trying to find sex. This breaks my heart! He's soliciting women for sex, telling them how he is in bed and that he just wants sex, no commitment.

I'm afraid he's going to run into some wacko, or get an STD (condoms aren't 100%, you know!). I know it's none of my business, and I'm never going to sleep with him again so it doesn't matter. I don't want to admit that I've been reading his email. But I'm worried about him! What a dumb@ss, what kind of person does that? It seems dangerous and stupid to me.

I might have gotten back together with him someday, but I'm actually glad I read that because I wouldn't want to be with him again now that I know he's planning on having sex with random sl*ts he meets off the internet.

Thoughts?

Answer 1

Hello? Listen to yourself hon... you are worrying about someone else....

Your first responsibility is to YOURSELF... if the guy gets an STD, it's not your fault. You can't fix his dating life, or his sex life... the only person you can control is yourself.

and WHY ON EARTH would you pay a man's way for a trip around the world? And he cheated on you to boot! Once a cheater........... always!!!

I can't see why you are heartbroken over a using cheater who can't find a date.

Next time, let the guy pay for you... don't overgive... if someone cheats on you dump them...

Answer 2

First off, reading his emails is bad as you said.. but, I'm guilty of it also with my ex so I can't give you too much of a hard time :) It's hard to get over someone you love, especially if it ends like yours did after 4 years.

I understand you're scared for him, and that he might get some disease or get hurt.. but the only real advice I can give here is that sometimes people have to learn the hard way. Let him keep going the way he's going. It will come to bite him in the ***.

Sadly, you saying something won't open his eyes to how bad what he's doing is.. it will just make him mad and probably want to do it more...

Answer 3

You should stay away from his life. You are becoming a stalker. No, you absolutely have no right to tell him how he should live his life and absolutely have no right to invade his privacy. Just leave him alone.