all my kids have problems why me ?

Question

i have a 12 yr old son with adhd 4yr old son with a mild form of cerebral palsey one of my girls has hair growth down there 16mth and my baby of 17 weeks has a odd shapped head does anyone else out there have as much bad luck as me?

seem to have no time and find it realy hard some times

i do love my kids so much but dont have any help from friends or family is it wrong to feel i want time out?

Answer 1

Don't you just love how people leave rude comments with out thinking about what their actually saying?? It sounds to me like you've got your hands full and just need some time to relax. Demand it!! Find the time to work with each child. One at a time. ADHD can be super hard to deal with especially in pre-teen boys. Not only for the parents, but the other children involved as well. Start there. If he isn't getting help with it yet, take him to his doctor, get him on some meds, and make sure he knows you love him no matter what. Feeling rejected makes ADHD children act out even more, Iknow this from experience. The 4 year old, I bet is a full time job all in it's self. Get the older boy to help out, build his confidence, and give you a little bit of a brake. My husband is a very hairy man, and my daughter has hairy legs and bushy eye brows, but we'll deal with that when she's old enough to care :) And my son (11 months) has light brown hair growing near his butt crack. We just laugh about it because there's nothing we can do. For the newest baby, he'll grow into his head :) My son has a funny shaped head too but he's growing into it. Just try to relax and remember it could be alot worse! You could also pick up some books to learn how to deal with your children with disabilites. The most important thing to remember is to love them no matter how funny they look, or how difficult they can be. God never gives us anything we can't handle, even if we feel we can't....we can.

Answer 2

Hey truly I'm sorry, it is hard enough to raise children without disabilities. ADHD can be somewhat controlled with medication with the right doctor. Your son has a mild form of CP which will need continual treatment to gain strength. The 16 month old has hair.... She is hairy. Oh well.... As for the baby, ever watch people on TV and see their heads, that means nothing, some weird looking heads out there, and least the baby will grow hair. Keep your chin up, you have your hands full and someone knows you can handle it.... Good luck!

Answer 3

I'm sorry bad luck because your children have some form of disability My twins are nine now, my twin son Thomas was diagnosed with severe autism at aged 3 he is non verbal and still in nappies and i do sometimes think why me its not fair but there's not too much you can do but the best you can.. when i felt this way i made this video (in the link below) and it made me think and look at Autism and Thomas differently he is a beautiful little boy and he is so handsome although he cannot talk he's still my little boy, the only person that can help your children overcome any difficulties is you ..just be there for them and just remember there are some parents out there that go through much worse than we have to and it doesn't help to feel sorry for yourself as you sound.. sorry if its harsh
take care

Answer 4

Life aint fair at times sweetie, our youngest grandson has just been diagnosed with Tuberous Sclerosis, he has 6 tumours on his brain, but he is loved, and wanted. You really could use some help with your lot though. Talk to your health visitor, or have a look on the internet for Cerebral palsy and A.D.H.D. helplinks, you would be surprised how much support you can get from these organisations.The internet has opened up a whole new world for our daughter.Just by looking at some of the cruel comments on here will tell you that you could do a lot more with your computer, than asking for answers from the general public.

Answer 5

I'd say you have good luck for being blessed with these children & i find it a bit sad how you refer to them, surely no matter how they look or what condition they have in the parents eyes their children will always be perfect & beautiful.
Like i said on your last post, my baby was born hairy & someone made a comment about her being a warewolf, i found her hairyness adorable although naturally i was concerned.Shes also got a big gap inbetween her front teeth is very hyperactive & I sympathise with how hard parenting is but don't see it as bad luck.

Answer 6

But they are yours and you love them no matter what. the babies head will be fine it will just be something to do with the birth the hair growth will be embarrassing for her but not the end of the world noone will see it, your 4 yr old will be fine with the right encouragement your 12 yr old will my guess be the hardest you could try a support group and join other parents with the same problem.

Answer 7

You know, its all relative. I have three kids, and one is autistic and another one has asthma and eczema. Yes, we all have our "woe is me" attitudes at times, but would I go back and not have my children??? No. You have good days and bad. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but you have to suck it up - these kids are here to stay and need your love and support. There definitely ARE people out there that are worse off than you!! I go to my autistic son's doctor appointments at this developmental medicine center and I leave there thanking God that my son is "only" autistic.

Again, I'm sorry if this is harsh again, but if you're feeling this way, you should really consider not having more kids - have as many as you can handle, and you have a lot on your plate. Good luck!

Answer 8

You shouldn't feel that its bad luck. Sure they aren't how you hoped them to be, but at least they are there. Be greatful that you have them. I understand alot about handicapps and ur lucky that they have made it through alive. My older brother has a couple different handicapps and he has them bad. And even though it effects my life in many ways, I dont say "why did this happen to me." Its is a mircale that he is still alive. So instead of looking at the down side, just be happy that you have them and stop complaining so much. O and stop having kids.

Answer 9

Let me say How sorry I am that life has thrown all this at you.I have problems with anxiety and depression and my son developed all manner of psychological problems.I am not suggesting you have got difficulties perhaps you have perhaps not.The ADHD can be helped with diet and drugs,the little girl can be given hormones to hold back puberty.I have seen children with a flat head have a helmet to wear which evens it out.I hope you have got help.The world is full of unlucky folk at least they do not have one of those diseases that the child does not develop properly and dies

Answer 10

Why is this "bad luck"? This is just how they came out. Are you doing something during your pregnancies that would directly cause these results? A good chunk of that sounds genetic, and I'm sorry to say, it's a good thing to ask about your significant other's family background to see what sorts of genetic problems you're likely to run into. This is only a problem if you make it one. If you take it in stride and just accept your children for who they are, and take their needs into consideration, it's just life. You need to change your outlook on this.