What does he mean by emotionally overwhelmed and can't deal with anything deep?

Question

I was seeing this guy for a couple of months, then he magically disappeared. Then a couple of weeks later, he literally asked me if I just wanted to enjoy each other's company and have some fun (basically wanted sex). I have feelings for him, and don't think he does for me, or just simply doesn't show it. We were talking online and he just said he was emotionally overwhelmed and didn't want to talk about anything deep, saying he couldn't deal with that stuff right now. I just told him that I don't think it would work with us and that was that. What would he have meant with what he said- emotionally overwhelmed? couldn't deal with anything deep? To me, it just simply seemed like he wasn't ready for a relationship or just didn't want one, or not with me. Sound right?

Answer 1

Yep usually a nice way of saying I like you but I don't want to think about you. A cope-out your right, this is standard for most people, next time keep it deep, which is the way relationships are met to be espacially if you out of highschool, don't let the sheep fool you, your smart enough to see better, which means you deserve better. Also just so you know love isn't enough its how you love, and friends can make great lovers, but lovers rarly make great friends.....

Answer 2

I have been in a similar situation, and I did not want to talk to him because I was angry, hurt, and frustrated. Unfortunately, your ex may have already moved on. I would ask her when you meet for coffee if she still has any feelings for you and if she will ever give you another chance. Promise her that if she says no, you will stop pursuing her forever. In my case, my boyfriend presented me with that same ultimatum, and I realized that I was not ready to give him up.. but, we had been together for a lot longer at the time (2 years). The fact that she told you she loved you makes me feel she may still care about you, but you can't know until you ask. Good luck.