I'm intensely jealous that a girl from my past has loads of new friends but never contacts me. I obsessively look at her facebook profile to see how many new friends she has listed, and I look at messages she has sent and recieved, and she seems to be friendlier and is having much more fun with these people, than she ever did with me. I think that's why I am a loner; I think that people don't find me interesting enough. Anyone else feel jeaulosy that they are not the centre of attention?
2007-09-20 09:54:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
letterstoheather- Yes that's right, I was hurt by this girl and I suppose I can't let go of bitter feelings.
2007-09-21 06:06:06 · update #1
surreal- I do have hobbies and I work but when I look on the websites I get the feelings creeping in again.
2007-09-21 06:07:44 · update #2
Kat- I can't help being a loner. She did the running to me anyway. There's no way I could do the running to a girl because I am shy.
2007-09-21 06:09:30 · update #3
twinklignstarlight- I find people tiring, and I actually have little desire to find friends. I have a few hobbies but they are stuff I do on my own.
2007-09-21 06:11:49 · update #4
Oh my gosh!
I went through a phase with someone just like that!
This friend of mine, I told him everything. But obviously he didn't like the friendship and blocked me off msn. So I'd check all his websites and profiles all the time.
I went through that for about a year.
I basically forced myself to stop looking at his pages, not instantly but slowly cutting back, eg 10 views a day, then 9 etc.
I also somehow managed to find new friends. I started talking to my friends on myspace that I hadn't talked to before (with you it can be facebook or whatever you use). Then I'd gradually build up a friendship.
Personally, I also hate friendships. I don't have time for them but I feel so alone without them. It's like an extreme introvert that has an extravert voice in their head. But I just put up with it anyway.
To me you sound very interesting and clever. Perhaps you have a special interest, for example photography or ICT, it could be anything. Or just a fan of a band. Go on forums about your chosen topic and get yourself known on there. For some reason written socialising is a lot less tiring that spoken socialising. Eventually you'll be liked and known.
Following my advice will have distracted you, you would have new friends and you won't obsess over this person.
And if things are really bad, you could always try messaging me :)
Best of luck!
2007-09-20 10:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by Blank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone feels this way at one point or another. I know I have, even recently, but realized that it comes from a phase in which I was having low a bit of low self esteem. I am also a loner and do notice my friends and how they interact with others but. I think that you have yet to realize that people change and grow apart and you are having a hard time dealing with that to the point where you are obsessed in seeing how she's doing when obviously she is way over it.
You can't let go and keep holding on to these feelings and are a jealous that she is having a good time since having dealt with it and moved on while you are unhappy.
I think you should just leave it alone. There is nothing else to do. Find new people to talk to or get a hobby. Don't pay too much attention to what others do. Just because someone seems happy and seems to have a lot of friends doesn't necessarily mean they are and make them better than you.
Do your own thing.
Be happy.
2007-09-20 10:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by Surreal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel like you do but, you don't know if people find you interesting unless you are around them. You need to get over your obsession with the girl. You are torturing yourself and pretty much stalking her. It isn't your business who she talks too. You say she hasn't contacted you so that says she isn't interested anymore (sorry don't mean to sound rude) Go find new friends you are young don't be a loner that's no fun, you'll end up depressed and that's no fun (been there) so get out there and have some fun!!!
2007-09-20 10:09:54 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i follow sidereal or vedic astrology, and according to that Leo sun starts from around August 16 - September 15, and before that its Cancer, if you fall in July 21- Aug 15 Leo (according to western astrology), the reason is very clear, You are a Cancer sun according to vedic astro. But if its not the case, I've seen many Leos quite reserved and shy, the reason for that is mainly the dominance of earth and water elements, like in yours, which are not very outgoing or extrovert signs, compared to Leo. Hope it helped :)
2016-05-19 04:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this girl hurt you in the past, and you haven't let go of the pain you felt back then?
Perhaps this is the reason you keep comparing yourself to her.
I think the best thing you can do is to be happy with yourself, and stop comparing you to her.. you are two entirely different people.
If we spend our time being productive, making OURSELVES happy on the inside, taking pride in our accomplishments, setting small goals, we are doing what is important.
Happiness comes from within ourselves, not from facebook...
hugs
2007-09-20 10:01:51 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop living in the past. Let her go and get on with your own life. If you find that difficult you may need professional help.
2007-09-20 10:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by coffee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say alot of people (myself included) feel the same way. I'm not saying I want all of your attention, but an equal amount would be nice. lol
2007-09-21 02:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋