Are there any psychologists/counsellors here? I've always thought that listening to a lot of other peoples problems everyday would give you a negative outlook on life... Is this true of yourself?
2007-09-20 08:32:06 · 10 answers · asked by smr 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You ask a really good question. I'm a psychotherapist, and I know that if I hadn't been required to be in therapy throughout my course, I would find it extremely difficult to work with people with often very deep and complex problems. The great thing about doing serious therapeutic work on yourself (I had been in therapy before I started my training, and did 14 years in all) is that you get to know all the difficult, hidden, crazy parts of yourself and they are no longer so frightening or despair-provoking.
Having said that, it's true that there are times when I feel I'm failing a particular client, when they have been seeing me for a long time and I can't see where it's going. That can feel really bad - which is why supervision is so important. Seeing my supervisor, telling them all that is going on for me in the work, often helps me see what is really going on in the client, and this provides me with the insight I need to get the therapy moving.
It's also true that I take great care to look after myself, do the things I know make me feel good, see friends, have a laugh etc.
But the truth is that it is inspirational to see how people grapple with their problems, begin to get real with themselves and others, find solutions, face the things they've never dared look at - and so, far from giving me a negative outlook on life, I think it has made me feel a strong, positive, loving admiration for humanity as a whole. It can get difficult to see the black-and-white view that so many people have (I rarely think anyone is totally evil, for example - I tend to assume that if they were sat in the chair in front of me in the consulting room, I'd begin to understand the hurts and misery of their inner world, though of course the difficulty is that some people can't let themselves know there is anything wrong and do truly terrible things).
I think my view of the world has become simpler, too - I can't see any point at all in celebrity, flash cars and clothes (which isn't to say I can't enjoy those things, but not as a competitive sport!), don't much care what people think of me, and value simple things like friendship, an enjoyable meal, a walk on my own or with a friend, the delight of a child in the park. All this and so much more has resulted from the great privilege of being able to share people's inner world and support them on their psychological journeys.
2007-09-20 08:51:10 · answer #1 · answered by Ambi valent 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I get asked this a lot by my clients. Short answer is no - when listening therapeutically talking therapists are trained to listen, think, and understand from a different perspective - to help from the outside and see a path through. You can think of it a bit like the client is in a maze but the therapist has an aerial view so it's easier to see a way out.
2007-09-20 09:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 02:11:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I actually am a possitive person by nature and when I worked in hospitals i loved my job found it very rewarding and left it at work when i come home.
The downside is that you can't always see your own personal problems as it is to close emotional so you have to try and step outside the box.
2007-09-20 08:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by momof3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have quite a lot of experience with counselors/therapists, because i was a client off and on for years...
I have noticed that therapists are usually very helpful and offer good advice and direction... and i do believe they entered the field to help others...
I also think many of them have "issues" which led them to their career choice, to begin with.
it's likely helpful for them to help others...
I am sure they hear a lot of sadness in their job. But i don't believe it leads them to live a depressed life, no.
2007-09-20 09:34:49 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently it is, as psychologists and psychiatrists have very high suicide rates, compared with those in other professions. I could never be a shrink.
2007-09-20 09:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by Skepticat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listening to other people's problems helps to keep me sane. It shows me that my own problems are not unique to me - I am just like other people. And helping someone else solve their problem is very motivating.
2007-09-20 08:41:23 · answer #7 · answered by Always Hopeful 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not, some people like hearing about other peoples problems, it makes them feel so much better about their own lives.
2007-09-20 08:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would probably be quite rewarding knowing you're helping people cope..
2007-09-20 08:39:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the money they earn, i doubt it! personally id stick the ipod in one ear and look interested
2007-09-20 08:41:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋