What is the difference between admiting and accepting something?

Question

I really need to change in my life. I seam to have a bif anger issue for no reason at all or for very small things. I always have a chip on my shoulder. I take it out on every one close to me and a result of this has been that a lot of people now what nothing to do with me. I really want to have a relationship with these people like I had before but it seams that it will never happen. now then if I were to guess it all started when my family broke up which at first was just depression but later turned into this anger that now I can't seam to turn off. I really want some advice as to how to correct this I know there are options of counseling and anger management etc... , but is there anything that I can do for myself. Its not just a matter of wanting to do it b/c that just doesnt work even though I do want it. Is there any good books or web sites or tapes that could be advised. I want a fresh start so bad this crap is ruining my life. Please show me the way to a new begining.

Answer 1

do a Yahoo search on

ANGER MANAGEMENT SELF-HELP

ANGER ISSUES SELF HELP

Try a therapist... it's taken you all these years to become angry and to act out, it's going to take a while to learn good, solid coping skills.

One thing i've done to avoid saying stupid things to other people is this:

SOMEONE SAYS SOMETHING STUPID OR DOES SOMETHING STUPID

I STOP

I COUNT TO 20 IN MY MIND

20 SECONDS GIVES ME TIME TO DECIDE WHETHER TO GIVE A REASONABLE OR RESPECTFUL ANSWER OR KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT.

try it... it takes work, but is very helpful.

Answer 2

admitting is to let a person come into your room
or into your life