I have always dreamed of having a big family, mostly from adoptions . I have two children,but I want more. The problem is that my apartment isn't big enough. There has to 200 square feet for each person. My apartment just isn't that big. Now my question is , is there any programs out there that will help me get a bigger place. There are so many children out there that need a family. If needed I can prove this is true.
2007-09-20 09:31:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I hate adoption! My brother's were adopted and now I can never see them again. I was told only the adopted parents can have a say if I can hear from them. I really hope your a good mother cause it sure would make me feel better about adopted parents.
2007-09-20 09:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by Tara Elaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say kudos to you! I work at a place for troubled youth and you are right. There are so many children who need families. I would suggest going to an adoption agency and asking them. They would know all about special grants and such. Some people are paid to foster and some aren't you would have to ask about that as well. Some people are volunteers. I hope it works out for you.
2007-09-20 10:31:13 · answer #2 · answered by debepta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I may I would like to heed some warning. My husband and I, my husbands parents and some other very willing participants own a boys ranch. This is where boys that are unadoptable are permenantly placed here (which most foster care is not permenant.) until they age out at 18 or 21. (depending on the emotional status of the child) We work with them, home school them (since they can't function in a public school) and teach them trades. We also work with famalies who are having troubles with their adopted or biological kids. We have seen all aspects of the foster care and adoption systems. Having experienced first hand what these kids (even as young as 3 and 4) have gone through to have ended up in the system is horrific!!! Some are more horrific than others, but what they go through just being in the system really hurts them emotionally. When the kids even as young as age 3 have been emotionally deprived or injured in such ways they tend to eventually, when younger, and much quicker when older to start acting out in major behavioral ways.
My husband and I have 3 kids and we do not take any other kids into our home from the system for that very reason. It doesn't matter if they are girls or boys, if they have ever been sexually abused at any point in time in their life the chance of them acting out towards someone with less power...like your kids...is very very likely. Being able to know this for sure is not gauranteed to be in their file either. In fact one of our boys was 12 when we got him (we meaning the ranch...my husbands parents are the house parents) and there was no sexual abuse recorded in his file. He started acting out sexually towards others, this is not uncommon for kids who have been through major trauma in their life, just not as common as someone who has been through it. So we started digging and found that there was sexual abuse in his past just not recorded by the state.
So I guess I would totally encourage you to follow your dream but I would encourage you to take kids who are infants for the sake of your children. In the 2,3 and even a little older you will start to notice aggressive behaviors that if you have little kids of your own can hurt them physically.
Please understand that they are not bad kids...just really hurting!!! But it's not worth making your kids hurting due to helping other kids who are hurting. I would suggest doing infants until your kids are older (teens) and then feel more free to take on other kids of other ages...I would keep them 8-10 and below!
Even the eight and ten year olds can become very violant.
Also if you are to adopt we would strongly recommend only adopting infants. There are more failed adoptions than adoptions happening. Due to the fact that at a certain age kids tend to start acting out and the parent doesn't know what is happening. This is because no matter how we have raised them they are still made up of the DNA of their biological parents and no matter what they will struggle with many of the same things.
I am not trying to scare you in any way, just wanting you to really think about what it takes and the safety first and formost for your own kids. If this is something you persue good luck with it!!!!!
2007-09-20 09:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by jhg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a husband? Maybe you should work on saving some money to get a bigger place before you start bringing kids in to the picture....
2007-09-20 09:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
talk to a foster agency, they will have alot of advice and aid for you. They want people like you, and will help you achieve your goal and find a home for kids in need. Good luck!
2007-09-20 09:35:04 · answer #5 · answered by parental unit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should adopt so you should get a bigger apartment
2007-09-20 09:42:01 · answer #6 · answered by Lizzie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are you ?
2007-09-20 09:34:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋